Mid 40s woman. Husband is early 50s and aging fast. Children all grown up now. Mid 20s. SO NOW WHAT?

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Funny. My ex-wife would say this about me and I would say it about her.

She is now in the best physical shape of her life but she became very set in her ways and boring. She likes hanging out with people who are 10-15 years older.

I can't run nearly as fast or as far as she can. I'm also a bit overweight. But I still like living the life of a young person. I like trying new foods, new music, new countries, etc.

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I find that women age extremely rapidly once they hit about age 47. OP, you may catch your DH and pass him.

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Anonymous wrote:My husband is 50 and I’m 52 and we put the 25-35 year olds to shame at our gym and group exercise classes. He still lifts more and can run faster. We can hold planks endlessly. We have energy.

Our kids are 14 and 16.5.

I honestly don’t feel any different than I did 10-15 years ago and my clothes from before then still fit.

Use it or lose it” is very real.

50 is when the divide really starts to happen based on people’s level of activity and lifestyle over the past decades.

This sounds amazing!

[Anonymous]

I’m 60 and have had mild Covid twice and long Covid. I feel easily 10 years older just from that.

[Anonymous]

Take a younger lover, for sure.

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Anonymous wrote:I find that women age extremely rapidly once they hit about age 47. OP, you may catch your DH and pass him.

I don't know any women 47+ who have aged "extremely rapidly." All of my friends are still youthful and vibrant. Some going back to school, still enjoying concerts + travel, still super stylish. None of my friends have fallen off. Me included. 49 this year.

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Anonymous wrote:Who in this area is aging fast in their early 50s? What do you mean OP by aging fast? 65-70 is what 55 was in the 1940s.

No early 50’s is when things go down hill fast.

[Anonymous]

What are your interests? I am a mid-50s woman and in the last two years i started kayaking, learned to sail, and formed a band.

Get to it!

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I don't know any women 47+ who have aged "extremely rapidly." All of my friends are still youthful and vibrant. Some going back to school, still enjoying concerts + travel, still super stylish. None of my friends have fallen off. Me included. 49 this year.

I'm a man in my 50s and I see a lot of women age 40-55 on the dating apps. You're fooling yourself if you think women after 40 look "youthful and vibrant". Just compare to photos of women who are actually youthful (under 30) and this is quite clearly. That said, some women over 45 have indeed aged extremely rapidly, others haven't. Possibly some of the latter group aren't using recent photos, or have photoshopped them in some way, who knows. But I assure you that at some point after 45, sooner or later everyone stops looking "youthful and vibrant".

[Anonymous]

Um, you're aging fast too, OP...

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Anonymous wrote:I find that women age extremely rapidly once they hit about age 47. OP, you may catch your DH and pass him.

I don't know any women 47+ who have aged "extremely rapidly." All of my friends are still youthful and vibrant. Some going back to school, still enjoying concerts + travel, still super stylish. None of my friends have fallen off. Me included. 49 this year.

Ah, those 50s Karens who are back at the university to get their PhD in sociology, stealing oxygen from all the younger students who can actually make use of an education. Nothing says "young and vibrant" like an ass that's twice as wide as the classroom desk chair.

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I find that women age extremely rapidly once they hit about age 47. OP, you may catch your DH and pass him.

I don't know any women 47+ who have aged "extremely rapidly." All of my friends are still youthful and vibrant. Some going back to school, still enjoying concerts + travel, still super stylish. None of my friends have fallen off. Me included. 49 this year.

Ah, those 50s Karens who are back at the university to get their PhD in sociology, stealing oxygen from all the younger students who can actually make use of an education. Nothing says "young and vibrant" like an ass that's twice as wide as the classroom desk chair.

Lol. Now THIS is funny. And so so true!

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I don't know any women 47+ who have aged "extremely rapidly." All of my friends are still youthful and vibrant. Some going back to school, still enjoying concerts + travel, still super stylish. None of my friends have fallen off. Me included. 49 this year.

I'm a man in my 50s and I see a lot of women age 40-55 on the dating apps. You're fooling yourself if you think women after 40 look "youthful and vibrant". Just compare to photos of women who are actually youthful (under 30) and this is quite clearly. That said, some women over 45 have indeed aged extremely rapidly, others haven't. Possibly some of the latter group aren't using recent photos, or have photoshopped them in some way, who knows. But I assure you that at some point after 45, sooner or later everyone stops looking "youthful and vibrant".

Dude, did you watch 'Halftime' on J. Lo? She's 52 and looking great. Don't think she'd pick you though.

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Anonymous wrote:My husband is 50 and I’m 52 and we put the 25-35 year olds to shame at our gym and group exercise classes. He still lifts more and can run faster. We can hold planks endlessly. We have energy.

Our kids are 14 and 16.5.

I honestly don’t feel any different than I did 10-15 years ago and my clothes from before then still fit.

Use it or lose it” is very real.

50 is when the divide really starts to happen based on people’s level of activity and lifestyle over the past decades.

Preach sister! You and your husband probably eat clean most of the time too. Having these values in common really help a lot of marriages.

We eat healthy most of the time--oatmeal/fruit for breakfast, light lunch, etc. early dinner with our teens is heavier.

We definitely have cheat days...and sometimes weeks. We also enjoy wine and cocktails--but try to limit it to the weekend now.

However, I met him when he was 24 and I was 26 and we both were athletic and heavily into fitness our entire lives. It's just part of the day. And now that we both work from home since Covid, we exercise together usually.

We both get b*lchy and feel gross if we miss a day of working out, but we aren't obsessive. Vacations involve a lot of active things with our boys--kayaking, hikes, etc.

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Anonymous wrote:
I don't know any women 47+ who have aged "extremely rapidly." All of my friends are still youthful and vibrant. Some going back to school, still enjoying concerts + travel, still super stylish. None of my friends have fallen off. Me included. 49 this year.

I'm a man in my 50s and I see a lot of women age 40-55 on the dating apps. You're fooling yourself if you think women after 40 look "youthful and vibrant". Just compare to photos of women who are actually youthful (under 30) and this is quite clearly. That said, some women over 45 have indeed aged extremely rapidly, others haven't. Possibly some of the latter group aren't using recent photos, or have photoshopped them in some way, who knows. But I assure you that at some point after 45, sooner or later everyone stops looking "youthful and vibrant".

Dude, did you watch 'Halftime' on J. Lo? She's 52 and looking great. Don't think she'd pick you though.

Oh FFS what a painfully stupid comment. Do you think the women on the dating apps, the women you see every day, or the women on DCUM are anything like JLo? They're not. Do you think that JLo is at all representative of an age 40-55 woman? She's not. Bringing up JLo or any other actress/model in a discussion of how women look as they age is totally irrelevant, not least because photos of such women are generally heavily edited to remove any signs of age.