|Inspired by a quote by Nicole Kosman’s character from the Expats. What do you truly think about women who just want to stay home, tend to the family and are happiest doing this if they can afford to?
|Good for them! Hope it works out.
|I want to know what their Plan B is when the kids leave for college or if a divorce happens.
|What’s the quote?
|I think it’s great and their kids will probably benefit from it.
It depends HOW they do it. My mother was a SAHM and our house was always dirty and she was always laying on the couch in her nightgown watching soaps and talk shows when I came home. It wasn't some super clean house with cookies fresh from the oven after school. She never made me breakfast. She never decorated the house for any holidays. She often "forgot" to take anything out to defrost for dinner and we scrambled to pull together a meal.
So someone like that, I don't feel good. A friend of mine is a SAHM and she gets dressed each morning when her kids do, makes them breakfast, makes their lunches with them, keeps up the house, is always arranging play dates, does holiday decor, makes homemade treats for her kids to pass out to their classes for their birthdays, invites people over spontaneously, etc. She's a great SAHM. She treats it like a full time job.
You mean people like me, who are very well-read, can discuss most current events with intelligence and some background knowledge, and also earn significant passive income from my dividends?
I'm doing great, thank you. Feel free to think whatever you want about me.
I do all that and I work, so am I a superhuman (yes, yes we are).
I think it's great. I am perfectly content. I have a master's degree and worked a low paying job for about 10 years before staying home as child care for one would have been my entire salary and my job sucked. I planned to go back but then things popped up and they were more important.
Why are you so judgemental against others who make different lifestyle choices than yourself?
This is me.
I bought a condo on an island. Play pickleball, workout, read, and take many online college courses for personal enrichment. Next year I’m going on 6 month cruise on a Road Scholar trip.
Plan B: For college - enjoy the freedom of not being a cook, housekeeper, laundry, and personal driver. If divorce happens, my spouse knows I'll go after everything but I cannot imagine divorce happening. The bigger concern is death and we have a paid-off house, college fund, savings and I'd get social security. And, life insurance. I could pick up a basic job if I wanted/needed to and be just fine. Believe it or not, some plan for these things. Death worries me more. I hope to die first.
We talked about a cruise like that. Sounds like fun.
|Im just happy for them and hope it works out. It can be a difficult job and can leave you economically vulnerable and dependent on your spouse.
Also describes me.
Yep, you're great! I work too, but I don't make my kids lunches or have warm cookies coming out of the oven as they arrive home from school except on their birthdays.