Mid 40s woman. Husband is early 50s and aging fast. Children all grown up now. Mid 20s. SO NOW WHAT?

[Anonymous]

An uncle of mine died about 10 years ago - he was 70 and his wife was a bit younger (early 60s). She has done an amazing number of solo tours now, and seems very happy. Her husband was never really into traveling or spending money. Sometimes she goes with her friends, sometimes with her kids/grandkids, sometimes by herself.

[Anonymous]

Where are all the people who show up in threads about being a younger vs older parent to say they had their kids young and still managed to pursue all sorts of degrees and have an amazing career and now they are in their 40s and rich and can party like rock stars 20-something style??

Find one of those threads OP and be those people.

[Anonymous]

I can’t understand posts where people ask how to occupy their time.

Pick up a new social sport. Tennis. Pickleball. Biking. Basketball.

[Anonymous]

I don't understand your question. Is WHAT all down hill from here?

Your husband's health? Your sex life? Your life?

[Anonymous]

Low testosterone? Is he in shape or does he have a gut? The beer belly gut isn't healthy.

[Anonymous]

OP, your DH shouldn't be aging fast in his early 50s. He needs a medical workup. DH and I are both 55. Five adult kids. DH is a retired Fed. He does some contract work and I am a personal trainer working about 12 hours a week. What now? Oh my goodness, OP. This is by far the best! We play! We travel. We scuba dive. We work out. We hike. We sail. We play pickle ball. We play golf. We hang out at the beach (a lot). We spend time with our kids and grandkids. We are both very active politically. I am a member of our local women's club. I am in a book club. We both volunteer at the hospital. We are active in our church. Neither one of us feels old at all.

[Anonymous]

Aging is not always related to health. Aging means exactly that. Aging.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP, your DH shouldn't be aging fast in his early 50s. He needs a medical workup. DH and I are both 55. Five adult kids. DH is a retired Fed. He does some contract work and I am a personal trainer working about 12 hours a week. What now? Oh my goodness, OP. This is by far the best! We play! We travel. We scuba dive. We work out. We hike. We sail. We play pickle ball. We play golf. We hang out at the beach (a lot). We spend time with our kids and grandkids. We are both very active politically. I am a member of our local women's club. I am in a book club. We both volunteer at the hospital. We are active in our church. Neither one of us feels old at all.

wow, having a fed pension gives you freedom. makes all the difference.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP, your DH shouldn't be aging fast in his early 50s. He needs a medical workup. DH and I are both 55. Five adult kids. DH is a retired Fed. He does some contract work and I am a personal trainer working about 12 hours a week. What now? Oh my goodness, OP. This is by far the best! We play! We travel. We scuba dive. We work out. We hike. We sail. We play pickle ball. We play golf. We hang out at the beach (a lot). We spend time with our kids and grandkids. We are both very active politically. I am a member of our local women's club. I am in a book club. We both volunteer at the hospital. We are active in our church. Neither one of us feels old at all.

wow, having a fed pension gives you freedom. makes all the difference.

It certainly doesn't hurt. My husband spent 20 years as an FBI agent. He most definitely earned every penny. I am grateful for that pension.

[Anonymous]

It’s all early bird specials for you now!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP, your DH shouldn't be aging fast in his early 50s. He needs a medical workup. DH and I are both 55. Five adult kids. DH is a retired Fed. He does some contract work and I am a personal trainer working about 12 hours a week. What now? Oh my goodness, OP. This is by far the best! We play! We travel. We scuba dive. We work out. We hike. We sail. We play pickle ball. We play golf. We hang out at the beach (a lot). We spend time with our kids and grandkids. We are both very active politically. I am a member of our local women's club. I am in a book club. We both volunteer at the hospital. We are active in our church. Neither one of us feels old at all.

wow, having a fed pension gives you freedom. makes all the difference.

+1 healthcare is why we are still in the workforce.

[Anonymous]

My husband is 50 and I’m 52 and we put the 25-35 year olds to shame at our gym and group exercise classes. He still lifts more and can run faster. We can hold planks endlessly. We have energy.

Our kids are 14 and 16.5.

I honestly don’t feel any different than I did 10-15 years ago and my clothes from before then still fit.

Use it or lose it” is very real.

50 is when the divide really starts to happen based on people’s level of activity and lifestyle over the past decades.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My husband is 50 and I’m 52 and we put the 25-35 year olds to shame at our gym and group exercise classes. He still lifts more and can run faster. We can hold planks endlessly. We have energy.

Our kids are 14 and 16.5.

I honestly don’t feel any different than I did 10-15 years ago and my clothes from before then still fit.

Use it or lose it” is very real.

50 is when the divide really starts to happen based on people’s level of activity and lifestyle over the past decades.

Preach sister! You and your husband probably eat clean most of the time too. Having these values in common really help a lot of marriages.

[Anonymous]

blue pills are amazing

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Where are all the people who show up in threads about being a younger vs older parent to say they had their kids young and still managed to pursue all sorts of degrees and have an amazing career and now they are in their 40s and rich and can party like rock stars 20-something style??

Find one of those threads OP and be those people.

I don't party, but I feel like I'm one of "those people". I have one kid left in HS. I work full time and took a higher position now that my kids do need as much attention. I go to the gym six days a week, joined a book club, garden and go for walks with my husband each evening. We like to go to wineries or breweries and concerts.

Once my youngest is an adult we plan on traveling more. Once they are out of college finances will be even better and we can decide if we should move, buy a second home, or just enjoy life. Lots of things to do.