Vent about marrying someone from a very underdeveloped country
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Anonymous
All you posters touting India as some kind of utopia are forgetting that Bangladesh used to be part of India. |
Anonymous
The restaurant is a lot nicer than OP described. I mean the cushions may be dirty but who cares. She is getting out the house. |
Anonymous
Whoever is sweeping the yard needs their $7/month pay docked down to $6.50. /s |
Anonymous
Op here. We went once and can't go easily. I would go have coffee every day but dh will say it's excessive blah blah. |
Anonymous
Oh boy OP - I am definitely in the "make an adventure of it now and make sure you're only there for two weeks next time" but I can see why you are feeling trapped and stressed. |
Anonymous
| OP now that you know how your husband really is and really cares (or doesn’t) for his family, what are you going to do when you get back home? |
Anonymous
I'm enjoying this thread as a spectator. Would hate to be there. But I am just soaking up all the great information about Bangla, India, and also the side posts on what people do here in the US. Wishing you the best, OP. |
Anonymous
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Op, you have a DH problem not a Bangladesh problem. If he was more attuned to your needs, this trip would be at least semi interesting. You know what to do for the next time. Put your foot down. If you don't then it's on you.
Whatever you say about shopping and then feeling like it's expensive is normal behavior. They don't spend much and they expect visitors to be the same. We on the other hand realize how cheap it is when we convert the US dollar. If you love shopping and DH hates it, find a teen girl or college girl from among his relatives and take them for company. Your DH needs to do something or you're going to be resentful. |
Anonymous
Omg. You made me laugh. |
Anonymous
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Interesting video. Looks like Faridpur is a fun place! They have good roads, bridges, fun and friendly people. I’m also surprised that women can walk around with their heads uncovered. OP and all her Indian allies make it sound like a hell hole. |
Anonymous
I'm from India. Op's post made me realize that what is normal for me - like having keys in cupboards, locks for everything, waiting for hours for a doctor visit (this is kind of like emergency room visits in the US, but done daily) is weird for someone else not from the country. We have maids, servants, random people coming and going, so the lock thing probably started as a way to prevent theft Her home does have a decent china cabinet, crockery, a sofa, dining table etc so they are not poor. It's just the clutter and other things that add up. |
Anonymous
They say it was much nicer back then with far fewer people and wealthier. It was also part of Pakistan for about 25 years. |
Anonymous
Op here I explained this. He says he doesn't spend on himself because he would rather give the money to poor people liken the cleaner. I asked him to increase her salary to $30 a month. He said its not her only job. She comes every day for an hour and has other jobs. Dh really does donate a ton of money to poor people especially here. His family is building a mosque close by and he's funding a lot of it. Face plant. Now I feel like the bad one but in the US he doesn't like to spend either. Seems more wise to do it here because then there would be more money to donate. |
Anonymous
Maybe what is best for the United States would be: - far less immigration. |
Anonymous
For real. Threatens to divorce her if she doesn’t go and now she’s all apologist about him while complaining for page after page about him. Would love to know how they met and fell in love. And what’s keeping them together after threatening divorce. |