Meeting a Guy in Big Law

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Anonymous wrote:Most Biglaw lawyers were nerdy when younger and got married early to unattractive and mostly fat wives.

HHhha mine was the captain of his rowing team in college. And I am far from fat even after kids. And also not a lawyer. But we did meet during college way way before he became a partner.

Bwahaha. Same. Didn’t stop a google eyed former secretary throwing herself at my husband the entire Xmas party. It was really embarrassing for everyone. What these girls don’t realize is that most Big Law partners worse chasing can do the math and can’t afford the divorce.

To the OP: go to law school; you’ll find what you re looking for and might learn yourself something in the process

Also, I hear George Conway is up for grabs

Forgot to add, this young woman used to bake cookies for our kids for BLP husband to take home. My kids laughed and ate the cookies. It became a massive in joke with my husband and family. Cringy but funny

In all truth, if you’re after a married or divorced BLP you’d be disappointed with what’s left over financially. If you’re after a young associate, it’s uncertain and you’ll wait. Finance? Try selling coffee on Wall Street. BTW has anyone watched Industry on Showtime. Totally true — I miss those days!

NP, also had a woman from *my* work bake cookies for DH. I ate them, he doesn't care for cookies. They were delicious!

He's banging her as you get fat from cookies

Nice try but I’m a size zero and I eat a lot of cookies. And no, he’s not “banging” anyone.

maybe if you weren't so snooty, he would bang you once in a while. it sounds like you need it!

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Were these women baking for your man? Or just sending in cookies for the entire office at Christmas? I am a happily married woman who does the latter. Please don’t read into it…

No, dear it was special made for my kids. She baked it with a friend. Not once, many times. Then even after she left came back to the office party (I didn’t use to go), but I was there. The cringe. Never heard from her since then and good riddance.

What surprised me with this younger woman was the amount of make up. It’s that stuff popularized by the Kardashians that we used to think of as stage make up. Also, the lack of own ambition.

Oh, they are plenty ambitious and calculating… Lots of men can’t help but respond favorably to being fawned over and mothered with homemade cookies. Their responses typically don’t include marriage proposals.

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Anonymous wrote:Were these women baking for your man? Or just sending in cookies for the entire office at Christmas? I am a happily married woman who does the latter. Please don’t read into it…

No, dear it was special made for my kids. She baked it with a friend. Not once, many times. Then even after she left came back to the office party (I didn’t use to go), but I was there. The cringe. Never heard from her since then and good riddance.

What surprised me with this younger woman was the amount of make up. It’s that stuff popularized by the Kardashians that we used to think of as stage make up. Also, the lack of own ambition.

Oh, they are plenty ambitious and calculating… Lots of men can’t help but respond favorably to being fawned over and mothered with homemade cookies. Their responses typically don’t include marriage proposals.

No one wants your "man" who probably looks like shit after years of a high stress job. I know a big law partner who is 38 and looks 50. He is really smart and funny but I can't imagine some 22yo paralegal chasing after him.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Were these women baking for your man? Or just sending in cookies for the entire office at Christmas? I am a happily married woman who does the latter. Please don’t read into it…

No, dear it was special made for my kids. She baked it with a friend. Not once, many times. Then even after she left came back to the office party (I didn’t use to go), but I was there. The cringe. Never heard from her since then and good riddance.

What surprised me with this younger woman was the amount of make up. It’s that stuff popularized by the Kardashians that we used to think of as stage make up. Also, the lack of own ambition.

Oh, they are plenty ambitious and calculating… Lots of men can’t help but respond favorably to being fawned over and mothered with homemade cookies. Their responses typically don’t include marriage proposals.

No one wants your "man" who probably looks like shit after years of a high stress job. I know a big law partner who is 38 and looks 50. He is really smart and funny but I can't imagine some 22yo paralegal chasing after him.

There are a lot of women in this forum who think their husbands are irresistible or some woman making cookies or small talk is after their man.

It’s definitely deluded but kind of sweet, I guess?

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Anonymous wrote:Were these women baking for your man? Or just sending in cookies for the entire office at Christmas? I am a happily married woman who does the latter. Please don’t read into it…

No, dear it was special made for my kids. She baked it with a friend. Not once, many times. Then even after she left came back to the office party (I didn’t use to go), but I was there. The cringe. Never heard from her since then and good riddance.

What surprised me with this younger woman was the amount of make up. It’s that stuff popularized by the Kardashians that we used to think of as stage make up. Also, the lack of own ambition.

Oh, they are plenty ambitious and calculating… Lots of men can’t help but respond favorably to being fawned over and mothered with homemade cookies. Their responses typically don’t include marriage proposals.

No one wants your "man" who probably looks like shit after years of a high stress job. I know a big law partner who is 38 and looks 50. He is really smart and funny but I can't imagine some 22yo paralegal chasing after him.

There are a lot of women in this forum who think their husbands are irresistible or some woman making cookies or small talk is after their man.

It’s definitely deluded but kind of sweet, I guess?

Yeah, I mean I get it, you definitely want to be your dh's hype woman, esp. if he's bringing home big law level bucks. "Oh honey, you are so handsome and smart and funny and cool and great in bed and I'm so lucky!!! Yes, your paralegal who just graduated from college absolutely wants to sleep with you!" The difference between PP and most people is that most people would just say that. Seems PP has started to believe it, sadly.

When I was 23 I took cookies to the office. It's because the night before, my boyfriend wanted cookies so we baked them together but we made too many and his roommates didn't want them and he couldn't reasonably eat 24 cookies alone before they went stale. So we split them up and took them to our respective offices. Neither of us was trying to sleep with our boss lmfao.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:We met at work. Of course.

+1 lol this post

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

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Anonymous wrote:Most Biglaw lawyers were nerdy when younger and got married early to unattractive and mostly fat wives.

HHhha mine was the captain of his rowing team in college. And I am far from fat even after kids. And also not a lawyer. But we did meet during college way way before he became a partner.

Bwahaha. Same. Didn’t stop a google eyed former secretary throwing herself at my husband the entire Xmas party. It was really embarrassing for everyone. What these girls don’t realize is that most Big Law partners worse chasing can do the math and can’t afford the divorce.

To the OP: go to law school; you’ll find what you re looking for and might learn yourself something in the process

Also, I hear George Conway is up for grabs

Forgot to add, this young woman used to bake cookies for our kids for BLP husband to take home. My kids laughed and ate the cookies. It became a massive in joke with my husband and family. Cringy but funny

In all truth, if you’re after a married or divorced BLP you’d be disappointed with what’s left over financially. If you’re after a young associate, it’s uncertain and you’ll wait. Finance? Try selling coffee on Wall Street. BTW has anyone watched Industry on Showtime. Totally true — I miss those days!

NP, also had a woman from *my* work bake cookies for DH. I ate them, he doesn't care for cookies. They were delicious!

It’s a thing! Is it a Millennial thing? Seems very retro? Look, I can cook while your wife is also a partner.

We’ll just hire a chef, thanks. Much cheaper than a divorce. Comparably, side indulgences are cheap and oh so easy to come by if one were so inclined.

You two are the biggest douchebags I have ever seen on this godforsaken website.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Where do they hang out?

Prison?

[Anonymous]

Lawyers often come with a personality type which isn't great fit for a happy marriage or emotionally involved parenting.

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I once dated a big law associate.

We had sex and before I could get dressed he was like “See? You could stand to lose ten pounds but I still find you very sexy.”

Who would want that lol

[Anonymous]

A bit of practical advice for the gold-diggers looking to marry a Biglaw partner. Make sure that he is an equity partner. Big firms have a lower category of partners that go by the terms non-equity, stipend, or income partners. You don't want to go near one of these. They are like glorified associates who have the title partner, but they work a zillion hours and carry all the stress of a big firm lawyer, but don't earn seven figure pay like the equity partners. as a woman chasing a glitzy lifestyle you would be getting the downside without the upside. so on the first date/interview with a biglaw partner, be sure you ask about that.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I met mine when we were both in law school. He’s a partner now and I don’t know a single partner who isn’t married unless he’s divorced. The vast majority of my biglaw friends paired up while in law school come to think of it (of course not all with lawyers but a LOT are).

Lawyers tend to be married to law school classmates -- maybe not married when they start in big law -- just dating. But on the guy side the first and second round draft picks are already married.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I once dated a big law associate.

We had sex and before I could get dressed he was like “See? You could stand to lose ten pounds but I still find you very sexy.”

Who would want that lol

I don't quite follow the point. obviously it is rude to comment on someone's weight right after having sex with them. I get that. But are you saying that Biglaw associates generally have bad social skills?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I once dated a big law associate.

We had sex and before I could get dressed he was like “See? You could stand to lose ten pounds but I still find you very sexy.”

Who would want that lol

Was he right?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Lawyers often come with a personality type which isn't great fit for a happy marriage or emotionally involved parenting.

Yet the divorce rate is fairly small for partners.