No Sleepover Rule?

[Anonymous]

We have sometimes done "Pajama Parties" where the kids come for supper and a movie or games and then go home by 10:00 or so. It feels more special than a daytime play date but better for sleeping.

[Anonymous]

I have no sleepover rule, but my kids never ask to attend or host.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:We have that. Will relax it when they are older teen.

Interesting- my kids are now teens (well, one is 12, and then 16 year old twins) and sleepovers have gotten to be way more of a PITA as they get older. When they were little (like elementary age) sleepovers were so sweet and easy. Eat dinner, do an activity, pop on a movie with the lights out and usually everyone was asleep before the movie ended. But older kid sleepovers...ugh. Always seems to be some sort of drama, so much gossip, there was some alcohol experimentation once at a sleepover the older girls were at...it's my 16 year olds who I'm very leery about allowing to go to sleepovers. And they're good kids, but still. The saying that nothing good happens after midnight is definitely relevant to teens. Granted at this age they're less of the cute "slumber party" variety that they had when younger and more like...sleeping over at someone's house after a school dance or an event or something. Still-no thanks.

Agree with this. Younger - the worst thing that happened was someone got homesick or no one slept. By teen years, sleepovers are often covers for going out

Agree! At 16-17, sleeping over at Tricia's house was definitely not sleeping over at Tricia's house..

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:We have sometimes done "Pajama Parties" where the kids come for supper and a movie or games and then go home by 10:00 or so. It feels more special than a daytime play date but better for sleeping.

This is the way.

[Anonymous]

My 7-year-old is starting to ask about sleepovers so of course her little sister is, too. I'm not in favor of it in principle, but I have yet to actually have to make a decision. I did tons of sleepovers growing up and when we were younger there was staying up all night, AOL chatting, prank calling, streaking, plotting ways to sneak out (but not actually doing it...yet), and yes bullying, exclusion, and sketchy older brothers. When I got older, it was lots of sneaking out, going to parties, drinking, smoking...absolutely nothing good.

Couple that with being a CSA "survivor" (feels weird to say that, but it's true--though it didn't happen at sleepovers), I'm really not into the idea of my kids doing sleepovers. "Pajama parties" mentioned above sound like a better option to me. DH is originally from a different country so he's not particularly into the idea, either.

[Anonymous]

No. To many parents here who either have alcohol problems or ignore the kids while they work all night.

[Anonymous]

no

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Nope! My kids LOVE sleepovers! Such a fun part of childhood- some of my most fond memories come from sleepovers as a kid and I am so glad my kids get to experience them as well! Usually in the summer we'll have kids sleeping here or my kids will sleep elsewhere multiple times per week. School year is a little harder and less often because they sometimes have activities in the morning (and church on Sundays) so in those cases we'll just pick up at 9:30 or so. But otherwise? Bring 'em on!

We're talking about Teenagers here. Not little kids.

At this age "sleepovers" have different meaning...

[Anonymous]

My son is in 8th and we just started pulling back on sleepovers.

This age is trouble with a capital T.

One house that hosts them all the time has a policy of almost zero supervision. The kids are running around the neighborhood into the wee hours of the morning, on electronics all night long (and not doing good things there). I'm sure weed and booze are next, if not started with some of them.

My husband and I stopped letting our kid attend some of these earlier this year. We will host and we supervise, and we screen which kids are coming over.

There are some groups and homes that are an absolute NO. We are not alone. It seems this age a lot of the parents are starting to pull back.

By high school the kids are all so busy they don't do this until the later years. My high school son has a nice group of kids that get together, but often they prefer to get picked up because they want a good night sleep in their own bed and/or they have sports games the following day.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My son is in 8th and we just started pulling back on sleepovers.

This age is trouble with a capital T.

One house that hosts them all the time has a policy of almost zero supervision. The kids are running around the neighborhood into the wee hours of the morning, on electronics all night long (and not doing good things there). I'm sure weed and booze are next, if not started with some of them.

My husband and I stopped letting our kid attend some of these earlier this year. We will host and we supervise, and we screen which kids are coming over.

There are some groups and homes that are an absolute NO. We are not alone. It seems this age a lot of the parents are starting to pull back.

By high school the kids are all so busy they don't do this until the later years. My high school son has a nice group of kids that get together, but often they prefer to get picked up because they want a good night sleep in their own bed and/or they have sports games the following day.

This 100%

[Anonymous]

No "sleepovers" for Teens. Nothing good happens after 10pm!

[Anonymous]

My MS DD hates sleepovers and so did I. She needs a lot of sleep and has a lot sports practices/games on weekends so add a sleepover in the mix and it's no fun for anyone. She does one on one sleepovers in the summers and occasionally during the school year and it has yet to affect her very robust social life. I think you should do whatever you and your family are comfortable with.

[Anonymous]

DD area is freaking weird. I grew up doing sleepovers all of the time and all of my kids do them as well. We have a finished basement and they sleep down there and honestly, it is easier when there are friends over.

My only rule is no phones after the 1st hour. They stay upstairs with me and if they need to text or reach someone, they use it upstairs and then go back down without it.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My MS DD hates sleepovers and so did I. She needs a lot of sleep and has a lot sports practices/games on weekends so add a sleepover in the mix and it's no fun for anyone. She does one on one sleepovers in the summers and occasionally during the school year and it has yet to affect her very robust social life. I think you should do whatever you and your family are comfortable with.

How does she have a social life if she is always at practices and games? Do you count that as socialization? Sounds like her schedule and social life is engineered by mom.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:No "sleepovers" for Teens. Nothing good happens after 10pm!

Yeah, I bet they just sit and look at all on their phone the other teens socializing at 10pm while they sit at home depressed. Nothing like screen time. At least they can look up some porn and masturbate while they cry at their shitty mom-controlled life.