DH has had a standing fri night zoom call with college buddies since pandemic began

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:A regularly scheduled call with friends seems pretty healthy during the pandemic. Its better than him being antisocial or heavily drinking by himself. I sense a bit of jealousy.

Of course she’s jealous!

He gets to have her handle childcare for him so he can talk to his friends every week. The ONE time she needs his help so she talk to her friends, he passive aggressively gaslights her “I put the kid to bed” HAHa, he’s watching tv in bed! Sooo clever!

Who wouldn’t be jealous?

Same. I’m desperately jealous of everyone who has a wife.

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Who puts both kids to bed the other 6 nights?

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I’d never ask for a weekly standing date with friends for Friday. Maybe twice a month or join when I can. Neither would my partner. Maybe a Wednesday, but not end of the week when we are all run down from pandemic pressure.

[Anonymous]

Yes, you are crazy abusive and controlling. You knew he had a standing appointment once/week. Yet you just had to create a conflict, passive aggressively try to push things off, and then lost it like a crazy person. So embarrassing.

If you’re resentful about his Friday calls just say so and talk about it like an adult.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Yes, you are crazy abusive and controlling. You knew he had a standing appointment once/week. Yet you just had to create a conflict, passive aggressively try to push things off, and then lost it like a crazy person. So embarrassing.

If you’re resentful about his Friday calls just say so and talk about it like an adult.

*He* created a conflict by not handling his parenting. *She* put one of two kids down before her call.

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Anonymous wrote:Team DH.

You sound like a psycho. You can’t give 1 night out of 7 ... wow!

And she can’t get 1 night in 10 months??? Wow!

There were other days of the week on those 10 months. Did she ask for them?

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Anonymous wrote:So the violation was handing the kid a screen so he could do something for himself? Don't all parents do that at some point? A parents mental health is far more important than an occasional bit of extra screentime for the kids in these times

DC has already watched no lie 4 hours of TV today after distance learning ended and while we finished our job responsibilities fri afternoon. Throwing him back on screens when he is supposed to be sleeping so you're not late for a zoom call that you have done every fri since March is a really messed up sense of priorities to me.

Wait, this is a kid old enough to be in DL, and yet he can't entertain himself at all without a screen? How did you create that?

I assumed 2 year old, because whining about how hard it is to put a kid over 4 to bed is just weird. And not being able to handle being up late in a kid that old is weird too.

[Anonymous]

So he wants to zoom ONE night a week with his friends and you shouted at him. Yeah not nice.

It was passive aggressive of you to ask him to do that the one night he wanted to talk to his friends, you could have asked him to do it other nights when he was free.

I feel really sorry for your spouse and you owe him a massive apology for shouting at him in front of his friends.

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00.36 here: Just realised you scheduled another zoom with your friends on the same night.

Still doesn't change my opinion. You decided to double up on the scheduling so if the kid wasn't put to bed by your standards deal with it rather than shout at your husband.

I would have told your friends you needed to do it another night. You accommodated your friends when they couldn't zoom another night but didn't accommodate your husband's plans. Really this is on you. Your DH has a scheduled thing with his friends every Friday night, you know this so it's on you if you double booked. Simply plan it another night even if that's in a couple of weeks time.

You caused this whole situation, this is totally on you OP. I am sure you could have organised another time with your friends, it may have been a little longer to wait for it to happen but it could have been done, people are not that busy. Really they aren't.

[Anonymous]

NP. These posts are in bizarro world. OP, rest assured every rational, logical person with cognitive function who reads your post would side with you.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:NP. These posts are in bizarro world. OP, rest assured every rational, logical person with cognitive function who reads your post would side with you.

+1.

[Anonymous]

Setting your kid up to watch tv isn’t putting them to bed just like fixing them a bowl of ice cream isn’t making them dinner.

Sounds like you lost your temper, OP, but your husband behaved selfishly.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:NP. These posts are in bizarro world. OP, rest assured every rational, logical person with cognitive function who reads your post would side with you.

+1.

Agree. It’s likely one or two sad sacks being Internet he-men defiant.

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Anonymous wrote:NP. These posts are in bizarro world. OP, rest assured every rational, logical person with cognitive function who reads your post would side with you.

+1.

+2.

If a parent says they are going to put their child to bed they should be capable of completing that basic task...

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:NP. These posts are in bizarro world. OP, rest assured every rational, logical person with cognitive function who reads your post would side with you.

+1.

+2.

If a parent says they are going to put their child to bed they should be capable of completing that basic task...

I’d have been so thankful you’d supported my personal time for so many weeks, I’d have put both kids to bed and not taken my call in case they needed something.