Nobody said it was good or bad. You insinuated that. |
I'm not sure what your point is. People with different skill sets and careers make different amounts of money. And as much as people like to smugly talk about getting to where they are through drive, a good deal of it is luck. Hard work maybe, but rarely without some luck. |
I think SAHMs are great. As are moms who work outside the house. I’m delighted every time a woman is able to do what is best for her and her family. All boats rise in the tide and all. |
I do kind of look down on them though l would never say that. I love working at a job that is very interesting and challenging. I would never choose to cook and clean and drive kids around over my job. I don’t mind cooking a few times a week and am happy to pay for cleaners and child care and private school and spend quality engaged time with my kids, over quantity. |
The longer I raise kids, the more I realize that to do it right really is a full time job. Either I should do it myself, or have a nanny who devotes herself full-time to it. |
And I would hate to miss the milestones, events and, yes, the day to day stuff you find so beneath you. I will never regret my choice to stay home. |
I look down on you because you like your job more than your kids. |
And here is the crux of the argument. |
I like my kids just fine, but not all day every day. I like both my kids, and my job. |
Goodness, what must you think of the people who clean your house and provide care for your children so you can work? |
I only roll my eyes at the “let me ask my husband first” ones. Yes, parents who work outside of the home CAN be people who ask their spouse for permission to spend any money, but in my personal experience, I e only encountered that in SAHMs.
As for other SAHMs, I admire them. I need the structure and external expectations of a job. They’re better at a unique set of skills. More power to them. |
DP but I think the response was specific to that particular poster who very clearly DOES like her job much more than her kids. |
You describe your kids the way I might describe my cat. |
I think this is something frequently debated amongst women in their 30s and 40s and thank God, completely dropped in their 50s. Not because kids are grown and it doesn’t matter, but because it becomes apparent that whether someone was a SAHM or not just doesn’t matter. Everyone made the best decisions they could for their families and hopefully ended up with purposeful, fulfilled lives and so did their kids. The meaningless comparisons just intended to prop up the one doing the comparing…they just fade away. |
What do I think about women who are content to be just wives and mothers? I think I am jealous of them! Really. I work because my salary covers our kids' private school. I'll probably be working until they graduate college and then I will become a SAHDM (Stay at home Dog Mom). |