Is picky eating a deal breaker
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Anonymous
Young women who eat like that have an eating disorder 98% of the time. |
Anonymous
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It depends on how much you like food. If you're okay bending to the taste of the picky eater, then it's okay. If not, it gets old and irritating really fast. I'm dating someone who refuses to eat vegetables (except raw peppers and tomatoes), eggs, beans, legumes, most healthy grains (farro, quinoa, barley, etc.), fish and all seafood. He hasn't eaten any of these things since he was a child, if ever, and refuses to try any of them. We eat dinner together most nights, and if I don't make a separate meal for myself, we eat meat and potatoes with basic seasoning, no sauce. Every day. He generally prefers takeout to home cooked food, but likes very basic takeout like pizza or chicken tenders.
I was raised eating everything, love food, and am a good cook, and it is really upsetting to me that I can't enjoy a nice non-meat and potatoes meal with him. I don't want to order a whole side at a restaurant if only I'll be eating it or go to a place where he can only order one thing on the menu or spend time cooking a delicious dish that only I'll eat, so it limits my options too. And like a PP said, cooking two meals is more expensive and much less efficient, so we end up eating meat and potatoes a lot (I add a vegetable). He has good qualities that obviously outweigh this issue, but it's significant and actually impacts me daily. |
Anonymous
| I would miss the fun of grocery shopping and then cooking together which is a great pandemic activity. It could also affect travel which I adore. For me it's kind of like not wanting to travel places- it's important to me and something I relish so I couldn't date someone who at least was willing to try. |
Anonymous
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Total deal breaker.
Ok: vegetarian, vegan, pescatarian, etc. Or someone with health issues (Crohn’s, celiac, etc), not liking a short list of foods Not okay: general pickiness, only likes bland foods, won’t try new things. |
Anonymous
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Hard pass
...and I thought my husband not liking sushi was a deal breaker lol! (I found this out after he took me for sushi on Valentine's Day). |
Anonymous
NP here technically so is foie gras. It's considered low class not because of the nutritional content but because it's a traditional food among AA and the lower socioeconmic groups. |
Anonymous
No one actually cares that you eat fish, and I think that was originally pps point people put this in their profiles to seem special. And stop posting as your husband it's weird. |
Anonymous
| Having been married to a picky eater for 15 plus years, I would take a hard pass. It is frustrating and you miss out on so much. There is joy in cooking and trying new foods and you don’t have a partner to share that with. |
Anonymous
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I have cooked 3 different dinners in one night for: 1) DH and me 2) Stepson 3) our toddler. I hate that, because my idea of family is sharing the same meal at the table together, but whatever. It's OK.
I am just thinking that dealing with a picky DH or SO would be totally annoying once you also possibly have picky children. The pickiness does not necessarily align among the picky! And then holiday dinners are basically impossible, etc. Lucky for me, my DH are similar eaters, versatile and adventurous. We bonded over food over fancy restaurant dinners and homecooked meals together when we dated. That said, I probably could have adjusted to a vegetarian, pescatarian or gluten-free person, so long as they also were not overly picky. I cannot eat the same as stepson (meat, cheese, bread only) or the toddler (nothing mixed up or spicy). |
Anonymous
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The list of things my BIL won't eat dwarfs the list of things he will eat. He got all excited when he read that Warren Buffet also refuses to eat "anything a 4 year old won't eat."
Apparently, even the world's greatest chefs are forced to make Buffet a hamburger and fries. It's all he will eat. It's asinine. |
Anonymous
+1 I had the same thought. And similarly for the adult men, I would worry, like others have mentioned, that he’s rigid in other areas. |
Anonymous
I am this PP. It came out during our first two years together. We met in a big city in Asia and constantly dined out during the courtship phase. Understanding came gradually. I used to love to cook new dishes like shrimp curry, osso bucco, white chocolate mousse, pumpkin soup, etc. that met with tepid approval and the confession that one of the ingredients was on the "TO BE AVOIDED" list. |
Anonymous
I would have expected that living in Asia converted your husband into a foodie? |
Anonymous
I'm a longtime vegetarian and the usual cook. My kids and husband do eat meat. Usually I'll make a vegetarian meal and if my husband wants he will also grill up a steak or cook some fish, and I do grab a rotisserie chicken or turkey meatballs at the store when I grocery shop. If the meat is more the focus of the meal I make myself some tofu or a veggie burger. They all eat vegetarian food and aren't picky, and I will eat pretty much anything as long as it doesn't have meat in it. So it hasn't been hard at all for us. |
Anonymous
| Medical condition aside, if your eating habits have a name then it's a no from me. People who are unadventurous in the kitchen are unadventurous everywhere. |