I think their kids are lucky. |
I'm married to one. She's amazing. She gets up at 4:20, at the gym by 5:15. While she's gone I get up and make breakfast, get the kids ready for the day. She returns from the gym, I go to work, she starts teaching the kids. Takes them to ski club (where she volunteers), swim, etc. Yeah, I know, we have 4 kids and homeschool so DCUM thinks we're wacko extremists. But really, public school sucks, Catholic school was meh, with homeschooling there are now more options than there are at most schools. All 4 kids have some live online classes, in-home piano lessons, math tutoring from a local engineering student, etc. Obviously I'm the breadwinner but I try to keep it to 40 hours so I can help with meals, weeknight activities, etc. Our perspective is that her time is so valuable that we can't afford for her to work elsewhere. I know I'm being annoying by bragging on her, but it definitely works for us and I think more people would be happy doing this if they could get over the perceived social stigma. |
That fact that you replied sort of indicates you care what people think. I only judge those that do not contribute in any way to society - volunteer work, pta, kids activities, anything. If all they do is care for their kids, then I judge them as incredibly selfish and lazy. |
No one cares what you think. |
I get zero fulfillment from work personally, none. I do it for the money. I would feel fantastic having more time to workout, read, paint, garden...To me that is a much fuller life than mine now. I assume most women who are "just wives and moms" have such hobbies in addition to taking care of their families. |
Hahaha. You clearly do otherwise you wouldn’t call it out with a reply. You would’ve simply ‘risen above.’ |
PP here whose wife is a SAHM. If divorce happens she gets half the assets + child support, and in some states alimony. I mean good grief she'll be fine. The idea that she should work some soul-sucking job just in case of divorce doesn't even pencil out. |
I don’t think about them.
I do think about them once who are divorced or widowed because people make go fund me accounts and I think, nope. |
Honestly, I do not care.
I am puzzled why others do but never surprised how easily some women judge other women for making different choices. Why do you care what other people do? |
What if you decide to spend down all the assets and quit your job. You think reasonable dudes are getting divorced? |
But you do get to feel smug and superior so they are adding to your quality of life, right? |
This is real scarcity mindset. No one who is doing well financially when married is doing gofundme b/c of a divorce. |
That is a myth. You can do a lot of things but you are not giving maximum time to your children. Quality and Quantity. Own it. |
What do you think, Op? |
You want me to be honest? Deep down -- I find it pathetic. But I would never say that out loud. |