Why do some men get married early?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Anecdotally,
1. Religious

2. From a fairly conservative culture.


3. Military.

4. Related to 1 and 2, but gay and afraid to come out.


Also anecdotally, there's no real difference in the quality of husbands between those that married in their 20s vs those who married closer to 40. If there's a difference it's in the quality of what they are able to give their children, finances and waiting for better career positions, is the main reason the people I know who maybe married at 20 something waited until 30s to have kids.

NP. Agreed. I think a 27 year old man looking to get married at 29 will have better options than a 37 year old man looking to get married at 39.

As for dating, the majority of my late 30s+ friends male and female aren't having trouble dating and finding quality people. The few who are having problems have issues that are not age related.

I would say this is more true for early 20s. Mid-late 20s is fairly typical for even educated, middle upper class, non religious people. I would not assume a 28y/o man getting married is doing so for the reasons you listed.

+1. OP asked, specifically, about men in their mid-late 20s. At these ages, these men are not fresh out of HS and new to sex and dating. Also, waiting a decade would mean they are getting married in their mid-late 30s, not at 32.

NP. Agreed. I think a 27 year old man looking to get married at 29 will have better options than a 37 year old man looking to get married at 39.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Anecdotally,
1. Religious

2. From a fairly conservative culture.


3. Military.

4. Related to 1 and 2, but gay and afraid to come out.


Also anecdotally, there's no real difference in the quality of husbands between those that married in their 20s vs those who married closer to 40. If there's a difference it's in the quality of what they are able to give their children, finances and waiting for better career positions, is the main reason the people I know who maybe married at 20 something waited until 30s to have kids.

NP. Agreed. I think a 27 year old man looking to get married at 29 will have better options than a 37 year old man looking to get married at 39.

As for dating, the majority of my late 30s+ friends male and female aren't having trouble dating and finding quality people. The few who are having problems have issues that are not age related.

I would say this is more true for early 20s. Mid-late 20s is fairly typical for even educated, middle upper class, non religious people. I would not assume a 28y/o man getting married is doing so for the reasons you listed.

+1. OP asked, specifically, about men in their mid-late 20s. At these ages, these men are not fresh out of HS and new to sex and dating. Also, waiting a decade would mean they are getting married in their mid-late 30s, not at 32.

You do realize it's incredibly stupid to argue with someone about what they have personally experienced in their life, right?
Every word of my post holds true for the people in my life.

[Anonymous]

Why are people acting like getting married in your late 20s is crazy early or something? My friends and I live in a major city and most of us got married then (to husbands around the same age).

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I think marrying late is a DC phenomena. I feel bad for people in their 40’s who have young children. It’s a great feeling to have an empty nest before you even hit 50.

+1

Since this is anon, I will chime in and say I have to agree. There is a sweet spot, it seems - but over 35 ain't it, generally.

I know a woman whose parents are younger than her husband - too old for me, thank you.

I think the key word in some cases (again, the one I mention) might be "opportunist" - if he has money (the case I mention), then it won't be long before he kicks the bucket, and your immigrant family suddenly becomes rich.

Kind of gross, to me.

If a couple is the same age, and they build their lives together - there is something romantic and beautiful about that.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Anecdotally,
1. Religious

2. From a fairly conservative culture.


3. Military.

4. Related to 1 and 2, but gay and afraid to come out.


Also anecdotally, there's no real difference in the quality of husbands between those that married in their 20s vs those who married closer to 40. If there's a difference it's in the quality of what they are able to give their children, finances and waiting for better career positions, is the main reason the people I know who maybe married at 20 something waited until 30s to have kids.

NP. Agreed. I think a 27 year old man looking to get married at 29 will have better options than a 37 year old man looking to get married at 39.

As for dating, the majority of my late 30s+ friends male and female aren't having trouble dating and finding quality people. The few who are having problems have issues that are not age related.

I would say this is more true for early 20s. Mid-late 20s is fairly typical for even educated, middle upper class, non religious people. I would not assume a 28y/o man getting married is doing so for the reasons you listed.

+1. OP asked, specifically, about men in their mid-late 20s. At these ages, these men are not fresh out of HS and new to sex and dating. Also, waiting a decade would mean they are getting married in their mid-late 30s, not at 32.

You do realize it's incredibly stupid to argue with someone about what they have personally experienced in their life, right?
Every word of my post holds true for the people in my life.

PP. my bad, I thought you were applying your very unique anecdotal experiences to the question asked and I disagreed that men marrying in their late 20s do so for the reasons you stated. I didn’t realize you were just sharing a personal experience about your life that wasn’t intended to reflect your overall views on the subject.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Why are people acting like getting married in your late 20s is crazy early or something? My friends and I live in a major city and most of us got married then (to husbands around the same age).

Because there are some red piller types on this board who REALLY need to believe men are at their most desirable to high quality 25 yr olds at 35+. It makes very little sense, and anyone who has ever known high quality 25 yr olds knows it's absurd, but there's a desperate need to believe this. So this thread (and many iterations of it) persists.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Anecdotally,
1. Religious

2. From a fairly conservative culture.


3. Military.

4. Related to 1 and 2, but gay and afraid to come out.


Also anecdotally, there's no real difference in the quality of husbands between those that married in their 20s vs those who married closer to 40. If there's a difference it's in the quality of what they are able to give their children, finances and waiting for better career positions, is the main reason the people I know who maybe married at 20 something waited until 30s to have kids.

As for dating, the majority of my late 30s+ friends male and female aren't having trouble dating and finding quality people. The few who are having problems have issues that are not age related.

Related to #1-2, their high school or college sweetheart won't put out before marriage.

…you think men in their mid-late 20s are marrying their HS sweetheart so they can finally have sex? Really….? They are waiting a decade after HS to finally seal the deal?

[Anonymous]

I just asked my husband. He said he didn't want to be to with toddlers. We were married at 24.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I just asked my husband. He said he didn't want to be 50 with toddlers. We were married at 24.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Because they don’t want to end up like my ExBF who lost me because he wouldn’t commit. Now he’s with a poor approximation of me and full of regret. Worked out great for me though! My DH is phenomenal.

My ex did this too. I hope he regrets it too. What an idiot.

+1

Yup.

Your exes made the right decision by not marrying you 3 ladies.

You must be one of the “poor approximations.”

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I think marrying late is a DC phenomena. I feel bad for people in their 40’s who have young children. It’s a great feeling to have an empty nest before you even hit 50.

Really? I have no desire for an empty nest. My kids are fairly young, not yet tweens… we’re in our 40s. Happy to have traveled the world, partied, and set our careers up while we were young. Zero FOMO and no wanderlust. As you get older you appreciate simple pleasures and your own bed.

[Anonymous]

My husband and I got married I was 23 and he was 25. Simplify put did it because we were in love and wanted to build a life together. We've been together for over half my life at this point but I don't regret anything

[Anonymous]

My 28 year old attorney husband married me even I was 22 and we are still married 21 years and 5 kids later. I was his one and he proposed.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I think marrying late is a DC phenomena. I feel bad for people in their 40’s who have young children. It’s a great feeling to have an empty nest before you even hit 50.

Really? I have no desire for an empty nest. My kids are fairly young, not yet tweens… we’re in our 40s. Happy to have traveled the world, partied, and set our careers up while we were young. Zero FOMO and no wanderlust. As you get older you appreciate simple pleasures and your own bed.

+1 I wish I'd had mine a bit younger, but I'm not psyched about becoming an empty nester. This phase seems more interesting and fun actually.