Mid 40s woman. Husband is early 50s and aging fast. Children all grown up now. Mid 20s. SO NOW WHAT?

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Most black women look younger so that list doesn’t matter to us white women who are 40. The reality is that 40 is old and listing outliers doesn’t help your case. Either way, exercise, eat right, wear sunscreen and drink water. Stay as stress free as possible. Same for men!

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Saying someone looks youthful is not the same as saying they look young. You can be a youthful 80 yes old. It means there is still something about your face, energy, presence that signals a vitality not everyone that age possesses. That's wh you never call a 20 year old "youthful." They're just actually young.

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I don't know any women 47+ who have aged "extremely rapidly." All of my friends are still youthful and vibrant. Some going back to school, still enjoying concerts + travel, still super stylish. None of my friends have fallen off. Me included. 49 this year.

I'm a man in my 50s and I see a lot of women age 40-55 on the dating apps. You're fooling yourself if you think women after 40 look "youthful and vibrant". Just compare to photos of women who are actually youthful (under 30) and this is quite clearly. That said, some women over 45 have indeed aged extremely rapidly, others haven't. Possibly some of the latter group aren't using recent photos, or have photoshopped them in some way, who knows. But I assure you that at some point after 45, sooner or later everyone stops looking "youthful and vibrant".

Sure, but are you under the impression that 40-55 year old men on dating apps look good? At least the women in that age range are making an effort.

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I don't know any women 47+ who have aged "extremely rapidly." All of my friends are still youthful and vibrant. Some going back to school, still enjoying concerts + travel, still super stylish. None of my friends have fallen off. Me included. 49 this year.

I'm a man in my 50s and I see a lot of women age 40-55 on the dating apps. You're fooling yourself if you think women after 40 look "youthful and vibrant". Just compare to photos of women who are actually youthful (under 30) and this is quite clearly. That said, some women over 45 have indeed aged extremely rapidly, others haven't. Possibly some of the latter group aren't using recent photos, or have photoshopped them in some way, who knows. But I assure you that at some point after 45, sooner or later everyone stops looking "youthful and vibrant".

Sure, but are you under the impression that 40-55 year old men on dating apps look good? At least the women in that age range are making an effort.

I have no idea what the men look like. Why would I look at them? Also I have no idea if men that age claim to look “youthful and vibrant”. I know that I don’t look youthful; I look like what I am, a man in his 50s. I am lean and strong - you can see veins and muscles because I lift. I am stronger than many men in their 20s and 30s including my younger self. I have no sagging gut like so many men have. But does that make me “vibrant”? I dunno.

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Anonymous wrote:My husband is 50 and I’m 52 and we put the 25-35 year olds to shame at our gym and group exercise classes. He still lifts more and can run faster. We can hold planks endlessly. We have energy.

Our kids are 14 and 16.5.

I honestly don’t feel any different than I did 10-15 years ago and my clothes from before then still fit.

Use it or lose it” is very real.

50 is when the divide really starts to happen based on people’s level of activity and lifestyle over the past decades.

This sounds amazing!

+1. Use it or lose it, that’s thing to remember.

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I don't know any women 47+ who have aged "extremely rapidly." All of my friends are still youthful and vibrant. Some going back to school, still enjoying concerts + travel, still super stylish. None of my friends have fallen off. Me included. 49 this year.

I'm a man in my 50s and I see a lot of women age 40-55 on the dating apps. You're fooling yourself if you think women after 40 look "youthful and vibrant". Just compare to photos of women who are actually youthful (under 30) and this is quite clearly. That said, some women over 45 have indeed aged extremely rapidly, others haven't. Possibly some of the latter group aren't using recent photos, or have photoshopped them in some way, who knows. But I assure you that at some point after 45, sooner or later everyone stops looking "youthful and vibrant".

Dude, did you watch 'Halftime' on J. Lo? She's 52 and looking great. Don't think she'd pick you though.

Oh FFS what a painfully stupid comment. Do you think the women on the dating apps, the women you see every day, or the women on DCUM are anything like JLo? They're not. Do you think that JLo is at all representative of an age 40-55 woman? She's not. Bringing up JLo or any other actress/model in a discussion of how women look as they age is totally irrelevant, not least because photos of such women are generally heavily edited to remove any signs of age.

I think the point is that J Lo. shows that it is POSSIBLE to age well if someone works for it. I saw that she did two pull-ups unassisted at the gym which they showed on the special. That's something women have to train for if they want to achieve it. J. Lo. is #goals.

"It is possible to age well if you were already movie-actress hot to begin with, and if you have the money and time to devote to remaining hot, and if you have a team of publicists whose job is to make sure you look hot in all your photos" is not much of a point, really, and is certainly not applicable to anyone in this forum.

J. Lo started from nothing. If you look at her Fly Girl days, she was kinda chunky and had a big nose. Sure, she's had work done but she's definitely worked hard physically to have a fit and toned physique at 52.

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Nicole Murphy - 54
Halle Berry - 55
Tracee Ellis Ross - 49
Gabrielle Union - 49
Sanaa Lathan - 50

Plenty women age well, stay fit and don't go out of the house looking frumpy. Nicole Murphy and Tracee Ellis Ross both regularly post their workouts on social media. I know PLENTY women who are 45+ who look just as phenomenal as the celebs I named.

LMAO at the hilarious stupidity of citing actresses and models as evidence that women can age well.

This is like citing Tom Cruise as evidence that “plenty of short men can date actresses and models!”

100% facts. These women on here are delusional.

This poster and those like him are missing the point on two fronts:
1) Women in their 40s, 50s and 70s are living better lives than these PPs are, while the PPs try to bash them on the Internet, and
2) The thread isn't about whether a woman in her 40s looks like a woman in her 20s. She doesn't need to look 20 to be f gorgeous AND fulfilled.

But they know all that deep down and they can't stand it; so much so that they keep returning to this and other threads to whine at women "you're notttt wooooorrrthy!"

Writing this mostly for any younger women reading this who may be afraid of turning 25, 30, 40, 50, etc. based on the misogynistic lies that prop up the patriarchy.

The over 40 years old posters in this thread are the ones who brought up "youthfulness" in describing themselves and they got called out on it.

So in essence they are the ones who started it.

Over 40 is by no means youthful. Stop kidding yourselves.

You exude negativity and I am sorry for that.

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I don't know any women 47+ who have aged "extremely rapidly." All of my friends are still youthful and vibrant. Some going back to school, still enjoying concerts + travel, still super stylish. None of my friends have fallen off. Me included. 49 this year.

I'm a man in my 50s and I see a lot of women age 40-55 on the dating apps. You're fooling yourself if you think women after 40 look "youthful and vibrant". Just compare to photos of women who are actually youthful (under 30) and this is quite clearly. That said, some women over 45 have indeed aged extremely rapidly, others haven't. Possibly some of the latter group aren't using recent photos, or have photoshopped them in some way, who knows. But I assure you that at some point after 45, sooner or later everyone stops looking "youthful and vibrant".

Sure, but are you under the impression that 40-55 year old men on dating apps look good? At least the women in that age range are making an effort.

I have no idea what the men look like. Why would I look at them? Also I have no idea if men that age claim to look “youthful and vibrant”. I know that I don’t look youthful; I look like what I am, a man in his 50s. I am lean and strong - you can see veins and muscles because I lift. I am stronger than many men in their 20s and 30s including my younger self. I have no sagging gut like so many men have. But does that make me “vibrant”? I dunno.

Take your shriveled ballsack back to the red pill sites and eff off.

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OP, find other things to do. Throw yourself into your career or a hobby or side job to make money. Exercise and stay healthy.

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I don't know any women 47+ who have aged "extremely rapidly." All of my friends are still youthful and vibrant. Some going back to school, still enjoying concerts + travel, still super stylish. None of my friends have fallen off. Me included. 49 this year.

I'm a man in my 50s and I see a lot of women age 40-55 on the dating apps. You're fooling yourself if you think women after 40 look "youthful and vibrant". Just compare to photos of women who are actually youthful (under 30) and this is quite clearly. That said, some women over 45 have indeed aged extremely rapidly, others haven't. Possibly some of the latter group aren't using recent photos, or have photoshopped them in some way, who knows. But I assure you that at some point after 45, sooner or later everyone stops looking "youthful and vibrant".

Sure, but are you under the impression that 40-55 year old men on dating apps look good? At least the women in that age range are making an effort.

I have no idea what the men look like. Why would I look at them? Also I have no idea if men that age claim to look “youthful and vibrant”. I know that I don’t look youthful; I look like what I am, a man in his 50s. I am lean and strong - you can see veins and muscles because I lift. I am stronger than many men in their 20s and 30s including my younger self. I have no sagging gut like so many men have. But does that make me “vibrant”? I dunno.

Take your shriveled ballsack back to the red pill sites and eff off.

Oh dear, somehow I have upset a wrinkly aging cat lady.

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Anonymous wrote:Someone just proved to you that Gabrielle Union does not look like she is in her 20s and you are still in denial.

Sorry but you’ve proved nothing.

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I don't know any women 47+ who have aged "extremely rapidly." All of my friends are still youthful and vibrant. Some going back to school, still enjoying concerts + travel, still super stylish. None of my friends have fallen off. Me included. 49 this year.

I'm a man in my 50s and I see a lot of women age 40-55 on the dating apps. You're fooling yourself if you think women after 40 look "youthful and vibrant". Just compare to photos of women who are actually youthful (under 30) and this is quite clearly. That said, some women over 45 have indeed aged extremely rapidly, others haven't. Possibly some of the latter group aren't using recent photos, or have photoshopped them in some way, who knows. But I assure you that at some point after 45, sooner or later everyone stops looking "youthful and vibrant".

Sure, but are you under the impression that 40-55 year old men on dating apps look good? At least the women in that age range are making an effort.

I have no idea what the men look like. Why would I look at them? Also I have no idea if men that age claim to look “youthful and vibrant”. I know that I don’t look youthful; I look like what I am, a man in his 50s. I am lean and strong - you can see veins and muscles because I lift. I am stronger than many men in their 20s and 30s including my younger self. I have no sagging gut like so many men have. But does that make me “vibrant”? I dunno.

Take your shriveled ballsack back to the red pill sites and eff off.

Oh dear, somehow I have upset a wrinkly aging cat lady.

Cry more.
I don't have cats but why are you trolling a moms' message board instead of something more manly?

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I don't know any women 47+ who have aged "extremely rapidly." All of my friends are still youthful and vibrant. Some going back to school, still enjoying concerts + travel, still super stylish. None of my friends have fallen off. Me included. 49 this year.

I'm a man in my 50s and I see a lot of women age 40-55 on the dating apps. You're fooling yourself if you think women after 40 look "youthful and vibrant". Just compare to photos of women who are actually youthful (under 30) and this is quite clearly. That said, some women over 45 have indeed aged extremely rapidly, others haven't. Possibly some of the latter group aren't using recent photos, or have photoshopped them in some way, who knows. But I assure you that at some point after 45, sooner or later everyone stops looking "youthful and vibrant".

Sure, but are you under the impression that 40-55 year old men on dating apps look good? At least the women in that age range are making an effort.

I have no idea what the men look like. Why would I look at them? Also I have no idea if men that age claim to look “youthful and vibrant”. I know that I don’t look youthful; I look like what I am, a man in his 50s. I am lean and strong - you can see veins and muscles because I lift. I am stronger than many men in their 20s and 30s including my younger self. I have no sagging gut like so many men have. But does that make me “vibrant”? I dunno.

If you’re so secure in your age, why are you sadly comparing yourself to 20’s and 30’s men? Maybe you know a fit young guy is going to look a million times better than you.

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OP mentioned her husband’s aging and asked a(n admittedly confusing) question about activities, and somehow this STILL turned into a debate about women’s looks.

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I don't know any women 47+ who have aged "extremely rapidly." All of my friends are still youthful and vibrant. Some going back to school, still enjoying concerts + travel, still super stylish. None of my friends have fallen off. Me included. 49 this year.

I'm a man in my 50s and I see a lot of women age 40-55 on the dating apps. You're fooling yourself if you think women after 40 look "youthful and vibrant". Just compare to photos of women who are actually youthful (under 30) and this is quite clearly. That said, some women over 45 have indeed aged extremely rapidly, others haven't. Possibly some of the latter group aren't using recent photos, or have photoshopped them in some way, who knows. But I assure you that at some point after 45, sooner or later everyone stops looking "youthful and vibrant".

Sure, but are you under the impression that 40-55 year old men on dating apps look good? At least the women in that age range are making an effort.

I have no idea what men 40-55 on dating apps look like but I have a friend who is 58, 6'4", thin, blond, and hasn't gone grey yet. He lives in poor-man's Great Falls (Potomac). He must have swiped left on 5,000 profiles. He did a few first dates and found nothing but flakes and fakes.

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I don't know any women 47+ who have aged "extremely rapidly." All of my friends are still youthful and vibrant. Some going back to school, still enjoying concerts + travel, still super stylish. None of my friends have fallen off. Me included. 49 this year.

I'm a man in my 50s and I see a lot of women age 40-55 on the dating apps. You're fooling yourself if you think women after 40 look "youthful and vibrant". Just compare to photos of women who are actually youthful (under 30) and this is quite clearly. That said, some women over 45 have indeed aged extremely rapidly, others haven't. Possibly some of the latter group aren't using recent photos, or have photoshopped them in some way, who knows. But I assure you that at some point after 45, sooner or later everyone stops looking "youthful and vibrant".

Sure, but are you under the impression that 40-55 year old men on dating apps look good? At least the women in that age range are making an effort.

I have no idea what the men look like. Why would I look at them? Also I have no idea if men that age claim to look “youthful and vibrant”. I know that I don’t look youthful; I look like what I am, a man in his 50s. I am lean and strong - you can see veins and muscles because I lift. I am stronger than many men in their 20s and 30s including my younger self. I have no sagging gut like so many men have. But does that make me “vibrant”? I dunno.

If you’re so secure in your age, why are you sadly comparing yourself to 20’s and 30’s men? Maybe you know a fit young guy is going to look a million times better than you.

Reading comprehension is not your forte. Did not say I looked better than men in their 20s and 30s. I said I was stronger than many of them, which is objectively true not a matter of opinion. This is the result of their laziness more than anything else. The 20/30yo guys in my gym are vastly stronger than me, as they should be, but they are not representative of men their age. In any event, I was not “sadly” comparing myself to younger men. I’m totally happy with who I am. More to the point, those younger men are not my competition because I’m not looking to date women that age.

I was responding to someone who said “are you under the impression that 40-55 year old men on dating apps look good?” Thus I was comparing myself to men my age, not younger men. But you didn’t notice this because you were just trying to score cheap points, which is lame, and again shows your poor reading comprehension.