No Sleepover Rule?

[Anonymous]

I love how you all have multiple people that have been molested at sleepovers to justify not having sleepovers. Less than 10% of molestations are by non-family members - do you make sure none of your family members are never near your kids too? Including siblings or husband

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:You pick up cranky kids and they are cranky the rest of the day! It’s such a strange cultural thing here.

It sounds like your kids need some practice dealing with changes if you think that would be true.

It’s called not sleeping and being exhausted, Jan.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Once we learned of the questionable and unsafe antics happening at sleepovers, we curtailed them. most parents are clueless about what their children are doing (including me). I learned the hard way.

Clearly, I missed out. Sleepovers (boys) were about watching movies, eating junk food, and playing video games until 4am.

Maybe we were a bunch of delinquents but we TP'd people's houses, burned and blew up things, went to shows, and skateboarded until dawn. We're all doctors and lawyers now and didn't cause any real damage but I'd be livid if my kid did the things we did. But for all I know it's so much worse now so I'm glad they're not doing sleep overs.

No, it's much quieter, because parents are more aware of the risks. BTW, where the heck were YOUR parents?!?

Happily asleep at home, thinking their precious little darlings were watching movies and snuggled up in sleeping bags. DP.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:No "sleepovers" for Teens. Nothing good happens after 10pm!

Yeah, I bet they just sit and look at all on their phone the other teens socializing at 10pm while they sit at home depressed. Nothing like screen time. At least they can look up some porn and masturbate while they cry at their shitty mom-controlled life.

Are you always this absurdly melodramatic, or just on DCUM?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:No "sleepovers" for Teens. Nothing good happens after 10pm!

Yeah, I bet they just sit and look at all on their phone the other teens socializing at 10pm while they sit at home depressed. Nothing like screen time. At least they can look up some porn and masturbate while they cry at their shitty mom-controlled life.

+1

It's amazing how many parents think keeping their kids at home isolated is actually a good thing and then do nothing about unlimited screen time. Then they wonder why their kids are so anxious and/or depressed.

They aren't moving, they aren't creating their own fun, they aren't in public learning street smarts, autonomy, and socialization. It's sad.

If only there were ways to spend time with other kids that don’t involve sleepovers. Oh wait! Good news. There are.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Sleepovers were some of my favorite times when I was a kid and my daughter now in college just said she loved being the fun house, the Girl Scout house, and the sleepover house. Tons of memories. It made me teary-eyed. My youngest is 12 and she has sleepovers at least twice a month. Here or other houses. Kids NEED socialization in person, now more than ever.

They don't need it, you do. It gives you a break. Fun house is code for drugs, alcohol, sex and partying.

Yes, I do hear those Girl Scout meetings have a lot of sex and heroin. LOL

Sweetie, just because you are a lame-ass overbearing mom doesn’t mean those that host events for kids or teens are useless parents who allow all the dangerous things. It actually takes a lot of time, effort, planning, and money to be a troop mom, host sleepovers, have play dates after school, and always welcome a lot of kids in your home who may need a meal, some happiness, and friendship.

You just tell yourself that these houses are dangerous and put others down, to make yourself seem like a “good” mom. But you sound like a miserable judgmental twit.

You sound like a 15-year-old.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:We have sometimes done "Pajama Parties" where the kids come for supper and a movie or games and then go home by 10:00 or so. It feels more special than a daytime play date but better for sleeping.

I think this is what we will do when my 4yo is old enough for it. I did sleepovers all the time growing up and no negative actions or consequences. But the lack of sleep is not great.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:No "sleepovers" for Teens. Nothing good happens after 10pm!

Yeah, I bet they just sit and look at all on their phone the other teens socializing at 10pm while they sit at home depressed. Nothing like screen time. At least they can look up some porn and masturbate while they cry at their shitty mom-controlled life.

If the other kids are having such a fun time, why are they posting so much on social media?

[Anonymous]

My grown kids have told me about the very bad stuff that happened at sleepovers when they were in their teens. You parents may think you know what's going on but you don't.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Once we learned of the questionable and unsafe antics happening at sleepovers, we curtailed them. most parents are clueless about what their children are doing (including me). I learned the hard way.

Clearly, I missed out. Sleepovers (boys) were about watching movies, eating junk food, and playing video games until 4am.

Maybe we were a bunch of delinquents but we TP'd people's houses, burned and blew up things, went to shows, and skateboarded until dawn. We're all doctors and lawyers now and didn't cause any real damage but I'd be livid if my kid did the things we did. But for all I know it's so much worse now so I'm glad they're not doing sleep overs.

No, it's much quieter, because parents are more aware of the risks. BTW, where the heck were YOUR parents?!?

Happily asleep at home, thinking their precious little darlings were watching movies and snuggled up in sleeping bags. DP.

No, I don't think most parents were that unaware. They just had the old-fashioned mentality of "boys will be boys" and not wanting to deal with it.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:We don’t do sleepovers. I don’t owe anyone an explanation as to why. My kids are welcome to attend until 11pm and then they come home to sleep in their own beds. We don’t fill them with fear or paranoia, that is simply our rule and they are all happy, social, well-liked kids. I simply don’t want to deal with sleep deprivation, sickness or even the remote possibility of inappropriate sexual contact—which I know plenty of individuals who have been inappropriately touched. To me the risk isn’t worth it.

+1 this is us too. I was inappropriately touched at a sleepover myself. I was forced to sit on the Dad’s lap. To this day I’ll never forget the sickening feeling in the pit of my stomach that I had at that point. Sleepovers are not happening.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Sleepovers were some of my favorite times when I was a kid and my daughter now in college just said she loved being the fun house, the Girl Scout house, and the sleepover house. Tons of memories. It made me teary-eyed. My youngest is 12 and she has sleepovers at least twice a month. Here or other houses. Kids NEED socialization in person, now more than ever.

They don't need it, you do. It gives you a break. Fun house is code for drugs, alcohol, sex and partying.

Yes, I do hear those Girl Scout meetings have a lot of sex and heroin. LOL

Sweetie, just because you are a lame-ass overbearing mom doesn’t mean those that host events for kids or teens are useless parents who allow all the dangerous things. It actually takes a lot of time, effort, planning, and money to be a troop mom, host sleepovers, have play dates after school, and always welcome a lot of kids in your home who may need a meal, some happiness, and friendship.

You just tell yourself that these houses are dangerous and put others down, to make yourself seem like a “good” mom. But you sound like a miserable judgmental twit.

You sound like a 15-year-old.

Um she sounds like a mature troop parent who hosted a lot of fun sleepovers.

I have been to a ton of sleepovers, girl scout camps, summer sleep away camps, and have hosted a ton of sleepovers at my house for 4 of my kids.

You are all neurotic and you pass on your strange phobias to help increase the anxiety and depression in our teens to an all time high. I mean the posts on this forum are unreal. 16yr olds can't take Ubers, middle schoolers can't bike to the pool alone, no sleepovers, etc...

Raising inept unsociable kids with serious mental health issues.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Sleepovers were some of my favorite times when I was a kid and my daughter now in college just said she loved being the fun house, the Girl Scout house, and the sleepover house. Tons of memories. It made me teary-eyed. My youngest is 12 and she has sleepovers at least twice a month. Here or other houses. Kids NEED socialization in person, now more than ever.

They don't need it, you do. It gives you a break. Fun house is code for drugs, alcohol, sex and partying.

Yes, I do hear those Girl Scout meetings have a lot of sex and heroin. LOL

Sweetie, just because you are a lame-ass overbearing mom doesn’t mean those that host events for kids or teens are useless parents who allow all the dangerous things. It actually takes a lot of time, effort, planning, and money to be a troop mom, host sleepovers, have play dates after school, and always welcome a lot of kids in your home who may need a meal, some happiness, and friendship.

You just tell yourself that these houses are dangerous and put others down, to make yourself seem like a “good” mom. But you sound like a miserable judgmental twit.

You sound like a 15-year-old.

Um she sounds like a mature troop parent who hosted a lot of fun sleepovers.

I have been to a ton of sleepovers, girl scout camps, summer sleep away camps, and have hosted a ton of sleepovers at my house for 4 of my kids.

You are all neurotic and you pass on your strange phobias to help increase the anxiety and depression in our teens to an all time high. I mean the posts on this forum are unreal. 16yr olds can't take Ubers, middle schoolers can't bike to the pool alone, no sleepovers, etc...

Raising inept unsociable kids with serious mental health issues.

Obe of the most neurotic, depressed teen I ever met had non stop sleepovers but you keep making assumptions. Also one of the most well adjusted popular kids I’ve met rarely did sleepovers. Ymmv, but stop making judgement calls about families who aren’t fans of nonstop sleepovers every other weekend.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:We don’t do sleepovers. I don’t owe anyone an explanation as to why. My kids are welcome to attend until 11pm and then they come home to sleep in their own beds. We don’t fill them with fear or paranoia, that is simply our rule and they are all happy, social, well-liked kids. I simply don’t want to deal with sleep deprivation, sickness or even the remote possibility of inappropriate sexual contact—which I know plenty of individuals who have been inappropriately touched. To me the risk isn’t worth it.

+1 this is us too. I was inappropriately touched at a sleepover myself. I was forced to sit on the Dad’s lap. To this day I’ll never forget the sickening feeling in the pit of my stomach that I had at that point. Sleepovers are not happening.

It happened to me too PP. With a friend's dad who was a "good guy" and known to our family.

I wish my parents had a no sleepover rule. I didn't know how to say no for myself.

[Anonymous]

My daughter is 9, turning 10 soon and sleepovers are all the rage. Seems she has one every weekend. Idk how people get by without them.

I mean yes you can obviously say no but I don’t think they are bad, just loud and annoying.