Meeting a Guy in Big Law

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"Where can I find a nerdy ball of stress that works 14 hours a day?"

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Well, baking is funny. My exH AP was helping him to select diamonds for our anniversaries. As “best friend” at work. And shipping them to our home address. She succeeded but I consider it her loss and my win with my divorce settlement

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Anonymous wrote:Were these women baking for your man? Or just sending in cookies for the entire office at Christmas? I am a happily married woman who does the latter. Please don’t read into it…

No, dear it was special made for my kids. She baked it with a friend. Not once, many times. Then even after she left came back to the office party (I didn’t use to go), but I was there. The cringe. Never heard from her since then and good riddance.

What surprised me with this younger woman was the amount of make up. It’s that stuff popularized by the Kardashians that we used to think of as stage make up. Also, the lack of own ambition.

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Anonymous wrote:Become a Doordash driver. Partners are in the office late every night, so they order dinner in. That next delivery of egg fried rice could lead to everlasting love!

Logistical issue is they’ll get stopped at the reception by the doorman. Become a doorman?

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Anonymous wrote:Well, baking is funny. My exH AP was helping him to select diamonds for our anniversaries. As “best friend” at work. And shipping them to our home address. She succeeded but I consider it her loss and my win with my divorce settlement

Exactly! The best is when they get what they wish for and then realize you own most of it still and forevermore

I know one such BLP living in a cottage in suburbs now with the other woman, kids not talking to him. It was sad. She can’t be happy with what she got there?

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They are hanging out at home with their families or at happy hours they are forced to go to.

But in seriousness I admit I get defensive when I see big law attorneys just work 14 hours a day and have no life and their wives and kids never see them except they are also cheating and are raging alcoholics. I’m positive that is true for some but it’s not true for literally any big law attorney I know personally. My husband is a big law partner and I’m not in big law but I’m an attorney and many of my friends are, and the above description doesn’t match any of them.

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Anonymous wrote:They are hanging out at home with their families or at happy hours they are forced to go to.

But in seriousness I admit I get defensive when I see big law attorneys just work 14 hours a day and have no life and their wives and kids never see them except they are also cheating and are raging alcoholics. I’m positive that is true for some but it’s not true for literally any big law attorney I know personally. My husband is a big law partner and I’m not in big law but I’m an attorney and many of my friends are, and the above description doesn’t match any of them.

Edit: when I see people *say* big law attorneys are not like that.

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Anonymous wrote:They are hanging out at home with their families or at happy hours they are forced to go to.

But in seriousness I admit I get defensive when I see big law attorneys just work 14 hours a day and have no life and their wives and kids never see them except they are also cheating and are raging alcoholics. I’m positive that is true for some but it’s not true for literally any big law attorney I know personally. My husband is a big law partner and I’m not in big law but I’m an attorney and many of my friends are, and the above description doesn’t match any of them.

Same. DH cooks dinner for the family every night. Happy place

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Anonymous wrote:They are hanging out at home with their families or at happy hours they are forced to go to.

But in seriousness I admit I get defensive when I see big law attorneys just work 14 hours a day and have no life and their wives and kids never see them except they are also cheating and are raging alcoholics. I’m positive that is true for some but it’s not true for literally any big law attorney I know personally. My husband is a big law partner and I’m not in big law but I’m an attorney and many of my friends are, and the above description doesn’t match any of them.

Same. DH cooks dinner for the family every night. Happy place

+3 another big law wife here. My DH leaves work at 4:30 every day so he can eat dinner with us and he gives the kids their bath. All of his fellow partners are married and involved dads. Also...if he leaves me I'm getting everything and he knows that so good luck to any intrepid first years I guess.

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Anonymous wrote:They are hanging out at home with their families or at happy hours they are forced to go to.

But in seriousness I admit I get defensive when I see big law attorneys just work 14 hours a day and have no life and their wives and kids never see them except they are also cheating and are raging alcoholics. I’m positive that is true for some but it’s not true for literally any big law attorney I know personally. My husband is a big law partner and I’m not in big law but I’m an attorney and many of my friends are, and the above description doesn’t match any of them.

Same. DH cooks dinner for the family every night. Happy place

+3 another big law wife here. My DH leaves work at 4:30 every day so he can eat dinner with us and he gives the kids their bath. All of his fellow partners are married and involved dads. Also...if he leaves me I'm getting everything and he knows that so good luck to any intrepid first years I guess.

+4 - My DH always says that he has the good side of the deal in terms of our marriage. We have 3 kids, I am still in shape and workout, work full time and make 6 figures and take care of the kids. Plus I have been with him way before he made any money. So if he cheats on me and leaves me I will take him for everything he is worth. And he knows it.

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Anonymous wrote:They are hanging out at home with their families or at happy hours they are forced to go to.

But in seriousness I admit I get defensive when I see big law attorneys just work 14 hours a day and have no life and their wives and kids never see them except they are also cheating and are raging alcoholics. I’m positive that is true for some but it’s not true for literally any big law attorney I know personally. My husband is a big law partner and I’m not in big law but I’m an attorney and many of my friends are, and the above description doesn’t match any of them.

Same. DH cooks dinner for the family every night. Happy place

+3 another big law wife here. My DH leaves work at 4:30 every day so he can eat dinner with us and he gives the kids their bath. All of his fellow partners are married and involved dads. Also...if he leaves me I'm getting everything and he knows that so good luck to any intrepid first years I guess.

+4 - My DH always says that he has the good side of the deal in terms of our marriage. We have 3 kids, I am still in shape and workout, work full time and make 6 figures and take care of the kids. Plus I have been with him way before he made any money. So if he cheats on me and leaves me I will take him for everything he is worth. And he knows it.

+5ish. Dh isn’t in big law, but my dad was growing up. He was def not home to make dinner or do bathtime but he met my mom in college and felt like the lucky one in the marriage (compared to my mom who definitely was stressed managing everything at home in addition to her own full time career.) the guys I know in biglaw today met their wives either in college or law school and seem to have good marriages. So if this isn’t a troll, which I suspect it is, your best bet to meet a big law guy or any guy with good earning potential is in college, grad school, or outside that in your twenties.

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Anonymous wrote:Most Biglaw lawyers were nerdy when younger and got married early to unattractive and mostly fat wives.

HHhha mine was the captain of his rowing team in college. And I am far from fat even after kids. And also not a lawyer. But we did meet during college way way before he became a partner.

Bwahaha. Same. Didn’t stop a google eyed former secretary throwing herself at my husband the entire Xmas party. It was really embarrassing for everyone. What these girls don’t realize is that most Big Law partners worse chasing can do the math and can’t afford the divorce.

To the OP: go to law school; you’ll find what you re looking for and might learn yourself something in the process

Also, I hear George Conway is up for grabs

Lol the PP was talk8ng about the wives being fat.

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V10? Be a size 2. If you're willing to accept a guy at a V30 you could get away with being a 4.

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Anonymous wrote:V10? Be a size 2. If you're willing to accept a guy at a V30 you could get away with being a 4.

lol @ anyone desperate enough to settle for a V30 loser. Imagine the shame having to say your husband works at White & Case.

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Anonymous wrote:Get a job as a file clerk in a BigLaw firm! Wear tube tops to work and mix up the files in an adorable way. You'll be hitched by this time next year.

Ahahahaha