Does the lack of an age gap create more problems in marriages than we acknowledge?

[Anonymous]

This is 2022. Marry one you can vibe with, not someone who doesn’t even get your rhythm.

[Anonymous]

Canadian researchers have found that age-disparate couples are more likely to have fertility problems than similarly aged ones.

[Anonymous]

You sound like a dope OP. If you have ever been to an old age home, it is mostly women. Women should marry younger, men- not older ones.

[Anonymous]

There are complex and diverse reasons that people enter into age-disparate relationships, mostly economy and culture dictate these gaps.

[Anonymous]

Partner age disparities are typically met with disdain in civilized circles, and there are various derogatory terms for participants in these relationships.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Canadian researchers have found that age-disparate couples are more likely to have fertility problems than similarly aged ones.

+100. Nobody I know that married a younger guy had any fertility issues. If you marry an older guy, there may be a sabotager--'friends' trying to keep the group single, incestuous MIL.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:In all of the same aged couples I know (within 1-2 years of each other either way), 99% of the women look a million times better than their husbands. We are late 40s/early 50s age group. And, this is a UMC group without a single divorce in the group of about 20.

This.

[Anonymous]

This thread reminded me of a friend who thwarted every relationship her young sons had from their teens to their late twenties, one ended up in a gay relationship, other is still unmarried at 41.

[Anonymous]

In a lifelong partnership, friendship matters more than any other factor.

[Anonymous]

With advancement of fertility and aesthetic fields, age is even less relevant then ever.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Partner age disparities are typically met with disdain in civilized circles, and there are various derogatory terms for participants in these relationships.

Well, for good reason. Most of these marriages aren’t based on love and friendship but money and looks.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:ITA OP, but we'll get flamed for it.

DH is 6 years older than I am. I have always thought to marry at least 3 years older than me. And I got married in my early 30s.

My sister married someone younger than her. They divorced after two years.

of course, YMMV.

Dh and I are 1 month apart and happily married for 23 years. 3 of my sisters are married to/with younger men. There are 3 yrs, 4 yrs and 10 yrs age gaps. All are happy, long term relationships. Ages early 40's to mid 50's. Age isn't an issue when you like each other, share values and grow together. My bff's 25 year partner is 26 years older. Now in his 70's and with failing health, it's hard for her with so much life ahead.

[Anonymous]

Its was considered easier to tame younger women into whoever you want them to be.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:In a lifelong partnership, friendship matters more than any other factor.

This!!!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Its was considered easier to tame younger women into whoever you want them to be.

Exact reason I snagged dh when we were 20. I didn't want any other B ruining him. 30 years later, he's still wonderful.