Is picky eating a deal breaker

[Anonymous]

OP what does he typically eat?

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Anonymous wrote:Not likiling most vegetables would be a deal breaker.

OP here. I just found that bizarre, especially added to everything else. Ad I admit I was a little turned off by his revelation, we haven't slept together, yet but after learning of his bland tastes I have wondered if that crosses over to the bedroom.

Take one for the team and report back to us OP

[Anonymous]

Well, I never considered this when I was young and stupid and dating but I’ve now been married to a picky eater for 12 years. Its not a deal breaker, but it is very annoying. We have 4 kids and he rarely eats what I make for everyone. He will make his own meal after I just spent a lot of time cooking for us. He is not fun to plan holiday menus with or special celebrations around. He often rejects restaurants (non covid times) and studies menus beforehand closely before committing.

He doesn’t like- red meat, pork, mushrooms, goat cheese, most seafood or shell fish. Doesn’t like creamy sauces or things with weird textures. Is very vocal about these dislikes to whoever is listening. It has embarassed me in front of friends.

I never thought of the link between being a controlling person and picky eating but it is true in this case. However, he is very good in bed so makes up for it!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Well, I never considered this when I was young and stupid and dating but I’ve now been married to a picky eater for 12 years. Its not a deal breaker, but it is very annoying. We have 4 kids and he rarely eats what I make for everyone. He will make his own meal after I just spent a lot of time cooking for us. He is not fun to plan holiday menus with or special celebrations around. He often rejects restaurants (non covid times) and studies menus beforehand closely before committing.

He doesn’t like- red meat, pork, mushrooms, goat cheese, most seafood or shell fish. Doesn’t like creamy sauces or things with weird textures. Is very vocal about these dislikes to whoever is listening. It has embarassed me in front of friends.

I never thought of the link between being a controlling person and picky eating but it is true in this case. However, he is very good in bed so makes up for it!

I dunno. I don't know if I could get hot for a man who whined like a toddler at dinner. But I spend a decade in preschool, and when I was dating I dropped any man who acted as one of my students.

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Anonymous wrote:Well, I never considered this when I was young and stupid and dating but I’ve now been married to a picky eater for 12 years. Its not a deal breaker, but it is very annoying. We have 4 kids and he rarely eats what I make for everyone. He will make his own meal after I just spent a lot of time cooking for us. He is not fun to plan holiday menus with or special celebrations around. He often rejects restaurants (non covid times) and studies menus beforehand closely before committing.

He doesn’t like- red meat, pork, mushrooms, goat cheese, most seafood or shell fish. Doesn’t like creamy sauces or things with weird textures. Is very vocal about these dislikes to whoever is listening. It has embarassed me in front of friends.

I never thought of the link between being a controlling person and picky eating but it is true in this case. However, he is very good in bed so makes up for it!

Very weird...so has he even tried these ingredients that he hates? How about hiding some in his food and see if he notices?

[Anonymous]

I would be happy I only have a limited number of dishes to make for his dinner.

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Anonymous wrote:Well, I never considered this when I was young and stupid and dating but I’ve now been married to a picky eater for 12 years. Its not a deal breaker, but it is very annoying. We have 4 kids and he rarely eats what I make for everyone. He will make his own meal after I just spent a lot of time cooking for us. He is not fun to plan holiday menus with or special celebrations around. He often rejects restaurants (non covid times) and studies menus beforehand closely before committing.

He doesn’t like- red meat, pork, mushrooms, goat cheese, most seafood or shell fish. Doesn’t like creamy sauces or things with weird textures. Is very vocal about these dislikes to whoever is listening. It has embarassed me in front of friends.

I never thought of the link between being a controlling person and picky eating but it is true in this case. However, he is very good in bed so makes up for it!

I have taught my 10 yo not to say he “hates” certain foods. Just say no thanks! Or “I am not a fan, thank you”!

[Anonymous]

I have a friend who dated a guy who only ate cheese or pepperoni pizza (and like cereal for breakfast), and maybe he could handle pasta with red sauce occasionally. Seriously, primarily just pizza. It didn’t last.

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Anonymous wrote:I don’t think it matters. Cook separately. Problem solved.

Seems impractical. How does this work if OP (eventually) has a family?

I'm an omnivore married to a longtime vegetarian. He is lucky that he happens to be a wonderful person, because take it from me: it is SUPER annoying (not always, because I enjoy many vegetarian meals, but often) to have to work around my spouse's diet as well as my kids' pickiness. I got so fed up at one point that I was close to telling him he had to try fish or SOMETHING to expand the slate of meals we could both eat.

Interesting. I’m a vegetarian DW and do most of the cooking. I make tons of vegetarian dishes (that they love) but my DH and kids are total carnivores so I regularly have meat on the side - grilled chicken, sausage, meatballs, etc. I also cook meat dishes for them and adapt it for myself — so if they are eating sloppy joes, I eat a veggie burger, or if they are eating a chicken dish I’ll have some marinated tofu in the fridge that I’ll substitute. It’s been a non-issue, but maybe I’m more flexible than your DH? I will admit I don’t make things like pot roast, rubs, brisket, etc. - it’s always just chicken or ground beef, which they love but might be boring to most - I’m just much better at cooking vegetarian than meat and my family doesn’t much care, thankfully.

I had to check the date, wondering if I wrote this years ago or something and didn't remember! This is me exactly.

[Anonymous]

Had a vegetarian BF in my 20s - didn’t care either way.
Have a vegan friend and I avoid going out to eat with her. Irks me she is willing to pay full price for a salad with just grass in it, and feel guilty eating tasty food.
I would also feel weird having a vegetarian spouse cook meat for me. They wouldn’t even taste it, and it’s anything but being prepared with love lol

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Anonymous wrote:I would be happy I only have a limited number of dishes to make for his dinner.

But it means that when he cooks for you, it’s going to be bland and awful. Do you like to cook? If so, why would you want to be restricted in what you are cooking? If you don’t like to cook, why wouldn’t you expect your bland husband to cook the awful food he wants?

[Anonymous]

I used to date a bulimic with a killer body. So much better than my ex who was a human garbage disposal.

[Anonymous]

I’m a very picky eater. My DH loves everything, including me. My eating does not bother him one bit.

[Anonymous]

I think people like this have mental problems that will show up in other areas of life too. Hard pass.

[Anonymous]

My boyfriend my freshman year in college was like this. It got old after we left campus for the summer. In his case it kind of applied to the rest of his personality too.