Is picky eating a deal breaker

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Anonymous wrote:Deciding to not eat meat, with the exception of fish, is really not the same as deciding gluten is bad for you.

Fish is well-known as healthy, and meat has well-known problems.

People need to stop equating an actually healthy diet with weird fads.

Some people feel that Gluten has well known problems as well.

[Anonymous]

Deal breakers would be: gluten free, no (or limited) vegetables, and/or very low/middle class midwestern palette (casseroles, meat/potatoes, imitation cheese, canned soups).


Being with someone who likes a wide variety of food, lots of fresh fruits and vegetables, ethnic foods, new recipes, new restaurants, is not all more fun and enjoyable for both eating and cooking, but is healthier for you as well.

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Anonymous wrote:I wouldn't care about mac and cheese, red meat, or fried chicken, but the lack of herbs, spices, and vegetables would be a problem.

I think there is picky and then there is PICKY! This probably won't be a popular opinion but I actually don't even like going out to dinner with people who are extremely picky. I once had experience eating out to dinner with someone who couldn't find ANYTHING she would eat on the menu which had apps, salads, soup, sandwiches, fish, chicken, etc, and ended up ordering a grilled cheese and french fries from the kid's menu. It was weird! Couldn't imagine living with someone like this!

You’re the weird one!

-Not a picky eater

DP, no way. An adult without allergies should be able to find something acceptable on most any menu. To resort to eating a grilled cheese from the kid's menu is really bizarre. I am definitely not the weird one if we go to a restaurant and you sit there eating buttered toast because any of the other 25+ options was not ok.

You’re the weird one if it bothers you.

Yeah, sorry. It's really limiting. All ethnic options are out. Anything "fancy" is out. Call me weird, but I enjoy eating at restaurants with adults who don't require a children's menu.

DP—my family took DD to a French restaurant for a graduation. One of her friends couldn’t find anything on the menu except for Mac and cheese. She ordered it with a boatload of “instructions” to the waiter on what not to add, what to add, how to cook it, .... After the dish comes out, she takes one bite and complains to the waiter. They finally take it back, are very apologetic, and offer to comp her meal. She ate a salad without anything on it for the rest of the meal. It was so embarrassing that she treated the staff that way. I don’t care that she’s picky, but care that her behavior was so rude as our guest.

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Anonymous wrote:I wouldn't care about mac and cheese, red meat, or fried chicken, but the lack of herbs, spices, and vegetables would be a problem.

I think there is picky and then there is PICKY! This probably won't be a popular opinion but I actually don't even like going out to dinner with people who are extremely picky. I once had experience eating out to dinner with someone who couldn't find ANYTHING she would eat on the menu which had apps, salads, soup, sandwiches, fish, chicken, etc, and ended up ordering a grilled cheese and french fries from the kid's menu. It was weird! Couldn't imagine living with someone like this!

You’re the weird one!

-Not a picky eater

DP, no way. An adult without allergies should be able to find something acceptable on most any menu. To resort to eating a grilled cheese from the kid's menu is really bizarre. I am definitely not the weird one if we go to a restaurant and you sit there eating buttered toast because any of the other 25+ options was not ok.

+100 I can't stand going out to eat with this type of person (and avoid it). It would definitely be a dealbreaker for me.

[Anonymous]

I'm picky and I have allergies. I've been married for 22 years. It's fine. My DH and I share cooking and in non-covid times, he goes out to eat with friends at places I can't eat.

I'm flexible though - I can always find something to eat and I know how to cook so can always cook something for myself and the kids.

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What does he drink? If it's soda or light beer, double no-no. If he enjoys (truly enjoys) rare whisky, aged tequila or some other spirit then that would make him more interesting. If he only likes "delicious" drinks, ugh.

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Anonymous wrote:I wouldn't care about mac and cheese, red meat, or fried chicken, but the lack of herbs, spices, and vegetables would be a problem.

I think there is picky and then there is PICKY! This probably won't be a popular opinion but I actually don't even like going out to dinner with people who are extremely picky. I once had experience eating out to dinner with someone who couldn't find ANYTHING she would eat on the menu which had apps, salads, soup, sandwiches, fish, chicken, etc, and ended up ordering a grilled cheese and french fries from the kid's menu. It was weird! Couldn't imagine living with someone like this!

You’re the weird one!

-Not a picky eater

DP, no way. An adult without allergies should be able to find something acceptable on most any menu. To resort to eating a grilled cheese from the kid's menu is really bizarre. I am definitely not the weird one if we go to a restaurant and you sit there eating buttered toast because any of the other 25+ options was not ok.

You’re the weird one if it bothers you.

NP. No, it’s totally embarrassing to go out to dinner with toddlers trapped in adult bodies. Also, if you are ever at a job interview at a restaurant, just know that your immature tastes will be noted. I dine out a lot with clients, and can’t have someone representing the firm who orders chicken tenders or buttered noodles. Most places we dine wouldn’t even have those as options.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Deal breakers would be: gluten free, no (or limited) vegetables, and/or very low/middle class midwestern palette (casseroles, meat/potatoes, imitation cheese, canned soups).


Being with someone who likes a wide variety of food, lots of fresh fruits and vegetables, ethnic foods, new recipes, new restaurants, is not all more fun and enjoyable for both eating and cooking, but is healthier for you as well.

My DH was like this when we married in our mid-20’s. Barely ate any vegetables or fruits. Through the years though he has greatly expanded his palate and will eat any cuisine and most foods and flavors. My in-laws on the other hand continue in their ways.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I wouldn't care about mac and cheese, red meat, or fried chicken, but the lack of herbs, spices, and vegetables would be a problem.

I think there is picky and then there is PICKY! This probably won't be a popular opinion but I actually don't even like going out to dinner with people who are extremely picky. I once had experience eating out to dinner with someone who couldn't find ANYTHING she would eat on the menu which had apps, salads, soup, sandwiches, fish, chicken, etc, and ended up ordering a grilled cheese and french fries from the kid's menu. It was weird! Couldn't imagine living with someone like this!

You have just described my mother. OP has to decide if she wants to have her anniversary dinner at Applebee's every year. My mother won't eat any ethnic food including Chinese. I married an Asian guy and when my mother visits she eats peanut butter sandwiches and breakfast cereal and not much else. Very hard to explain to my kids.

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Anonymous wrote:I don’t think it matters. Cook separately. Problem solved.

Seems impractical. How does this work if OP (eventually) has a family?

I did it with a family for a decade. It is fine.

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A building block of my marriage is DH is appreciative of anything I make. Seemingly small thing, but I'm not a great cook and if he had high expectations of being catered it really wouldn't work.

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Anonymous wrote:That level of picky eater would be a dealbreaker for me.

I don’t eat everything—I’m a pescatarian for one—but I like to try new cuisines and couldn’t deal with someone like that.

Is this the new " I'm a vegan" " I'm gluten free" I keep seeing it in people's profiles?

It's definitely the new trend. PP being a pescatarian had nothing to do with the topic yet pp brought it up much like the trendy vegan and glute free , keto, people did/do.

There are people with legit gluten issues/allergies like my wife. There are people who realize that they feel a lot better, stomach feels a lot better, and shed weight when cutting out or reducing intake of gluten. Then there are morons who try to be “in the know” like the woman sitting across from me at a restaurant who ordered her meal and then asked for the gluten on the side (she ordered a pizza).

Don’t group everyone with the morons by calling it a trend.

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Anonymous wrote:That level of picky eater would be a dealbreaker for me.

I don’t eat everything—I’m a pescatarian for one—but I like to try new cuisines and couldn’t deal with someone like that.

Is this the new " I'm a vegan" " I'm gluten free" I keep seeing it in people's profiles?

It's definitely the new trend. PP being a pescatarian had nothing to do with the topic yet pp brought it up much like the trendy vegan and glute free , keto, people did/do.

There are people with legit gluten issues/allergies like my wife. There are people who realize that they feel a lot better, stomach feels a lot better, and shed weight when cutting out or reducing intake of gluten. Then there are morons who try to be “in the know” like the woman sitting across from me at a restaurant who ordered her meal and then asked for the gluten on the side (she ordered a pizza).

Don’t group everyone with the morons by calling it a trend.

Doesn't matter if it's a trend or not. It's a legitimate dealbreaker. Someone who is passionate about being a foodie and someone with many dietary restrictions may not be compatible.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Total dealbreaker for me. I don’t want to be with a man who eats like a toddler.

+1. I dated a guy for 5 years who basically ate cereal and pizza (this was college and then a year after). When we finally broke up and I started going to fun restaurants again, with people who actually enjoyed the food instead of sitting there disgusted while I ate, it was amazing. Never again.

[Anonymous]

Picky eating can definitely signal rigidity in other aspects of their personality.