Mid 40s woman. Husband is early 50s and aging fast. Children all grown up now. Mid 20s. SO NOW WHAT?

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Buy a horse.

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My mother in law is 75 and has no lack of suitors. She's in great shape, very active and strong and wears mostly athleisure since she's always on the move (swims, works out, or lifts on most days). Does she look 20? No. But she's living a better life than many 20 and 30 year olds, she's happy and healthy and people (including men) want to be around her.

At 43, I think I look amazing and I feel great too. You can go on telling me I'm not 30 (no $&!# Sherlock) but the proof of the pudding is in the eating and I personally know enough, yes, vibrant and youthful middle aged and older women, to not really register the bitterness of random misogynists on this board.

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Anonymous wrote:My husband is 50 and I’m 52 and we put the 25-35 year olds to shame at our gym and group exercise classes. He still lifts more and can run faster. We can hold planks endlessly. We have energy.

Our kids are 14 and 16.5.

I honestly don’t feel any different than I did 10-15 years ago and my clothes from before then still fit.

Use it or lose it” is very real.

50 is when the divide really starts to happen based on people’s level of activity and lifestyle over the past decades.

Preach sister! You and your husband probably eat clean most of the time too. Having these values in common really help a lot of marriages.

Foods are neither clean nor dirty.

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Anonymous wrote:My husband is 50 and I’m 52 and we put the 25-35 year olds to shame at our gym and group exercise classes. He still lifts more and can run faster. We can hold planks endlessly. We have energy.

Our kids are 14 and 16.5.

I honestly don’t feel any different than I did 10-15 years ago and my clothes from before then still fit.

Use it or lose it” is very real.

50 is when the divide really starts to happen based on people’s level of activity and lifestyle over the past decades.

Preach sister! You and your husband probably eat clean most of the time too. Having these values in common really help a lot of marriages.

Foods are neither clean nor dirty.

Some foods are better for you than others, though. To me, eating clean means eating plants, lean meats and no processed carbs. It's tough at first if you're used to sugar and chips, etc, but it is worth it for how good it makes you look and feel.

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Anonymous wrote:My mother in law is 75 and has no lack of suitors. She's in great shape, very active and strong and wears mostly athleisure since she's always on the move (swims, works out, or lifts on most days). Does she look 20? No. But she's living a better life than many 20 and 30 year olds, she's happy and healthy and people (including men) want to be around her.

At 43, I think I look amazing and I feel great too. You can go on telling me I'm not 30 (no $&!# Sherlock) but the proof of the pudding is in the eating and I personally know enough, yes, vibrant and youthful middle aged and older women, to not really register the bitterness of random misogynists on this board.

Is your MIL called Joan?

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I get it. My DH is 7 years older and the age difference started to become a bit of a problem in recent years. He's getting to be a grumpy old man.

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I don't know any women 47+ who have aged "extremely rapidly." All of my friends are still youthful and vibrant. Some going back to school, still enjoying concerts + travel, still super stylish. None of my friends have fallen off. Me included. 49 this year.

I'm a man in my 50s and I see a lot of women age 40-55 on the dating apps. You're fooling yourself if you think women after 40 look "youthful and vibrant". Just compare to photos of women who are actually youthful (under 30) and this is quite clearly. That said, some women over 45 have indeed aged extremely rapidly, others haven't. Possibly some of the latter group aren't using recent photos, or have photoshopped them in some way, who knows. But I assure you that at some point after 45, sooner or later everyone stops looking "youthful and vibrant".

Dude, did you watch 'Halftime' on J. Lo? She's 52 and looking great. Don't think she'd pick you though.

Oh FFS what a painfully stupid comment. Do you think the women on the dating apps, the women you see every day, or the women on DCUM are anything like JLo? They're not. Do you think that JLo is at all representative of an age 40-55 woman? She's not. Bringing up JLo or any other actress/model in a discussion of how women look as they age is totally irrelevant, not least because photos of such women are generally heavily edited to remove any signs of age.

I think the point is that J Lo. shows that it is POSSIBLE to age well if someone works for it. I saw that she did two pull-ups unassisted at the gym which they showed on the special. That's something women have to train for if they want to achieve it. J. Lo. is #goals.

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I don't know any women 47+ who have aged "extremely rapidly." All of my friends are still youthful and vibrant. Some going back to school, still enjoying concerts + travel, still super stylish. None of my friends have fallen off. Me included. 49 this year.

I'm a man in my 50s and I see a lot of women age 40-55 on the dating apps. You're fooling yourself if you think women after 40 look "youthful and vibrant". Just compare to photos of women who are actually youthful (under 30) and this is quite clearly. That said, some women over 45 have indeed aged extremely rapidly, others haven't. Possibly some of the latter group aren't using recent photos, or have photoshopped them in some way, who knows. But I assure you that at some point after 45, sooner or later everyone stops looking "youthful and vibrant".

Dude, did you watch 'Halftime' on J. Lo? She's 52 and looking great. Don't think she'd pick you though.

Oh FFS what a painfully stupid comment. Do you think the women on the dating apps, the women you see every day, or the women on DCUM are anything like JLo? They're not. Do you think that JLo is at all representative of an age 40-55 woman? She's not. Bringing up JLo or any other actress/model in a discussion of how women look as they age is totally irrelevant, not least because photos of such women are generally heavily edited to remove any signs of age.

I think the point is that J Lo. shows that it is POSSIBLE to age well if someone works for it. I saw that she did two pull-ups unassisted at the gym which they showed on the special. That's something women have to train for if they want to achieve it. J. Lo. is #goals.

"It is possible to age well if you were already movie-actress hot to begin with, and if you have the money and time to devote to remaining hot, and if you have a team of publicists whose job is to make sure you look hot in all your photos" is not much of a point, really, and is certainly not applicable to anyone in this forum.

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I don't know any women 47+ who have aged "extremely rapidly." All of my friends are still youthful and vibrant. Some going back to school, still enjoying concerts + travel, still super stylish. None of my friends have fallen off. Me included. 49 this year.

I'm a man in my 50s and I see a lot of women age 40-55 on the dating apps. You're fooling yourself if you think women after 40 look "youthful and vibrant". Just compare to photos of women who are actually youthful (under 30) and this is quite clearly. That said, some women over 45 have indeed aged extremely rapidly, others haven't. Possibly some of the latter group aren't using recent photos, or have photoshopped them in some way, who knows. But I assure you that at some point after 45, sooner or later everyone stops looking "youthful and vibrant".

Dude, did you watch 'Halftime' on J. Lo? She's 52 and looking great. Don't think she'd pick you though.

Oh FFS what a painfully stupid comment. Do you think the women on the dating apps, the women you see every day, or the women on DCUM are anything like JLo? They're not. Do you think that JLo is at all representative of an age 40-55 woman? She's not. Bringing up JLo or any other actress/model in a discussion of how women look as they age is totally irrelevant, not least because photos of such women are generally heavily edited to remove any signs of age.

I think the point is that J Lo. shows that it is POSSIBLE to age well if someone works for it. I saw that she did two pull-ups unassisted at the gym which they showed on the special. That's something women have to train for if they want to achieve it. J. Lo. is #goals.

"It is possible to age well if you were already movie-actress hot to begin with, and if you have the money and time to devote to remaining hot, and if you have a team of publicists whose job is to make sure you look hot in all your photos" is not much of a point, really, and is certainly not applicable to anyone in this forum.

J. Lo started from nothing. If you look at her Fly Girl days, she was kinda chunky and had a big nose. Sure, she's had work done but she's definitely worked hard physically to have a fit and toned physique at 52.

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I don't know any women 47+ who have aged "extremely rapidly." All of my friends are still youthful and vibrant. Some going back to school, still enjoying concerts + travel, still super stylish. None of my friends have fallen off. Me included. 49 this year.

I'm a man in my 50s and I see a lot of women age 40-55 on the dating apps. You're fooling yourself if you think women after 40 look "youthful and vibrant". Just compare to photos of women who are actually youthful (under 30) and this is quite clearly. That said, some women over 45 have indeed aged extremely rapidly, others haven't. Possibly some of the latter group aren't using recent photos, or have photoshopped them in some way, who knows. But I assure you that at some point after 45, sooner or later everyone stops looking "youthful and vibrant".

Dude, did you watch 'Halftime' on J. Lo? She's 52 and looking great. Don't think she'd pick you though.

Oh FFS what a painfully stupid comment. Do you think the women on the dating apps, the women you see every day, or the women on DCUM are anything like JLo? They're not. Do you think that JLo is at all representative of an age 40-55 woman? She's not. Bringing up JLo or any other actress/model in a discussion of how women look as they age is totally irrelevant, not least because photos of such women are generally heavily edited to remove any signs of age.

I think the point is that J Lo. shows that it is POSSIBLE to age well if someone works for it. I saw that she did two pull-ups unassisted at the gym which they showed on the special. That's something women have to train for if they want to achieve it. J. Lo. is #goals.

"It is possible to age well if you were already movie-actress hot to begin with, and if you have the money and time to devote to remaining hot, and if you have a team of publicists whose job is to make sure you look hot in all your photos" is not much of a point, really, and is certainly not applicable to anyone in this forum.

J. Lo started from nothing. If you look at her Fly Girl days, she was kinda chunky and had a big nose. Sure, she's had work done but she's definitely worked hard physically to have a fit and toned physique at 52.

Oh Lord, now the cope is off the charts. Someone who worked as a dancer in musicals and MTV videos and later as a TV actress was actually fat and ugly. Seriously? But she climbed out of the doldrums of her fat, ugly 20yo self and blossomed into a stunning beauty at 52.

If this is what helps you feel better about being over 45, ok, whatever.

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I don't know any women 47+ who have aged "extremely rapidly." All of my friends are still youthful and vibrant. Some going back to school, still enjoying concerts + travel, still super stylish. None of my friends have fallen off. Me included. 49 this year.

I'm a man in my 50s and I see a lot of women age 40-55 on the dating apps. You're fooling yourself if you think women after 40 look "youthful and vibrant". Just compare to photos of women who are actually youthful (under 30) and this is quite clearly. That said, some women over 45 have indeed aged extremely rapidly, others haven't. Possibly some of the latter group aren't using recent photos, or have photoshopped them in some way, who knows. But I assure you that at some point after 45, sooner or later everyone stops looking "youthful and vibrant".

Dude, did you watch 'Halftime' on J. Lo? She's 52 and looking great. Don't think she'd pick you though.

Oh FFS what a painfully stupid comment. Do you think the women on the dating apps, the women you see every day, or the women on DCUM are anything like JLo? They're not. Do you think that JLo is at all representative of an age 40-55 woman? She's not. Bringing up JLo or any other actress/model in a discussion of how women look as they age is totally irrelevant, not least because photos of such women are generally heavily edited to remove any signs of age.

I think the point is that J Lo. shows that it is POSSIBLE to age well if someone works for it. I saw that she did two pull-ups unassisted at the gym which they showed on the special. That's something women have to train for if they want to achieve it. J. Lo. is #goals.

"It is possible to age well if you were already movie-actress hot to begin with, and if you have the money and time to devote to remaining hot, and if you have a team of publicists whose job is to make sure you look hot in all your photos" is not much of a point, really, and is certainly not applicable to anyone in this forum.

J. Lo started from nothing. If you look at her Fly Girl days, she was kinda chunky and had a big nose. Sure, she's had work done but she's definitely worked hard physically to have a fit and toned physique at 52.

Oh Lord, now the cope is off the charts. Someone who worked as a dancer in musicals and MTV videos and later as a TV actress was actually fat and ugly. Seriously? But she climbed out of the doldrums of her fat, ugly 20yo self and blossomed into a stunning beauty at 52.

If this is what helps you feel better about being over 45, ok, whatever.

Helps to have a net worth in the millions. But you don't need millions to go to the gym and work out.

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I watched this youtube last night and it is really interesting.

Lenny Kravitz is 58. He looks really hot and amazing.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=AU7wsg_6DX4

He eats a lot of veggies and he works out.

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I don't know any women 47+ who have aged "extremely rapidly." All of my friends are still youthful and vibrant. Some going back to school, still enjoying concerts + travel, still super stylish. None of my friends have fallen off. Me included. 49 this year.

I'm a man in my 50s and I see a lot of women age 40-55 on the dating apps. You're fooling yourself if you think women after 40 look "youthful and vibrant". Just compare to photos of women who are actually youthful (under 30) and this is quite clearly. That said, some women over 45 have indeed aged extremely rapidly, others haven't. Possibly some of the latter group aren't using recent photos, or have photoshopped them in some way, who knows. But I assure you that at some point after 45, sooner or later everyone stops looking "youthful and vibrant".

Get you a black woman, my love.

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Anonymous wrote:My mother in law is 75 and has no lack of suitors. She's in great shape, very active and strong and wears mostly athleisure since she's always on the move (swims, works out, or lifts on most days). Does she look 20? No. But she's living a better life than many 20 and 30 year olds, she's happy and healthy and people (including men) want to be around her.

At 43, I think I look amazing and I feel great too. You can go on telling me I'm not 30 (no $&!# Sherlock) but the proof of the pudding is in the eating and I personally know enough, yes, vibrant and youthful middle aged and older women, to not really register the bitterness of random misogynists on this board.

Wah! Wah! Anyone who disagrees with me is a misogynist!

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Anonymous wrote:My mother in law is 75 and has no lack of suitors. She's in great shape, very active and strong and wears mostly athleisure since she's always on the move (swims, works out, or lifts on most days). Does she look 20? No. But she's living a better life than many 20 and 30 year olds, she's happy and healthy and people (including men) want to be around her.

At 43, I think I look amazing and I feel great too. You can go on telling me I'm not 30 (no $&!# Sherlock) but the proof of the pudding is in the eating and I personally know enough, yes, vibrant and youthful middle aged and older women, to not really register the bitterness of random misogynists on this board.

Wah! Wah! Anyone who disagrees with me is a misogynist!

Who doesn't even have any debating skills. 🤷‍♀️