How do I find decent UMC guys to date?

[Anonymous]

Why is it so difficult to find men who are educated, mature, and have good careers? There are so many trashy men on the apps, they just want hookups or are working a “job” but don’t have a proper career. I really want to start a family and this is depressing. Just venting. UGH

[Anonymous]

Work, church, sports clubs (i used to go skiing with a singles club and know many who met through triathlete training clubs).

[Anonymous]

^ who goes to church anymore? Not young solo single men. It’s either conservative families or elderly

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Why is it so difficult to find men who are educated, mature, and have good careers? There are so many trashy men on the apps, they just want hookups or are working a “job” but don’t have a proper career. I really want to start a family and this is depressing. Just venting. UGH

I hear you.

The harsh truth is that you are going to have to broaden (note I did not say lower, I said BROADEN) your standards to include men that might not be your initial “type.” There are plenty of mature men, 25-45, with jobs and careers, dating with the intention of finding a partner to start a family with. These might include, however, men with:

Dadbods or super skinny
Under 5’9
Weird facial hair or tattoos
A different race/ethnicity/religion/nationality than you
Different political views than you
More introverted; less charismatic or outgoing
Might not live in your exact neighborhood


You are going to have to give more different kinds of people a chance. The fact is that there are more educated and eligible women than men.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Why is it so difficult to find men who are educated, mature, and have good careers? There are so many trashy men on the apps, they just want hookups or are working a “job” but don’t have a proper career. I really want to start a family and this is depressing. Just venting. UGH

I hear you.

The harsh truth is that you are going to have to broaden (note I did not say lower, I said BROADEN) your standards to include men that might not be your initial “type.” There are plenty of mature men, 25-45, with jobs and careers, dating with the intention of finding a partner to start a family with. These might include, however, men with:

Dadbods or super skinny
Under 5’9
Weird facial hair or tattoos
A different race/ethnicity/religion/nationality than you
Different political views than you
More introverted; less charismatic or outgoing
Might not live in your exact neighborhood


You are going to have to give more different kinds of people a chance. The fact is that there are more educated and eligible women than men.

Also, divorced and/or with kids.

[Anonymous]

Water seeks its own level. Maybe be umc and educated yourself?

[Anonymous]

Op what are you like? How old are you? Where do you live?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Op what are you like? How old are you? Where do you live?

I’m 31F, white, fit, living in DC working as a fed.

[Anonymous]

The algorithms of the apps skew the most swiped on and desirable profiles to new members to make app seem higher quality and then integrate the dogs in the longer you're around. Join a new one or delete your old account and start fresh and you'll see an uptick in quality.

[Anonymous]

I had pretty good luck by getting a membership at a very pricy gym. You don’t want an old people gym, check out a few and find the one with the best men. Was totally worth the extra $150/month for me

[Anonymous]

Why should an UMC attractive man choose you, OP? What do you bring to the table? And you can't say money, job or education. A successful man doesn't care about those things in a woman. That's why you're competing with the barista who is younger than you. Do you know what men want?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I had pretty good luck by getting a membership at a very pricy gym. You don’t want an old people gym, check out a few and find the one with the best men. Was totally worth the extra $150/month for me

PP, where did you decide to join?

[Anonymous]

Have your friends set you up. Assuming you are UMC.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Op what are you like? How old are you? Where do you live?

I’m 31F, white, fit, living in DC working as a fed.

Did you have umc track boys dating you in hs, college or in your twenties?

What are the types of guys you got from 16-30?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I had pretty good luck by getting a membership at a very pricy gym. You don’t want an old people gym, check out a few and find the one with the best men. Was totally worth the extra $150/month for me

PP, where did you decide to join?

This was over 10 years ago, they’ve since closed down. I also used to drive REALLY far to get there, ha. Could take up to an hour in traffic. But totally worth it for the men.