What makes a guy "creepy?"

[Anonymous]

I am just curious. I think I used to be considered creepy. Now, not so much. I am not sure what behaviors have changed. I know I am happier and older. I still flirt, but not with any pickup expectation. More of a friendliness. I used to get really shy around pretty women. I would look, but not talk. Now, I talk and joke. I treat men and women the same (in conversation), though I am more likely to look at a woman then a man.

For me, the big difference is people with kids. It used to be, if I was sitting drinking my coffee, people with kids would rush by me. Today, I see the parent and child, and I will interact. And there seems to be no fear.

I am thinking that the difference is I used to give off a bit of an angry vibe.

[Anonymous]

In a nutshell, a "creepy" guy has two key traits:

1. He has trouble respecting (or even understanding) the boundaries of others.

2. He is undesireable.

Both are somewhat in the eye of the beholder.

[Anonymous]

Moves too fast
Does not respect physical or emotional boundaries
Sexualizes situations
Wants too much information

[Anonymous]

Won't take no for an answer
Strange or bad sense of humor
Sweating too much
Strange clothing

[Anonymous]

Doing things that are unexpected or strange -- talking to strangers too much, paying for everyone's meal.

[Anonymous]

1. Too touchy feely
2. Weird eye contact
3. Asking strange or inappropriate questions of people you don't know well

[Anonymous]

Googling your date and then asking questions about what you found on Google.

[Anonymous]

Calling 25 times in a row before the first date just to "Say Hi!"

[Anonymous]

Too many compliments, and underlying short temper, and perverted jokes. And helmet hair.

[Anonymous]

Intense interest and goopy overaffection, followed by anger when affection is not returned.

[Anonymous]

Telling you he "just knows" you are the one for him.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:In a nutshell, a "creepy" guy has two key traits:

1. He has trouble respecting (or even understanding) the boundaries of others.

2. He is undesireable.

Both are somewhat in the eye of the beholder.

I think this hits it pretty well. It's a subjective thing, and it has to do with picking up and responding well to social cues. Desirability is going to influence what sort of cues he is given in the first place.

[Anonymous]

Lack of respect for boundaries and a refusal to notice and respond to social cues are what makes someone creepy to me. Things like staring at someone for a long time, continuing to push a conversation even when the person is clearly not interested, making inappropriate remarks, invading personal space, pretending to a level of intimacy you don't really have, etc.

[Anonymous]

Poor social skills, minor but persistent boundary violations, inability to accept a polite "no". A lack of respect for women in general and an inability to consider the perspectives of others. Selfishness, self-centeredness, and narcissism.

Sometimes, poor hygiene and eccentric appearance.

A sense of entitlement to women's time, attention, and bodies.

Too much time on the internet reading "pickup" sites or chatting with similar men. This only reinforces creepy behaviors.

[Anonymous]

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