Full time parenting is tough and boring, much easier to earn and pay someone else to do it. |
I'm not yet in my 50s, but I love this response. I'm a full-time working mom, but I don't give two ****s if other moms work or not. Parenting is rough, and I don't begrudge moms who decide to do that, without also doing a full-time job. I do both because I'm passionate about my work and I'm worried about what would happen financially to my family if my husband loses his job. What DOES irritate me is if they don't volunteer for anything at all... like, regardless of what you do during the day, can you volunteer a few hours at some point during the month to help others? SAHMs who don't help out with the PTA or at whatever other group they are a part of, all the while reaping the benefits of those organizations, THAT is what irritates me. |
It’s all I ever wanted, but could never achieve it. |
Nope. Stop expecting women to work for free. If the PTA does anything worth doing then someone should be paid for it. I didn’t take a financial hit for my family in order to provide free labor for yours. |
I'm glad you're happy with your choice! A lot of families with SAHMs pay for cleaners and private school too. Do you look down on them too or just the ones that are doing their own cooking and cleaning? |
I think we know what she thinks of them. |
Eh, I'm a SAHM and I would rather you just say this to my face. Your superiority complex says nothing about me and a whole lot about you. Feel free to be honest and do let us know how that works for you! |
Wish my wife would. She doesn’t like her job. I make plenty of money and have a low stress job with lots of flexibility. We have already commingled our finances and we aren’t going to get divorced. If the situation was reversed I’d quit in a heartbeat. She adamantly refuses to and lets work stress screw things up frequently. |
Wow. Quite the commentary on volunteering and charity. You sound like a peach. |
exactly- but I love my kids more!/s this whole thing is so tired. The pope who have it the best are my grandparents generation who had full time staff to do teh driving/errand running, cooking, cleaning etc and basically had much more genteel lives and parented but weren't exhausted. Even if you SAHM the way people do now and weren't that loaded, having a cleaner or help like Alice in 5th Brady Bunch or Susan in Anne of Ingleside is so much more humane. teh amount of rushing around and peasant liek Labour we all have to do now is awful WOHM,, WAHM or SAHM. teh idea of 1 person just slavinh away with no help is breathtakingly awful and lonely |
? Yeah, rich people usually do have it best but I don't think that's a generational thing. |
I distrust SAHMs because, in my experience, they construct ridiculous sets of values and criteria for how a woman and a mother should behave, parent, and look, that practically only wealthy SAHMs can achieve, in order to judge WOHMs and feel superior. |
You can feel free to “look down on me” for not “volunteering” at the school (because you don’t want to pay for that either). |
I think I know who you are. You sound like my friend's husband, who has no appreciation for (or interest in learning) what his wife's job means to her, regardless of the stress involved. |
If you're so sure, then put everything in her name and she might feel better about pulling back a bit. |