Why do some men get married early?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:The best men and women get married in their 20's - early 30's. Any guy who's still single at 35 almost always has major issues.

OP, you sound like a guy who wasn't desirable in HS or college, and now you're hoping that the smaller dating pool when you're older makes you more desirable.

This is bullshit.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:If you are looking forward to being a father, the "fun single life" gets old WAY before you mid-late 30s. If you're not that into the idea of starting a family, delaying (and actually never having kids) is the right move. But lots of men sincerely want to have kids.

The best fathers I know became dads in their mid to late 30s.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:If you are looking forward to being a father, the "fun single life" gets old WAY before you mid-late 30s. If you're not that into the idea of starting a family, delaying (and actually never having kids) is the right move. But lots of men sincerely want to have kids.

The best fathers I know became dads in their mid to late 30s.

But did they love that awesome single life enough to not have wanted to abandoned it in their twenties? Like, when they were in their twenties would they met have somebody they wanted to marry and have kids with but didn’t marry them because they didn’t want to stop living it up?

I think PP is onto something and I don’t think your statements are contradictory.

[Anonymous]

At least for men in the DC Metro, I would recommend professional men to wait until early 30s. In your 20s, you are competing against guys in their 20s, 30s and 40s all trying to date the same girls, but most don't have the money or career to compete. Focus on career, have fun with dating.

When you are in your early 30s, you should look for other professional women your age who focused on their careers and are now getting ready to settle down with a family. It's a win-win.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:The best men and women get married in their 20's - early 30's. Any guy who's still single at 35 almost always has major issues.

OP, you sound like a guy who wasn't desirable in HS or college, and now you're hoping that the smaller dating pool when you're older makes you more desirable.

This is bullshit.

+1. Better question: Why are women who got married young so damn smug? You walked down an aisle and married some young guy with little or no dating experience. You didn’t cure cancer.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:If you are looking forward to being a father, the "fun single life" gets old WAY before you mid-late 30s. If you're not that into the idea of starting a family, delaying (and actually never having kids) is the right move. But lots of men sincerely want to have kids.

The best fathers I know became dads in their mid to late 30s.

But did they love that awesome single life enough to not have wanted to abandoned it in their twenties? Like, when they were in their twenties would they met have somebody they wanted to marry and have kids with but didn’t marry them because they didn’t want to stop living it up?

I think PP is onto something and I don’t think your statements are contradictory.

They were not interested in being fathers or husbands in their twenties.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:The best men and women get married in their 20's - early 30's. Any guy who's still single at 35 almost always has major issues.

OP, you sound like a guy who wasn't desirable in HS or college, and now you're hoping that the smaller dating pool when you're older makes you more desirable.

This is bullshit.

+1. Better question: Why are women who got married young so damn smug? You walked down an aisle and married some young guy with little or no dating experience. You didn’t cure cancer.

a little harsh, but that's basically what this thread is with the exception of a few real answers such as culture/religion.. No ladies your husband isn't that unique and your love isn't super special.

As for the smugness that's just society, and some women sadly still believe that getting married especially getting married early makes them as awesome as someone who cured cancer., having a man and all that.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:In my experience religious or religious and gay.

You are forgetting military. I’m from a military family. One of my brothers and over half of my male cousins were married by 25. All were active duty at the time. I think they see their buddies get married and then they have a wife to handle stuff and they get more pay.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:The best men and women get married in their 20's - early 30's. Any guy who's still single at 35 almost always has major issues.

OP, you sound like a guy who wasn't desirable in HS or college, and now you're hoping that the smaller dating pool when you're older makes you more desirable.

This is bullshit.

+1. Better question: Why are women who got married young so damn smug? You walked down an aisle and married some young guy with little or no dating experience. You didn’t cure cancer.

a little harsh, but that's basically what this thread is with the exception of a few real answers such as culture/religion.. No ladies your husband isn't that unique and your love isn't super special.

As for the smugness that's just society, and some women sadly still believe that getting married especially getting married early makes them as awesome as someone who cured cancer., having a man and all that.

No this thread is about pushing back on the idea that it doesn’t make sense for men to make sense in their twenties.

I strongly disagree that the best women get married in their 20s though. Maybe the most attractive and most otherwise desirable to men, but certainly not the best. Men are shallow.

[Anonymous]

All of the men I know and know of who married early were either religious and/or controlling/old-fashioned. They wanted to be king of a household. That works for some women. The women who married young and are actually happy are not smug and don’t really care when/if other women marry. The ones who are smug also seem to me unhappy.

[Anonymous]

When I was that age I seem to remember a feeling that love was super rare, like finding a diamond and once you found it you couldn’t be careless with it because this might be may be the last chance you would ever have. Fast forward about 20 years and I have only recently come to realize that someone else could love me and I could love them very easily.
I’ve had an awful lot of fun in my life, I hadn’t been in a committed relationship when success came I probably would not still be alive … Rang dang diggedy dang di-dang.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:The best men and women get married in their 20's - early 30's. Any guy who's still single at 35 almost always has major issues.

OP, you sound like a guy who wasn't desirable in HS or college, and now you're hoping that the smaller dating pool when you're older makes you more desirable.

This is bullshit.

+1. Better question: Why are women who got married young so damn smug? You walked down an aisle and married some young guy with little or no dating experience. You didn’t cure cancer.

a little harsh, but that's basically what this thread is with the exception of a few real answers such as culture/religion.. No ladies your husband isn't that unique and your love isn't super special.

As for the smugness that's just society, and some women sadly still believe that getting married especially getting married early makes them as awesome as someone who cured cancer., having a man and all that.

Someone picked me! I am so special! Like the “Smug Marrieds” in Bridget Jones looking down on the single people and fake “feeling sorry” for them.

[Anonymous]

When you find a great woman, you marry her. I know three men who married women I'd crawl over coals to be with. All three women are smart, sexy, motivated, keep in shape, sociable, great moms, and have at least two kids already.

It's hard to find great women/wives these days.

[Anonymous]

The men I know who intentionally put off marriage to party, date casually, etc. were not ready for marriage at 25 and now aren’t at 35. They do not appear to be getting more ready with time.

[Anonymous]

My brother got married "young" at 28. His wife is AWESOME and he absolutely made the best choice. They met when in college, but waited to get married a bit while they did grad school etc.

Sometimes I can't believe he met his wife at the sweet baby age of 19. But he did! And they've been married almost 20 years, at this point and going strong.