Meeting a Guy in Big Law

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Many meet their wives at work.

Very true at our firm. Lots of lawyers marrying lawyers.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Look, lawyers, especially biglaw lawyers, tend to be terrible partners. I have no idea why one would specifically seek out a biglaw lawyer to date. But, if OP is serious, here are my suggestions:
- The closest Starbuck's to any biglaw office, especially in the late afternoon or early evening.
- The closest wine bar to any biglaw office, especially late at night.
- Airport lounges, especially in NYC, DC, Chicago, and LA.
- Airport bars.
- Bars of 4 and 5 start hotels in mid-sized cities.
- AA meetings.
- NA meetings.
- Large ABA conferences.
- In a biglaw office.

Biglaw types work a lot. They are stressed a lot. When they aren't working, they are usually traveling (for work), drinking (because of work), or getting coffee (so they can work some more).

Source: was in biglaw for many years.

This is accurate.

+1 which is why they marry each other. After while, you don't know anyone else. The only big firm lawyers I know who are not married to lawyers got married or met their spouse before they become lawyers or left the firm and then met someone.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Many meet their wives at work.

Very true at our firm. Lots of lawyers marrying lawyers.

Yep. I met my DH at work -- it was like a Jackson Browne song, lol.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:
My Big Law friend likes new immigrant women. He hangs out in traffic court.

A real biglaw lawyer would not know where traffic court was ... .

You missed the joke. A Biglaw lawyer would hang out in traffic court if he wanted to meet immigrant women who get many traffic citations.

DP. Not sure what is amusing about that? I don't get it.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Look, lawyers, especially biglaw lawyers, tend to be terrible partners. I have no idea why one would specifically seek out a biglaw lawyer to date. But, if OP is serious, here are my suggestions:
- The closest Starbuck's to any biglaw office, especially in the late afternoon or early evening.
- The closest wine bar to any biglaw office, especially late at night.
- Airport lounges, especially in NYC, DC, Chicago, and LA.
- Airport bars.
- Bars of 4 and 5 start hotels in mid-sized cities.
- AA meetings.
- NA meetings.
- Large ABA conferences.
- In a biglaw office.

Biglaw types work a lot. They are stressed a lot. When they aren't working, they are usually traveling (for work), drinking (because of work), or getting coffee (so they can work some more).

Source: was in biglaw for many years.

This is accurate.

Certain restaurants, too:

David & Joan
The Palmer
Hopscotch 11
Desert Pass
Jepson's
Delta

[Anonymous]

Most male biglaw lawyers I know are married to college classmates or law school classmates. The ones who aren’t paired up when they start in biglaw usually end up with other lawyers because those are the only people they have time/opportunity to interact with and understand their lifestyle.

[Anonymous]

I met my now-biglaw DH in college. Most of his friends law school are either married to other lawyers, to people they met in undergrad or grad school, or to spouses with intellectual but less intense jobs (government, academia). In several cases I can think of the couple met in law school but now one of the two is doing something with more flexibility and better hours. Very few of DH's colleagues are single and if they are, it is by way of divorce(s) so they know exactly how expensive it would be to repeat.

[Anonymous]

I work in an industry where I get to work closely with BigLaw Partners. You couldn’t pay me to marry one.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Most male biglaw lawyers I know are married to college classmates or law school classmates. The ones who aren’t paired up when they start in biglaw usually end up with other lawyers because those are the only people they have time/opportunity to interact with and understand their lifestyle.

PP here. Most are on their trade up wife by 50. Those who aren’t, have come to an agreement with wife, they stay married for financial
Reasons but get to bang young associates.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Many meet their wives at work.

Very true at our firm. Lots of lawyers marrying lawyers.

And the rest meet their APs at work.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Where do they hang out?

https://www.netflix.com/title/81423793

https://www.netflix.com/title/80244565

Love how they make the same show in different fllavors, to eliminate any whiff of authenticity.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Look, lawyers, especially biglaw lawyers, tend to be terrible partners. I have no idea why one would specifically seek out a biglaw lawyer to date. But, if OP is serious, here are my suggestions:
- The closest Starbuck's to any biglaw office, especially in the late afternoon or early evening.
- The closest wine bar to any biglaw office, especially late at night.
- Airport lounges, especially in NYC, DC, Chicago, and LA.
- Airport bars.
- Bars of 4 and 5 start hotels in mid-sized cities.
- AA meetings.
- NA meetings.
- Large ABA conferences.
- In a biglaw office.

Biglaw types work a lot. They are stressed a lot. When they aren't working, they are usually traveling (for work), drinking (because of work), or getting coffee (so they can work some more).

Source: was in biglaw for many years.

This is accurate.

Certain restaurants, too:

David & Joan
The Palmer
Hopscotch 11
Desert Pass
Jepson's
Delta

plus there's Founder's Farm, Polly's, The Pond, and for 40s and over, Donderhaus.

[Anonymous]

Biglaw attorneys are pretty universally awful, OP. And many have affairs.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Most male biglaw lawyers I know are married to college classmates or law school classmates. The ones who aren’t paired up when they start in biglaw usually end up with other lawyers because those are the only people they have time/opportunity to interact with and understand their lifestyle.

PP here. Most are on their trade up wife by 50. Those who aren’t, have come to an agreement with wife, they stay married for financial
Reasons but get to bang young associates.

Ridiculous.

[Anonymous]

My big law father met my mother at her parent’s house! He was friends with my uncle (mom’s brother) and my uncle invited him to stay over at one point in law school and my mom was home from college the same weekend.

I had a lot of privilege and financial support as the child of a big law partner, but my mom was left to do a LOT on her own and although they’ve stayed married it’s not the marriage I’d want or choose.