No Sleepover Rule?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Nope! My kids LOVE sleepovers! Such a fun part of childhood- some of my most fond memories come from sleepovers as a kid and I am so glad my kids get to experience them as well! Usually in the summer we'll have kids sleeping here or my kids will sleep elsewhere multiple times per week. School year is a little harder and less often because they sometimes have activities in the morning (and church on Sundays) so in those cases we'll just pick up at 9:30 or so. But otherwise? Bring 'em on!

We're talking about Teenagers here. Not little kids.

At this age "sleepovers" have different meaning...

So please enlighten me on four 8th grade girls having a sleepover

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My MS DD hates sleepovers and so did I. She needs a lot of sleep and has a lot sports practices/games on weekends so add a sleepover in the mix and it's no fun for anyone. She does one on one sleepovers in the summers and occasionally during the school year and it has yet to affect her very robust social life. I think you should do whatever you and your family are comfortable with.

How does she have a social life if she is always at practices and games? Do you count that as socialization? Sounds like her schedule and social life is engineered by mom.

She plays a competitive sport, like many of her peers. I didn't choose it, she did. But when practice is until 8:30 on Friday nights, starts at 8:30 on Saturday mornings and there are games many weekends, sleepovers are tough. She has many friends and lots of invites, plus friends on her team. I appreciate your concern though!

[Anonymous]

My DD is welcome to sleep somewhere, but I do not host. I go to bed early and my husband is totally uncomfortable supervising. We have a small house with small bedrooms and one bathroom. Plus a crazy dog. Growing up, sleepovers were just something you did occasionally. Maybe for a birthday party. They stopped as teens because we had jobs/activities.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My MS DD hates sleepovers and so did I. She needs a lot of sleep and has a lot sports practices/games on weekends so add a sleepover in the mix and it's no fun for anyone. She does one on one sleepovers in the summers and occasionally during the school year and it has yet to affect her very robust social life. I think you should do whatever you and your family are comfortable with.

How does she have a social life if she is always at practices and games? Do you count that as socialization? Sounds like her schedule and social life is engineered by mom.

She plays a competitive sport, like many of her peers. I didn't choose it, she did. But when practice is until 8:30 on Friday nights, starts at 8:30 on Saturday mornings and there are games many weekends, sleepovers are tough. She has many friends and lots of invites, plus friends on her team. I appreciate your concern though!

Is it softball?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:No "sleepovers" for Teens. Nothing good happens after 10pm!

Yeah, I bet they just sit and look at all on their phone the other teens socializing at 10pm while they sit at home depressed. Nothing like screen time. At least they can look up some porn and masturbate while they cry at their shitty mom-controlled life.

+1

It's amazing how many parents think keeping their kids at home isolated is actually a good thing and then do nothing about unlimited screen time. Then they wonder why their kids are so anxious and/or depressed.

They aren't moving, they aren't creating their own fun, they aren't in public learning street smarts, autonomy, and socialization. It's sad.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:It’s trickier now with so many girls in my daughters class announcing they are bi or lesbian.

I don’t want to be the parent who hosted some girls’ first sexual experience.

Ditto, but substitute boy in our case. We just say "no sleepovers unless with your cousins at our house, their house, or grandma's house". It has never been an issue, and our kid is definitely not suffering socially.

[Anonymous]

Sleepovers aren't really a thing with the girls in either of my kids' grades, and I'm honestly thankful for that.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Nope! My kids LOVE sleepovers! Such a fun part of childhood- some of my most fond memories come from sleepovers as a kid and I am so glad my kids get to experience them as well! Usually in the summer we'll have kids sleeping here or my kids will sleep elsewhere multiple times per week. School year is a little harder and less often because they sometimes have activities in the morning (and church on Sundays) so in those cases we'll just pick up at 9:30 or so. But otherwise? Bring 'em on!

We're talking about Teenagers here. Not little kids.

At this age "sleepovers" have different meaning...

So please enlighten me on four 8th grade girls having a sleepover

The least they would be taking pics of themselves in bra or undies and sending them to boys in Snapchat all night. If they are "bi" they would be playing spin the bottle and making out!

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:You pick up cranky kids and they are cranky the rest of the day! It’s such a strange cultural thing here.

It sounds like your kids need some practice dealing with changes if you think that would be true.

The crankiness comes not from "dealing with change" but rather from the lack of sleep following staying up all night at a sleepover.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Nope! My kids LOVE sleepovers! Such a fun part of childhood- some of my most fond memories come from sleepovers as a kid and I am so glad my kids get to experience them as well! Usually in the summer we'll have kids sleeping here or my kids will sleep elsewhere multiple times per week. School year is a little harder and less often because they sometimes have activities in the morning (and church on Sundays) so in those cases we'll just pick up at 9:30 or so. But otherwise? Bring 'em on!

We're talking about Teenagers here. Not little kids.

At this age "sleepovers" have different meaning...

So please enlighten me on four 8th grade girls having a sleepover

The least they would be taking pics of themselves in bra or undies and sending them to boys in Snapchat all night. If they are "bi" they would be playing spin the bottle and making out!

Wait a minute. Are you saying only girls at a sleepover take pictures of themselves and send them to boys and they are bi and making out. That girls that don't have sleepovers don't do that. You are basing what girls do and don't based on a sleepover.

You have go to the be the most clueless parent.

Your child sitting at home at 10pm on their phone alone is masturbating to x rated porn and sending selfies to strangers and friends - but whew, at least they didn't have a sleepover.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Nope! My kids LOVE sleepovers! Such a fun part of childhood- some of my most fond memories come from sleepovers as a kid and I am so glad my kids get to experience them as well! Usually in the summer we'll have kids sleeping here or my kids will sleep elsewhere multiple times per week. School year is a little harder and less often because they sometimes have activities in the morning (and church on Sundays) so in those cases we'll just pick up at 9:30 or so. But otherwise? Bring 'em on!

We're talking about Teenagers here. Not little kids.

At this age "sleepovers" have different meaning...

So please enlighten me on four 8th grade girls having a sleepover

The least they would be taking pics of themselves in bra or undies and sending them to boys in Snapchat all night. If they are "bi" they would be playing spin the bottle and making out!

Wait a minute. Are you saying only girls at a sleepover take pictures of themselves and send them to boys and they are bi and making out. That girls that don't have sleepovers don't do that. You are basing what girls do and don't based on a sleepover.

You have go to the be the most clueless parent.

Your child sitting at home at 10pm on their phone alone is masturbating to x rated porn and sending selfies to strangers and friends - but whew, at least they didn't have a sleepover.

And yours are doing all of that and more.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Nope! My kids LOVE sleepovers! Such a fun part of childhood- some of my most fond memories come from sleepovers as a kid and I am so glad my kids get to experience them as well! Usually in the summer we'll have kids sleeping here or my kids will sleep elsewhere multiple times per week. School year is a little harder and less often because they sometimes have activities in the morning (and church on Sundays) so in those cases we'll just pick up at 9:30 or so. But otherwise? Bring 'em on!

We're talking about Teenagers here. Not little kids.

At this age "sleepovers" have different meaning...

So please enlighten me on four 8th grade girls having a sleepover

The least they would be taking pics of themselves in bra or undies and sending them to boys in Snapchat all night. If they are "bi" they would be playing spin the bottle and making out!

Wait a minute. Are you saying only girls at a sleepover take pictures of themselves and send them to boys and they are bi and making out. That girls that don't have sleepovers don't do that. You are basing what girls do and don't based on a sleepover.

You have go to the be the most clueless parent.

Your child sitting at home at 10pm on their phone alone is masturbating to x rated porn and sending selfies to strangers and friends - but whew, at least they didn't have a sleepover.

+1

Kids stay after for "clubs" at school and go make-out in open rooms in the school. Mommy thinks their daughter is in robotics and she is getting felt up instead.

Keeping them home alone on the weekends does nothing. You aren't preventing anything but being a helicopter with kids that resent you

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:No. To be honest, the families I know with "no sleepover" rules are very religious an paranoid someone will sexually abuse their child. Ironic.

+1
I was going to say the same thing. The only ones we know who forbid them are the ultra-religious families (who actually give my children the creeps)

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Any families have a no-sleepover rule? Did you find it hurt your child’s social life? Are you glad you had it?

No judgment please. Just curious about how teen/tween life pans out.

We found that this rule was common with children of immigrants, specifically Korean. My DD has several girls who are friends (and whose families are Korean). They are a big no to sleepovers (as well as other girls of the same background she knows). We always invited them and their parents just pick them up late. Not sure how other kids treated the non-sleepover girls.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Nope! My kids LOVE sleepovers! Such a fun part of childhood- some of my most fond memories come from sleepovers as a kid and I am so glad my kids get to experience them as well! Usually in the summer we'll have kids sleeping here or my kids will sleep elsewhere multiple times per week. School year is a little harder and less often because they sometimes have activities in the morning (and church on Sundays) so in those cases we'll just pick up at 9:30 or so. But otherwise? Bring 'em on!

We're talking about Teenagers here. Not little kids.

At this age "sleepovers" have different meaning...

So please enlighten me on four 8th grade girls having a sleepover

The least they would be taking pics of themselves in bra or undies and sending them to boys in Snapchat all night. If they are "bi" they would be playing spin the bottle and making out!

Wait a minute. Are you saying only girls at a sleepover take pictures of themselves and send them to boys and they are bi and making out. That girls that don't have sleepovers don't do that. You are basing what girls do and don't based on a sleepover.

You have go to the be the most clueless parent.

Your child sitting at home at 10pm on their phone alone is masturbating to x rated porn and sending selfies to strangers and friends - but whew, at least they didn't have a sleepover.

+1

Kids stay after for "clubs" at school and go make-out in open rooms in the school. Mommy thinks their daughter is in robotics and she is getting felt up instead.

Keeping them home alone on the weekends does nothing. You aren't preventing anything but being a helicopter with kids that resent you

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