Is picky eating a deal breaker
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Anonymous
| DH is picky - no vegetables, no fish, nothing pickled. I think it’s funny. I’m more of a eat to live type of person and don’t care what he does/doesn’t eat. We cook meat together and I add vegetable sides if I want them. It’s never been an issue for us. I fast a lot and only eat at certain times which I think people find much more annoying. |
Anonymous
You’re the weird one if it bothers you. |
Anonymous
How about you stop. If it's as old as you say it is then no one cares. You are not special Eat your fish and keep scrolling. |
Anonymous
I kind of get it, it just seems immature. |
Anonymous
I'm an omnivore married to a longtime vegetarian. He is lucky that he happens to be a wonderful person, because take it from me: it is SUPER annoying (not always, because I enjoy many vegetarian meals, but often) to have to work around my spouse's diet as well as my kids' pickiness. I got so fed up at one point that I was close to telling him he had to try fish or SOMETHING to expand the slate of meals we could both eat. |
Anonymous
Yeah, sorry. It's really limiting. All ethnic options are out. Anything "fancy" is out. Call me weird, but I enjoy eating at restaurants with adults who don't require a children's menu. |
Anonymous
I mean, it "bothers" me in as much as that it is somewhat remarkable and I find it either very odd or disordered. It's not going to ruin my day or anything, but I'm going to notice. I don't think I am weird for thinking it is messed up you have adults that are so extremely picky it is basically a sensory disorder. See, "I only eat white colored foods!" |
Anonymous
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The picky eaters I know are all high-maintenance in other ways. I work as a nanny and it’s interesting because I get to be a fly on the wall in other’s homes. The picky eater adults I have worked for:
One dad who only ate meat and carbs didn’t think it was a big deal if his daughters had cheetos for lunch on his watch. He also wanted to watch Fox News at top volume 24/7 and refused to ever tell the kids “no” about anything, ever. A mom with a bunch of food issues who was constantly on some kind of special diet (GF, GAPS, etc.) but then would eat Nutella by the scoopful when stressed, and was VERY controlling about what the kids ate. She also had other bizarre or nitpicky rules for the children about what they could wear, watch, etc. eventually devolved into an antimasker. A dad who mostly eats a list of canned/frozen meals and is super controlling about what others do. The kids weren’t allowed to color unless I had a wet wash cloth in my hand to wipe if they went off the page (using washable markers that easily wipe up), laundry had to be folded with military precision, he complained constantly about not being able to sleep but refused to try melatonin or white noise or going to bed at a reasonable hour. Ended up separated. In short the picky eating may or may not be annoying to you but IME, it tends to be a manifestation of someone who in general lacks self-awareness and emotional control and healthy coping habits and will end up making those they marry carry the burden of managing their moods and needs because they aren’t emotionally self-sufficient. |
Anonymous
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My DH does not eat:
any kind of seafood meat on the bone (non-filet) blueberries, cherries, cranberries, grapefruit, pineapple quinoa or oatmeal eggplant, zucchini, artichokes, squash, pumpkin, capers, olives garlic cinnamon, cloves, dill sweet potatoes any cheese except cheddaresque types or mozzarella raisins, prunes, dates others I'm forgetting We've been married for 15 years. It's impossible to eat as a family and give the kids the variety necessary for optimum health. He typically cooks meat and potatoes or pasta for himself and them. I cook my vegetarian meals separately but share veggies with the kids. |
Anonymous
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Just remembered that DH also does not eat cucumbers or
beans of any kind or ginger. |
Anonymous
Interesting. I’m a vegetarian DW and do most of the cooking. I make tons of vegetarian dishes (that they love) but my DH and kids are total carnivores so I regularly have meat on the side - grilled chicken, sausage, meatballs, etc. I also cook meat dishes for them and adapt it for myself — so if they are eating sloppy joes, I eat a veggie burger, or if they are eating a chicken dish I’ll have some marinated tofu in the fridge that I’ll substitute. It’s been a non-issue, but maybe I’m more flexible than your DH? I will admit I don’t make things like pot roast, rubs, brisket, etc. - it’s always just chicken or ground beef, which they love but might be boring to most - I’m just much better at cooking vegetarian than meat and my family doesn’t much care, thankfully. |
Anonymous
| I think if you love to cook and/or are a “foodie” it might be challenging. Does he have a sensitive stomach? I wonder why no herbs or spices. |
Anonymous
Could you maybe make a vegetarian “meatloaf” or lentil burgers, tofu, etc. at the start of the week (or keep microwaveable vegetarian meatballs, etc. in the freezer) and go ahead and make what you want - fish, roast beef, etc. and just sub the vegetarian protein for the meat entree? You should be able to make fish for you and your child...is there a reason your DH can’t eat a meat substitute with whatever sides you have. |
Anonymous
| We all have quirks and nobody is perfect. If he’s otherwise a good person then I would give it a shot. But know that if you do have kids with him, the no vegetable thing will likely bite you in the behind. Getting kids to eat their vegetables is easier if they see both parents eating them, not just one. |
Anonymous
Did this come out overtime or did you know this before mariage. I;m curious how open people are with their pickiness. |