Why do some men get married early?

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Anonymous wrote:The best ones get snapped up quickly.

I agree with this. No, you don’t have to be married at 22 and I think there are serious downsides to getting married too early for many people, but if you wait until mid 30s to find a suitable partner you will have a harder time finding someone who shares your values. This applies to people who value marriage, children, and building a life together.

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Anonymous wrote:Consider the single men, in their mid 30s and up, that you know right now. How does their life seem? Question answered.

Haha this is so true.

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Anonymous wrote:I think marrying late is a DC phenomena. I feel bad for people in their 40’s who have young children. It’s a great feeling to have an empty nest before you even hit 50.

Great point.

It's also tons of being able to keep up with my teenage kids as we shoot hoops or do anything athletic. Both kids will be out of the house before I turn 47.

Wouldn't change it AT ALL.

Sure, missed out on some happy hours and trips in our late 20s and 30s. But the pay-off in the 40s was totally worth it

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But meeting my spouse in mid-20s, we still did tons of happy hours, travel and even a sabbatical and lived abroad before having kids in our early 30s. We were pretty heavy partiers, foodies together before kids---and our passport was filled with stamps.

That's a good point. It was the kids, not the marriage, that stopped us from the happy hours and the international travel, etc

We still did International travel with our kids. When they were babies it was the easiest. The toddler years when naps were needed were tougher. AS they got older they were so easy to travel with.

We had grandparents in the area so still had some wild nights when they would spend the night at their house.

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Anonymous wrote:I think marrying late is a DC phenomena. I feel bad for people in their 40’s who have young children. It’s a great feeling to have an empty nest before you even hit 50.

Great point.

It's also tons of being able to keep up with my teenage kids as we shoot hoops or do anything athletic. Both kids will be out of the house before I turn 47.

Wouldn't change it AT ALL.

Sure, missed out on some happy hours and trips in our late 20s and 30s. But the pay-off in the 40s was totally worth it

+1

But meeting my spouse in mid-20s, we still did tons of happy hours, travel and even a sabbatical and lived abroad before having kids in our early 30s. We were pretty heavy partiers, foodies together before kids---and our passport was filled with stamps.

That's a good point. It was the kids, not the marriage, that stopped us from the happy hours and the international travel, etc

We still did International travel with our kids. When they were babies it was the easiest. The toddler years when naps were needed were tougher. AS they got older they were so easy to travel with.

We had grandparents in the area so still had some wild nights when they would spend the night at their house.

This is a tangent but for those wondering: elementary school is the best age because missing school or extracurriculars isn’t such a big deal at that point.

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Anonymous wrote:I think marrying late is a DC phenomena. I feel bad for people in their 40’s who have young children. It’s a great feeling to have an empty nest before you even hit 50.

Great point.

It's also tons of being able to keep up with my teenage kids as we shoot hoops or do anything athletic. Both kids will be out of the house before I turn 47.

Wouldn't change it AT ALL.

Sure, missed out on some happy hours and trips in our late 20s and 30s. But the pay-off in the 40s was totally worth it

+1

But meeting my spouse in mid-20s, we still did tons of happy hours, travel and even a sabbatical and lived abroad before having kids in our early 30s. We were pretty heavy partiers, foodies together before kids---and our passport was filled with stamps.

That's a good point. It was the kids, not the marriage, that stopped us from the happy hours and the international travel, etc

We still did International travel with our kids. When they were babies it was the easiest. The toddler years when naps were needed were tougher. AS they got older they were so easy to travel with.

We had grandparents in the area so still had some wild nights when they would spend the night at their house.

This is a tangent but for those wondering: elementary school is the best age because missing school or extracurriculars isn’t such a big deal at that point.

This is true. Not international, but that is the best time to cross Disneyworld off the list. Just pull them out of school for a week in 2nd grade. They can recover easily.

Now that they are in HS, pulling them for a week to do something fun is much harder

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Anonymous wrote:I assume it’s because they want to lock down a woman who theU subconsciously feel is out of their league in attractiveness.

Women have more societal power n their twenties. Men have more in their forties.

Yep there are a lot of.smart women and also some guys who are nerdy etc early on don't realize they'll be a "catch" later on when they are successful and have learned to dress better and work out. They are just happy to have found someone.

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Anonymous wrote:I think marrying late is a DC phenomena. I feel bad for people in their 40’s who have young children. It’s a great feeling to have an empty nest before you even hit 50.

Great point.

It's also tons of being able to keep up with my teenage kids as we shoot hoops or do anything athletic. Both kids will be out of the house before I turn 47.

Wouldn't change it AT ALL.

Sure, missed out on some happy hours and trips in our late 20s and 30s. But the pay-off in the 40s was totally worth it

+1

But meeting my spouse in mid-20s, we still did tons of happy hours, travel and even a sabbatical and lived abroad before having kids in our early 30s. We were pretty heavy partiers, foodies together before kids---and our passport was filled with stamps.

That's a good point. It was the kids, not the marriage, that stopped us from the happy hours and the international travel, etc

We still did International travel with our kids. When they were babies it was the easiest. The toddler years when naps were needed were tougher. AS they got older they were so easy to travel with.

We had grandparents in the area so still had some wild nights when they would spend the night at their house.

This is a tangent but for those wondering: elementary school is the best age because missing school or extracurriculars isn’t such a big deal at that point.

This is true. Not international, but that is the best time to cross Disneyworld off the list. Just pull them out of school for a week in 2nd grade. They can recover easily.

Now that they are in HS, pulling them for a week to do something fun is much harder

yeah. But my high schoolers get two weeks off for spring break and 2 weeks off for xmas break. Their last day of school is end of May so it is possible to do travel and beat crowds and heat. We would never do it when school is in session.

Weekend trips are pretty much not doable due to sports schedules and tournaments every 3-day weekend.

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Anonymous wrote:I think marrying late is a DC phenomena. I feel bad for people in their 40’s who have young children. It’s a great feeling to have an empty nest before you even hit 50.

Great point.

It's also tons of being able to keep up with my teenage kids as we shoot hoops or do anything athletic. Both kids will be out of the house before I turn 47.

Wouldn't change it AT ALL.

Sure, missed out on some happy hours and trips in our late 20s and 30s. But the pay-off in the 40s was totally worth it

+1

But meeting my spouse in mid-20s, we still did tons of happy hours, travel and even a sabbatical and lived abroad before having kids in our early 30s. We were pretty heavy partiers, foodies together before kids---and our passport was filled with stamps.

That's a good point. It was the kids, not the marriage, that stopped us from the happy hours and the international travel, etc

We still did International travel with our kids. When they were babies it was the easiest. The toddler years when naps were needed were tougher. AS they got older they were so easy to travel with.

We had grandparents in the area so still had some wild nights when they would spend the night at their house.

This is a tangent but for those wondering: elementary school is the best age because missing school or extracurriculars isn’t such a big deal at that point.

This is true. Not international, but that is the best time to cross Disneyworld off the list. Just pull them out of school for a week in 2nd grade. They can recover easily.

Now that they are in HS, pulling them for a week to do something fun is much harder

yeah. But my high schoolers get two weeks off for spring break and 2 weeks off for xmas break. Their last day of school is end of May so it is possible to do travel and beat crowds and heat. We would never do it when school is in session.

Weekend trips are pretty much not doable due to sports schedules and tournaments every 3-day weekend.

Sure, for international travel. but PP mentioned Disney. Aren't those the busiest time at the park? No way I would go to Disney during Xmas break; Ive heard its nuts

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Anonymous wrote:I assume it’s because they want to lock down a woman who theU subconsciously feel is out of their league in attractiveness.

Women have more societal power n their twenties. Men have more in their forties.

This is it, at least on a subconsious level.

Women in their 20s women and Men in their 40s basically rule the world.

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Anonymous wrote:I think marrying late is a DC phenomena. I feel bad for people in their 40’s who have young children. It’s a great feeling to have an empty nest before you even hit 50.

Great point.

It's also tons of being able to keep up with my teenage kids as we shoot hoops or do anything athletic. Both kids will be out of the house before I turn 47.

Wouldn't change it AT ALL.

Sure, missed out on some happy hours and trips in our late 20s and 30s. But the pay-off in the 40s was totally worth it

+1

But meeting my spouse in mid-20s, we still did tons of happy hours, travel and even a sabbatical and lived abroad before having kids in our early 30s. We were pretty heavy partiers, foodies together before kids---and our passport was filled with stamps.

That's a good point. It was the kids, not the marriage, that stopped us from the happy hours and the international travel, etc

We still did International travel with our kids. When they were babies it was the easiest. The toddler years when naps were needed were tougher. AS they got older they were so easy to travel with.

We had grandparents in the area so still had some wild nights when they would spend the night at their house.

This is a tangent but for those wondering: elementary school is the best age because missing school or extracurriculars isn’t such a big deal at that point.

This is true. Not international, but that is the best time to cross Disneyworld off the list. Just pull them out of school for a week in 2nd grade. They can recover easily.

Now that they are in HS, pulling them for a week to do something fun is much harder

yeah. But my high schoolers get two weeks off for spring break and 2 weeks off for xmas break. Their last day of school is end of May so it is possible to do travel and beat crowds and heat. We would never do it when school is in session.

Weekend trips are pretty much not doable due to sports schedules and tournaments every 3-day weekend.

Sure, for international travel. but PP mentioned Disney. Aren't those the busiest time at the park? No way I would go to Disney during Xmas break; Ive heard its nuts

My high school sons would rather poke their eyes out than go to Disney . Legoland when they were young, but not disney fans. But, high school? Nope.

We do a lot of active trips--skiing, hiking, national parks, etc. Food tours.

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Anonymous wrote:I assume it’s because they want to lock down a woman who theU subconsciously feel is out of their league in attractiveness.

Women have more societal power n their twenties. Men have more in their forties.

This is it, at least on a subconsious level.

Women in their 20s women and Men in their 40s basically rule the world.

When I was in my 20s, any man over 30 was an old fart to me. My husband was within a year of my age hot as F** . We worked out a lot together, traveled, partied. No way in hell was I bringing an Old Fart into nightclubs in Europe and raves. LOL. We both had careers, $$ to spend and a ton of frequent flier miles (those were a big deal back then).

40 year olds with 20 year olds are creepy.

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Anonymous wrote:I assume it’s because they want to lock down a woman who theU subconsciously feel is out of their league in attractiveness.

Women have more societal power n their twenties. Men have more in their forties.

This is it, at least on a subconsious level.

Women in their 20s women and Men in their 40s basically rule the world.

When I was in my 20s, any man over 30 was an old fart to me. My husband was within a year of my age hot as F** . We worked out a lot together, traveled, partied. No way in hell was I bringing an Old Fart into nightclubs in Europe and raves. LOL. We both had careers, $$ to spend and a ton of frequent flier miles (those were a big deal back then).

40 year olds with 20 year olds are creepy.

A 40-something doing the kind of partying my husband and I did in our mid20s/early 30s would be very weird.

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Anonymous wrote:I think marrying late is a DC phenomena. I feel bad for people in their 40’s who have young children. It’s a great feeling to have an empty nest before you even hit 50.

Great point.

It's also tons of being able to keep up with my teenage kids as we shoot hoops or do anything athletic. Both kids will be out of the house before I turn 47.

Wouldn't change it AT ALL.

Sure, missed out on some happy hours and trips in our late 20s and 30s. But the pay-off in the 40s was totally worth it

+1

But meeting my spouse in mid-20s, we still did tons of happy hours, travel and even a sabbatical and lived abroad before having kids in our early 30s. We were pretty heavy partiers, foodies together before kids---and our passport was filled with stamps.

That's a good point. It was the kids, not the marriage, that stopped us from the happy hours and the international travel, etc

We still did International travel with our kids. When they were babies it was the easiest. The toddler years when naps were needed were tougher. AS they got older they were so easy to travel with.

We had grandparents in the area so still had some wild nights when they would spend the night at their house.

This is a tangent but for those wondering: elementary school is the best age because missing school or extracurriculars isn’t such a big deal at that point.

This is true. Not international, but that is the best time to cross Disneyworld off the list. Just pull them out of school for a week in 2nd grade. They can recover easily.

Now that they are in HS, pulling them for a week to do something fun is much harder

yeah. But my high schoolers get two weeks off for spring break and 2 weeks off for xmas break. Their last day of school is end of May so it is possible to do travel and beat crowds and heat. We would never do it when school is in session.

Weekend trips are pretty much not doable due to sports schedules and tournaments every 3-day weekend.

Sure, for international travel. but PP mentioned Disney. Aren't those the busiest time at the park? No way I would go to Disney during Xmas break; Ive heard its nuts

My high school sons would rather poke their eyes out than go to Disney . Legoland when they were young, but not disney fans. But, high school? Nope.

We do a lot of active trips--skiing, hiking, national parks, etc. Food tours.

Right. but I think you're missing PP's point. They said the best time to "cross disney of the list" is to take the second grader out of school for a week to avoid the crowds.

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Because they don’t want to end up like my ExBF who lost me because he wouldn’t commit. Now he’s with a poor approximation of me and full of regret. Worked out great for me though! My DH is phenomenal.

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Anonymous wrote:I assume it’s because they want to lock down a woman who theU subconsciously feel is out of their league in attractiveness.

Women have more societal power n their twenties. Men have more in their forties.

This is it, at least on a subconsious level.

Women in their 20s women and Men in their 40s basically rule the world.

When I was in my 20s, any man over 30 was an old fart to me. My husband was within a year of my age hot as F** . We worked out a lot together, traveled, partied. No way in hell was I bringing an Old Fart into nightclubs in Europe and raves. LOL. We both had careers, $$ to spend and a ton of frequent flier miles (those were a big deal back then).

40 year olds with 20 year olds are creepy.

I think the point is that those ages/genders are the ones with the most options. Not that they end up together frequently.