How do I find decent UMC guys to date?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Op what are you like? How old are you? Where do you live?

I’m 31F, white, fit, living in DC working as a fed.

This isn't a personality. This may be part of your problem your profile is blah and not attracting what you want.

[Anonymous]

Church.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:^ who goes to church anymore? Not young solo single men. It’s either conservative families or elderly

Maybe in your circle. There are plenty of young single men and women in my church.

[Anonymous]

At work or friends of friends from college.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Op what are you like? How old are you? Where do you live?

I’m 31F, white, fit, living in DC working as a fed.

Did you have umc track boys dating you in hs, college or in your twenties?

What are the types of guys you got from 16-30?

Lots of different types. I did go through a bad boy phase in college for a bit but I’ve dated the introverted nerdy guys as well.

[Anonymous]

Try meetup.com, join climbing, hiking groups
try to make new friends (not necessarily boyfriends), they might introduce you to new people.
Update your location on your dating profile to places you would like to visit and go there for a weekend.
Be open to long-distance relationships and to moving.

Good luck!

[Anonymous]

Work or church

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I had pretty good luck by getting a membership at a very pricy gym. You don’t want an old people gym, check out a few and find the one with the best men. Was totally worth the extra $150/month for me

PP, where did you decide to join?

This was over 10 years ago, they’ve since closed down. I also used to drive REALLY far to get there, ha. Could take up to an hour in traffic. But totally worth it for the men.

In this era of me too I'd be very reluctant to approach a woman in the gym.

- Attractive UMC Male

[Anonymous]

University of Montgomery County? Try some of the bars in downtown Rockville.

[Anonymous]

My friend swears that trade show are the place to meet men. She met her current boyfriend at a coin/numismatic trade show. She isn't into coins. But they all have disposable income and are generally educated or at least have a hobby.

[Anonymous]

Go to a few comcons.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I had pretty good luck by getting a membership at a very pricy gym. You don’t want an old people gym, check out a few and find the one with the best men. Was totally worth the extra $150/month for me

PP, where did you decide to join?

This was over 10 years ago, they’ve since closed down. I also used to drive REALLY far to get there, ha. Could take up to an hour in traffic. But totally worth it for the men.

In this era of me too I'd be very reluctant to approach a woman in the gym.

- Attractive UMC Male

as long as you're not "approaching" her hands-first, and also it's not the gym clerk you're hitting on, it has nothing to do with #MeToo

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Why is it so difficult to find men who are educated, mature, and have good careers? There are so many trashy men on the apps, they just want hookups or are working a “job” but don’t have a proper career. I really want to start a family and this is depressing. Just venting. UGH

I hear you.

The harsh truth is that you are going to have to broaden (note I did not say lower, I said BROADEN) your standards to include men that might not be your initial “type.” There are plenty of mature men, 25-45, with jobs and careers, dating with the intention of finding a partner to start a family with. These might include, however, men with:

Dadbods or super skinny
Under 5’9
Weird facial hair or tattoos
A different race/ethnicity/religion/nationality than you
Different political views than you
More introverted; less charismatic or outgoing
Might not live in your exact neighborhood


You are going to have to give more different kinds of people a chance. The fact is that there are more educated and eligible women than men.

White men are a dead end/time wasters IMO. Immigrant men from cultures that prioritize marriage are dating to get married, not to fool around. Of course you're going to need to find someone who isn't totally culturally incompatible but it can be done.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I had pretty good luck by getting a membership at a very pricy gym. You don’t want an old people gym, check out a few and find the one with the best men. Was totally worth the extra $150/month for me

PP, where did you decide to join?

This was over 10 years ago, they’ve since closed down. I also used to drive REALLY far to get there, ha. Could take up to an hour in traffic. But totally worth it for the men.

In this era of me too I'd be very reluctant to approach a woman in the gym.

- Attractive UMC Male

Same here. There have been numerous posts on here about how women hate to be approached at the gym and I can certainly understand why.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Why should an UMC attractive man choose you, OP? What do you bring to the table? And you can't say money, job or education. A successful man doesn't care about those things in a woman. That's why you're competing with the barista who is younger than you. Do you know what men want?

I doubt OP’s going to be interested in your thoughts bc you’re obviously not umc or attractive.