Why do some men get married early?

[Anonymous]

I don't think men at age 25 have any idea how great the dating market becomes between ages 32-40 for them. So that's part of it.

[Anonymous]

I think marrying late is a DC phenomena. I feel bad for people in their 40’s who have young children. It’s a great feeling to have an empty nest before you even hit 50.

[Anonymous]

Guy here. I got married at 27.

16 years later, I wish we had gotten married sooner.

You'll understand, OP, once you actually fall in love

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I think marrying late is a DC phenomena. I feel bad for people in their 40’s who have young children. It’s a great feeling to have an empty nest before you even hit 50.

Great point.

It's also tons of being able to keep up with my teenage kids as we shoot hoops or do anything athletic. Both kids will be out of the house before I turn 47.

Wouldn't change it AT ALL.

Sure, missed out on some happy hours and trips in our late 20s and 30s. But the pay-off in the 40s was totally worth it

[Anonymous]

Consider the single men, in their mid 30s and up, that you know right now. How does their life seem? Question answered.

[Anonymous]

Look at Dave Portnoy to see what happens when you get successful + are decently good looking, but don't settle down with anyone.

Eventually, you need to go to further and further extremes to amuse yourself. Men need to be properly socialized + civilized by a female partner. If left to their own devices with a lot of money, guys will end up acting like animals.

I even see this with my own friends who are single in their mid 30s, making good money in Big Law or finance. They just keep indulging themselves without restraint. It's not healthy.

[Anonymous]

Stability, I would say is probably the leading reason. If you want a life of bachelor no-strings sex, go for it, if you want stability, get married.

Surely this is as obvious as the nose on your face, OP?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I think marrying late is a DC phenomena. I feel bad for people in their 40’s who have young children. It’s a great feeling to have an empty nest before you even hit 50.

Great point.

It's also tons of being able to keep up with my teenage kids as we shoot hoops or do anything athletic. Both kids will be out of the house before I turn 47.

Wouldn't change it AT ALL.

Sure, missed out on some happy hours and trips in our late 20s and 30s. But the pay-off in the 40s was totally worth it

I am jealous of this, wish we had kids just a few years earlier.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Stability, I would say is probably the leading reason. If you want a life of bachelor no-strings sex, go for it, if you want stability, get married.

Surely this is as obvious as the nose on your face, OP?

Many bachelors are still waiting on that life of no strings sex

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I think marrying late is a DC phenomena. I feel bad for people in their 40’s who have young children. It’s a great feeling to have an empty nest before you even hit 50.

Great point.

It's also tons of being able to keep up with my teenage kids as we shoot hoops or do anything athletic. Both kids will be out of the house before I turn 47.

Wouldn't change it AT ALL.

Sure, missed out on some happy hours and trips in our late 20s and 30s. But the pay-off in the 40s was totally worth it

I am jealous of this, wish we had kids just a few years earlier.

Yeah, PP here who shoots hoops with his teenage kids.

But I should be honest. There really was a trade-off. We had kids earlier in our career (mid 20s,), so we weren't making as much and money was tight. And there was a feeling sometimes of "missing out". We would see our childless friends go on couples trips that we had to decline because we either couldn't afford it (2 kids in diapers, amirite?), or couldn't find someone to watch 2 kids under 3 for 5 days.

It really is a trade-off, and there's no "right answer". I'm sure the people that wait until their late 30s really value those memories of their childless 20s and early 30s.

But now, as my kids are teens, and I'm only in my mid 40s, it's really great. But I won't act like it wasn't tough being the only family where the parents were 26 & 27, and trying to go a toddler music class in Bethesda, and everyone else was 10+ years older than us

[Anonymous]

I assume it’s because they want to lock down a woman who theU subconsciously feel is out of their league in attractiveness.

Women have more societal power n their twenties. Men have more in their forties.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I think marrying late is a DC phenomena. I feel bad for people in their 40’s who have young children. It’s a great feeling to have an empty nest before you even hit 50.

Great point.

It's also tons of being able to keep up with my teenage kids as we shoot hoops or do anything athletic. Both kids will be out of the house before I turn 47.

Wouldn't change it AT ALL.

Sure, missed out on some happy hours and trips in our late 20s and 30s. But the pay-off in the 40s was totally worth it

+1

But meeting my spouse in mid-20s, we still did tons of happy hours, travel and even a sabbatical and lived abroad before having kids in our early 30s. We were pretty heavy partiers, foodies together before kids---and our passport was filled with stamps.

[Anonymous]

The best ones get snapped up quickly.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I think marrying late is a DC phenomena. I feel bad for people in their 40’s who have young children. It’s a great feeling to have an empty nest before you even hit 50.

Great point.

It's also tons of being able to keep up with my teenage kids as we shoot hoops or do anything athletic. Both kids will be out of the house before I turn 47.

Wouldn't change it AT ALL.

Sure, missed out on some happy hours and trips in our late 20s and 30s. But the pay-off in the 40s was totally worth it

+1

But meeting my spouse in mid-20s, we still did tons of happy hours, travel and even a sabbatical and lived abroad before having kids in our early 30s. We were pretty heavy partiers, foodies together before kids---and our passport was filled with stamps.

That's a good point. It was the kids, not the marriage, that stopped us from the happy hours and the international travel, etc

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I assume it’s because they want to lock down a woman who theU subconsciously feel is out of their league in attractiveness.

Women have more societal power n their twenties. Men have more in their forties.

Or, she pushes for marriage. Or they both actually want to marry for the usual reasons.