How do I find decent UMC guys to date?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Paris Hilton just got married at 40 to an affluent guy.

Yeah but he has a kid from a previous relationship that he's refused to raise so he's a bad guy.

That kind of equals them though. She has had a dirty past with the sex vid and all.

[Anonymous]

Plumbers, electricians, carpenters and other skilled tradesmen make good money. Marry a firefighter and you’ll probably have someone home duty the kids 4 days a week b/c of the way their shifts work. And they’ll be the cool, popular dads at school career days b/c every kid loves a firefighter. My father was an USAF helicopter pilot and that garners a lot more interest then the lawyer with the briefcase or the accountant. Snooze.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Paris Hilton just got married at 40 to an affluent guy.

Yeah but he has a kid from a previous relationship that he's refused to raise so he's a bad guy.

That kind of equals them though. She has had a dirty past with the sex vid and all.

No having a sex tape is not the same as abandoning your child GTFO lol

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Paris Hilton just got married at 40 to an affluent guy.

Yeah but he has a kid from a previous relationship that he's refused to raise so he's a bad guy.

That kind of equals them though. She has had a dirty past with the sex vid and all.

She’s a frickin’ heiress herself. That’s a little different and shows you the rich marry their own.

Never married Amber from Rockville at 40 is not marrying a Carter Reum.

[Anonymous]

What do you look like besides being white?

Are you from the area?
Did you go to a top school?
What are your hobbies?

[Anonymous]

Do not “broaden” your standards to divorced dads/never married dads— you are setting your kids up for financial second-place before they’re even born. Remember the child support doesn’t change when you start your family.

Easiest source of what you’ve said you’re looking for is defense and IT contractors. You will have some conservative leaning men if you go defense route, some potential social awkwardness if IT so pick your poison in terms of dating pool. Otherwise start an MBA program that’s reasonably prestigious they’re full of men...

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Why is it so difficult to find men who are educated, mature, and have good careers? There are so many trashy men on the apps, they just want hookups or are working a “job” but don’t have a proper career. I really want to start a family and this is depressing. Just venting. UGH

Why don't you post a photo of yourself so we can judge how much of a prize you are and how deserving you truly are of these men you feel you are entitled to?

[Anonymous]

I do think it’s slim pickings after 30. My friends that married in their mid 30s even had dated for years before. Are you open to divorced dads or men with kids?

[Anonymous]

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Did you go to a top school?

Men don't care where she went to school. Only women do.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Op what are you like? How old are you? Where do you live?

I’m 31F, white, fit, living in DC working as a fed.

Did you have umc track boys dating you in hs, college or in your twenties?

What are the types of guys you got from 16-30?

Lots of different types. I did go through a bad boy phase in college for a bit but I’ve dated the introverted nerdy guys as well.

So basically UMC-tracked boys did not date you and you yourself are not UMC-tracked?

I think that certain type of guys are UMC-tracked and good DH material. They also do not have a protector mentality and are attracted to low-drama, UMC-tracked, emotionally stable, mature, good looking and healthy girls. It may sound very vanilla but that's the truth.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Op what are you like? How old are you? Where do you live?

I’m 31F, white, fit, living in DC working as a fed.

Did you have umc track boys dating you in hs, college or in your twenties?

What are the types of guys you got from 16-30?

Lots of different types. I did go through a bad boy phase in college for a bit but I’ve dated the introverted nerdy guys as well.

So basically UMC-tracked boys did not date you and you yourself are not UMC-tracked?

I think that certain type of guys are UMC-tracked and good DH material. They also do not have a protector mentality and are attracted to low-drama, UMC-tracked, emotionally stable, mature, good looking and healthy girls. It may sound very vanilla but that's the truth.

Op does not sound like she grew up umc, otherwise she would also lean on her childhood or parental network as well.

Are you trying to jump up above your station op?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Op what are you like? How old are you? Where do you live?

I’m 31F, white, fit, living in DC working as a fed.

Did you have umc track boys dating you in hs, college or in your twenties?

What are the types of guys you got from 16-30?

Lots of different types. I did go through a bad boy phase in college for a bit but I’ve dated the introverted nerdy guys as well.

So basically UMC-tracked boys did not date you and you yourself are not UMC-tracked?

I think that certain type of guys are UMC-tracked and good DH material. They also do not have a protector mentality and are attracted to low-drama, UMC-tracked, emotionally stable, mature, good looking and healthy girls. It may sound very vanilla but that's the truth.

Op does not sound like she grew up umc, otherwise she would also lean on her childhood or parental network as well.

Are you trying to jump up above your station op?

It's possible OP does not live where she grew up. You make it sound like all the UMC are inbred like the Royals.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I do think it’s slim pickings after 30. My friends that married in their mid 30s even had dated for years before. Are you open to divorced dads or men with kids?

Thanks for the anecdote. The average age for a first time marriage in DC is 33.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Op what are you like? How old are you? Where do you live?

I’m 31F, white, fit, living in DC working as a fed.

Did you have umc track boys dating you in hs, college or in your twenties?

What are the types of guys you got from 16-30?

Lots of different types. I did go through a bad boy phase in college for a bit but I’ve dated the introverted nerdy guys as well.

So basically UMC-tracked boys did not date you and you yourself are not UMC-tracked?

I think that certain type of guys are UMC-tracked and good DH material. They also do not have a protector mentality and are attracted to low-drama, UMC-tracked, emotionally stable, mature, good looking and healthy girls. It may sound very vanilla but that's the truth.

Op does not sound like she grew up umc, otherwise she would also lean on her childhood or parental network as well.

Are you trying to jump up above your station op?

It's possible OP does not live where she grew up. You make it sound like all the UMC are inbred like the Royals.

No, but if you grew up in a tier 1 or 2 city in a umc setting, attend a university popular with your peers, even if you move to a completely new city far away you end up in similar social circles.

People who say grow up in Seattle, attend lakeside, go to vassar, then move to dc are not suddenly finding themselves completely lost and wondering where “their people” are.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I do think it’s slim pickings after 30. My friends that married in their mid 30s even had dated for years before. Are you open to divorced dads or men with kids?

Thanks for the anecdote. The average age for a first time marriage in DC is 33.

Right, but what is the average age of when: 1. people under 40, 2. who have kids and a 3. house in an inner ring desirable neighborhood — meet their spouses for the first time?

As other posters are saying, this happens before 31 most of the time.