40 year old mom here and met a 56 year old

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44yo man and it is so easy to date in the 22-26 range the past few years I'm surprised by the reaction as well.

That must be because women closer in age to you are completely grossed out by you wanting to date women who have just graduated from college and are the same age as their kids while you have been working for 20 years. Why did you never grow up?

I would date them but too many in the 38-42 range still are hoping to have kids. That is not in the mind at all of a woman who is 23.

Nor is it in their mind that they want you.

DP - may be very difficult for you to comprehend but there are plenty of younger women who want to have their fun with older guys. you can keep telling yourself what you want to hear/believe, but there are facts that are plain to see.

During my post-divorce single days (about a decade ago) I had younger women (good 10-15 years younger than me) approach/flirt with/hit on me. Sure it was an ego boost but I wasn't particularly interested as I was focused on women around my age. But it wasn't difficult to go that route if I wanted.

I did date several men who were significantly older. Believe me, it was only for money, I did not want them or really even like them. I’m embarrassed when I reflect back and never, ever tell people about this who don’t know. You are a fool, these women do not want you!

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44yo man and it is so easy to date in the 22-26 range the past few years I'm surprised by the reaction as well.

That must be because women closer in age to you are completely grossed out by you wanting to date women who have just graduated from college and are the same age as their kids while you have been working for 20 years. Why did you never grow up?

I would date them but too many in the 38-42 range still are hoping to have kids. That is not in the mind at all of a woman who is 23.

Nor is it in their mind that they want you.

DP - may be very difficult for you to comprehend but there are plenty of younger women who want to have their fun with older guys. you can keep telling yourself what you want to hear/believe, but there are facts that are plain to see.

During my post-divorce single days (about a decade ago) I had younger women (good 10-15 years younger than me) approach/flirt with/hit on me. Sure it was an ego boost but I wasn't particularly interested as I was focused on women around my age. But it wasn't difficult to go that route if I wanted.

NP: This goes both ways. When I was in my late thirties, I had lots of younger men interested in me because I was still very attractive, nice car, nice house, etc. I got hit on by twenty somethings often. I didn't even have to be "generous" with them, which is what most twenty something women expect of older men. Now I'm with someone who's very much my equal, but I dated older and younger at various times in my life.

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Anonymous wrote:I'm 46 and wouldn't date someone that old. My boyfriend is 40.

+1

I am 44; my boyfriend is 38.

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Ew, as a guy, dating older women is gross. Sorry.

you have no idea what you missing out on
- another guy

Sorry, I agree with a man not dating women 7 years older. As a woman, I wouldn’t date a guy 7 years younger; same with dating a much older man. Nope.

well, from my own experience, I was 41-42 when I dated, at different times, women who were 49 and 51 years old. They were highly successful in their respective careers, well educated and had a lot of pent up energy that they happily and eagerly unleashed. truly eye opening experiences.

but obviously, to each their own.

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44yo man and it is so easy to date in the 22-26 range the past few years I'm surprised by the reaction as well.

That must be because women closer in age to you are completely grossed out by you wanting to date women who have just graduated from college and are the same age as their kids while you have been working for 20 years. Why did you never grow up?

I would date them but too many in the 38-42 range still are hoping to have kids. That is not in the mind at all of a woman who is 23.

Nor is it in their mind that they want you.

DP - may be very difficult for you to comprehend but there are plenty of younger women who want to have their fun with older guys. you can keep telling yourself what you want to hear/believe, but there are facts that are plain to see.

During my post-divorce single days (about a decade ago) I had younger women (good 10-15 years younger than me) approach/flirt with/hit on me. Sure it was an ego boost but I wasn't particularly interested as I was focused on women around my age. But it wasn't difficult to go that route if I wanted.

To echo your own words “you can keep telling yourself what you want to hear/believe.” It’s plain to see the facts by everyone but you, they do not want you.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

44yo man and it is so easy to date in the 22-26 range the past few years I'm surprised by the reaction as well.

That must be because women closer in age to you are completely grossed out by you wanting to date women who have just graduated from college and are the same age as their kids while you have been working for 20 years. Why did you never grow up?

I would date them but too many in the 38-42 range still are hoping to have kids. That is not in the mind at all of a woman who is 23.

Nor is it in their mind that they want you.

DP - may be very difficult for you to comprehend but there are plenty of younger women who want to have their fun with older guys. you can keep telling yourself what you want to hear/believe, but there are facts that are plain to see.

During my post-divorce single days (about a decade ago) I had younger women (good 10-15 years younger than me) approach/flirt with/hit on me. Sure it was an ego boost but I wasn't particularly interested as I was focused on women around my age. But it wasn't difficult to go that route if I wanted.

NP: This goes both ways. When I was in my late thirties, I had lots of younger men interested in me because I was still very attractive, nice car, nice house, etc. I got hit on by twenty somethings often. I didn't even have to be "generous" with them, which is what most twenty something women expect of older men. Now I'm with someone who's very much my equal, but I dated older and younger at various times in my life.

Game for them.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

44yo man and it is so easy to date in the 22-26 range the past few years I'm surprised by the reaction as well.

That must be because women closer in age to you are completely grossed out by you wanting to date women who have just graduated from college and are the same age as their kids while you have been working for 20 years. Why did you never grow up?

I would date them but too many in the 38-42 range still are hoping to have kids. That is not in the mind at all of a woman who is 23.

Nor is it in their mind that they want you.

DP - may be very difficult for you to comprehend but there are plenty of younger women who want to have their fun with older guys. you can keep telling yourself what you want to hear/believe, but there are facts that are plain to see.

During my post-divorce single days (about a decade ago) I had younger women (good 10-15 years younger than me) approach/flirt with/hit on me. Sure it was an ego boost but I wasn't particularly interested as I was focused on women around my age. But it wasn't difficult to go that route if I wanted.

I did date several men who were significantly older. Believe me, it was only for money, I did not want them or really even like them. I’m embarrassed when I reflect back and never, ever tell people about this who don’t know. You are a fool, these women do not want you!

well, there is a reason I didn't date any of them, so let's hold back from casting silly aspersions. the problem with any of these posts is that it quickly turns into a rash of nasty responses. The motivation is not the issue - guys want to get laid, younger women want to be have a sugar daddy. if those two things align, why does anyone care?

Your own story is a case in point. You may feel that you used the older guys, but don't kid yourself for one second that they didn't use you as well.

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are you the nurse or the purse?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

44yo man and it is so easy to date in the 22-26 range the past few years I'm surprised by the reaction as well.

That must be because women closer in age to you are completely grossed out by you wanting to date women who have just graduated from college and are the same age as their kids while you have been working for 20 years. Why did you never grow up?

I would date them but too many in the 38-42 range still are hoping to have kids. That is not in the mind at all of a woman who is 23.

Nor is it in their mind that they want you.

DP - may be very difficult for you to comprehend but there are plenty of younger women who want to have their fun with older guys. you can keep telling yourself what you want to hear/believe, but there are facts that are plain to see.

During my post-divorce single days (about a decade ago) I had younger women (good 10-15 years younger than me) approach/flirt with/hit on me. Sure it was an ego boost but I wasn't particularly interested as I was focused on women around my age. But it wasn't difficult to go that route if I wanted.

To echo your own words “you can keep telling yourself what you want to hear/believe.” It’s plain to see the facts by everyone but you, they do not want you.

DP - so then all these younger women are just whoring themselves around? including the PP who dated a bunch of older guys for their money?

[Anonymous]

no way. 50/66, 55/71, 60/76. You will be working and taking care of a grampa.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

44yo man and it is so easy to date in the 22-26 range the past few years I'm surprised by the reaction as well.

That must be because women closer in age to you are completely grossed out by you wanting to date women who have just graduated from college and are the same age as their kids while you have been working for 20 years. Why did you never grow up?

I would date them but too many in the 38-42 range still are hoping to have kids. That is not in the mind at all of a woman who is 23.

Nor is it in their mind that they want you.

DP - may be very difficult for you to comprehend but there are plenty of younger women who want to have their fun with older guys. you can keep telling yourself what you want to hear/believe, but there are facts that are plain to see.

During my post-divorce single days (about a decade ago) I had younger women (good 10-15 years younger than me) approach/flirt with/hit on me. Sure it was an ego boost but I wasn't particularly interested as I was focused on women around my age. But it wasn't difficult to go that route if I wanted.

I did date several men who were significantly older. Believe me, it was only for money, I did not want them or really even like them. I’m embarrassed when I reflect back and never, ever tell people about this who don’t know. You are a fool, these women do not want you!

well, there is a reason I didn't date any of them, so let's hold back from casting silly aspersions. the problem with any of these posts is that it quickly turns into a rash of nasty responses. The motivation is not the issue - guys want to get laid, younger women want to be have a sugar daddy. if those two things align, why does anyone care?

Your own story is a case in point. You may feel that you used the older guys, but don't kid yourself for one second that they didn't use you as well.

Nope, never gave it up to either.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

44yo man and it is so easy to date in the 22-26 range the past few years I'm surprised by the reaction as well.

That must be because women closer in age to you are completely grossed out by you wanting to date women who have just graduated from college and are the same age as their kids while you have been working for 20 years. Why did you never grow up?

I would date them but too many in the 38-42 range still are hoping to have kids. That is not in the mind at all of a woman who is 23.

Nor is it in their mind that they want you.

DP - may be very difficult for you to comprehend but there are plenty of younger women who want to have their fun with older guys. you can keep telling yourself what you want to hear/believe, but there are facts that are plain to see.

During my post-divorce single days (about a decade ago) I had younger women (good 10-15 years younger than me) approach/flirt with/hit on me. Sure it was an ego boost but I wasn't particularly interested as I was focused on women around my age. But it wasn't difficult to go that route if I wanted.

To echo your own words “you can keep telling yourself what you want to hear/believe.” It’s plain to see the facts by everyone but you, they do not want you.

DP - so then all these younger women are just whoring themselves around? including the PP who dated a bunch of older guys for their money?

Foolish men give money at the drop of a hat for any attention from a younger woman. Make money just going out to dinner.

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Nope. He has only a few “good” years left. He is on his way (if not already there) to not getting erections and having a multitude of other medical issues come up. And…the old man smell. You can’t shake that. No way

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If she has to ask…

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Anonymous wrote:I'm 46 and wouldn't date someone that old. My boyfriend is 40.

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I am 44; my boyfriend is 38.

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Ew, as a guy, dating older women is gross. Sorry.

I look no older than 35--everyone is shocked when they find out my age. I look younger than him! But keep on with your stereotypes!

[Anonymous]

I am 40 married to someone 9 years older. Sex is still fine, but I am not that attracted to him anymore. I am very active and in good shape and look younger than my age. If we end up divorcing I am definitely going younger.