Has anyone in here had an affair with a mutual friend or a neighbor of theirs ?

[Anonymous]

I had a neighbor come knock on my door after years of living in the same building. I was young, newly divorced single mother, he had a girlfriend. We never got past hugs though. It took some serious restraints on his part.
I got into a serious relationship and then he became single. I might give him a visit one day when we are both single, and finish what it ca 15 years later.
He is quite a lot older than I, but that's what I like.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Before you flame me please know that I feel awful about this and have truly changed. When I was an au pair I slept with my boss (it’s weird for me to say host dad)He was really sweet and his wife was awful. She would pick fights all the time and was disrespectful to people at work, in her family even to the kids and I. She used to go on business trips and girl trips all the time. A lot of times when she was away the kids would go to visit their grandparents. I stayed in the basement and one night went upstairs and we started talking and one thing led to another. We had an affair for months. He got really brave and would come down to my room when she went to bed. I thought I was in love with him and he told me he loved me. It become really awkward after a while. The closer we became, the more I annoyed I got when she was around. It become so unhealthy that I rematch and went across the country. After my year was up (back then you couldn’t extend) I came back to DC and I occasionally see them. They are still married. Anyway I see how horrible that was and I’m so sorry I ever got involved in that situation.

You were annoyed by her. The gall of you. You are a horrible person.

I don’t think she’s a horrible person. How old are au pairs? 19-20? So very very young. I can totally see how pp’s experience could have happened-older man takes advantage of much younger, maybe a little naive woman. Who among us haven’t done stupid, embarrassing things in our teens and twenties? Pp is presumably older and wiser now, and knows what a bad situation she had been in at the time.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Before you flame me please know that I feel awful about this and have truly changed. When I was an au pair I slept with my boss (it’s weird for me to say host dad)He was really sweet and his wife was awful. She would pick fights all the time and was disrespectful to people at work, in her family even to the kids and I. She used to go on business trips and girl trips all the time. A lot of times when she was away the kids would go to visit their grandparents. I stayed in the basement and one night went upstairs and we started talking and one thing led to another. We had an affair for months. He got really brave and would come down to my room when she went to bed. I thought I was in love with him and he told me he loved me. It become really awkward after a while. The closer we became, the more I annoyed I got when she was around. It become so unhealthy that I rematch and went across the country. After my year was up (back then you couldn’t extend) I came back to DC and I occasionally see them. They are still married. Anyway I see how horrible that was and I’m so sorry I ever got involved in that situation.

Finally, someone doing the au pair thing right!

[Anonymous]

I had a fling with a neighbor one summer while I was in college. She was maybe 30-31. They owned the lake house next to my parents. Looking back on it, I feel bad about it but I feel like she seduced me and enjoyed doing stuff to mess with my head.

[Anonymous]

^^ au pair - I was a nanny for two years for a wonderful family and I had a big time crush on the dad but never did anything about it thank God! They were living in California and we were scheduled to go on a vacation to Hawaii but the mom couldn’t go at the last minute due to work reasons but the the rest of us went. We stayed at a condo and for a week I felt like a very young mom because that’s what I was doing except for no sex.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:^^ au pair - I was a nanny for two years for a wonderful family and I had a big time crush on the dad but never did anything about it thank God! They were living in California and we were scheduled to go on a vacation to Hawaii but the mom couldn’t go at the last minute due to work reasons but the the rest of us went. We stayed at a condo and for a week I felt like a very young mom because that’s what I was doing except for no sex.

Plenty of young moms don't have sex, so you were getting a realistic experience (except the Hawaii part maybe!)

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:^^ au pair - I was a nanny for two years for a wonderful family and I had a big time crush on the dad but never did anything about it thank God! They were living in California and we were scheduled to go on a vacation to Hawaii but the mom couldn’t go at the last minute due to work reasons but the the rest of us went. We stayed at a condo and for a week I felt like a very young mom because that’s what I was doing except for no sex.

Did the dad ever make a move on you? A week at a condo on the beach can be very enticing.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:^^ au pair - I was a nanny for two years for a wonderful family and I had a big time crush on the dad but never did anything about it thank God! They were living in California and we were scheduled to go on a vacation to Hawaii but the mom couldn’t go at the last minute due to work reasons but the the rest of us went. We stayed at a condo and for a week I felt like a very young mom because that’s what I was doing except for no sex.

Did the dad ever make a move on you? A week at a condo on the beach can be very enticing.

Not once and back then I looked darn good in a bikini. The people we met all assumed I was his wife and when they found out I was the nanny there was plenty of eye rolling. We had some flirty fun with that but that was as far as it went. He and his wife had a great relationship so it wasn’t going to happen. That was 25 or so years ago and they are still happily married.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:A friend of mine told me she slept with her neighbor! She said it was amazing, and thrilling and maybe it was the sneaking around part, but she said she is head over heels for this man! They met because she’s a SAHM and she usually walks around the neighborhood with her kid. He just happened to be out doing yard work and her kid wanted to pet his dog. He is also married with a family of his own. She started to notice him more, and before she knew it, she found herself going near his street more and she noticed him near hers. Her husband travels for work, and the guy seems really handy, so he went over to fix something and before long things happened between them. I don’t know how to feel for her. She has a great husband. That much I know. I also know that at times she has felt trapped. I’m sure when this is all over, she will feel like sh*^. For now I just listen and try not to judge. This got me wondering if anyone has ever slept with a neighbor of theirs or a mutual friend and what happened? ..

Did this happen pre-Covid times? Is her husband traveling for work now? Was she home with her kids when he came over and "things happened"?

[Anonymous]

I grew up in a small summer resort town with maybe 300 people. I remember the mayor having an affair with a woman down his street and her husband was a notorious philanderer. 3 or 4 other marriages in town broke up because of neighbor affairs and then they’d quietly leave town. During the week many of the husbands were back in the city working and a bunch of their wives were known to play around. One woman had been a B movie actress and she had many admirers! This was in the late 70’s and early 80’s and life seems so tame now.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:^^ au pair - I was a nanny for two years for a wonderful family and I had a big time crush on the dad but never did anything about it thank God! They were living in California and we were scheduled to go on a vacation to Hawaii but the mom couldn’t go at the last minute due to work reasons but the the rest of us went. We stayed at a condo and for a week I felt like a very young mom because that’s what I was doing except for no sex.

Did the dad ever make a move on you? A week at a condo on the beach can be very enticing.

Not once and back then I looked darn good in a bikini. The people we met all assumed I was his wife and when they found out I was the nanny there was plenty of eye rolling. We had some flirty fun with that but that was as far as it went. He and his wife had a great relationship so it wasn’t going to happen. That was 25 or so years ago and they are still happily married.

I had the same experience - had a huge crush on the dad. He was hot and such a good guy. His wife was always very condescending to him and talked to him like he was an idiot. Being exposed to that was like nails on a chalkboard. He just absorbed it, never complained and took care of everything for the family. He was really great with his daughters too. I fantasized about sleeping with him more than I care to admit. They had a pool so he saw me in a bikini (which I looked great in) regularly. I flirted with him and could tell he found me attractive but he never made a move and there were lots of opportunities (like her nonstop “girls trips”). At the time I had fantasized about him so much that I would have slept with him in a minute if he asked. Looking back, I’m so glad I didn’t.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:^^ au pair - I was a nanny for two years for a wonderful family and I had a big time crush on the dad but never did anything about it thank God! They were living in California and we were scheduled to go on a vacation to Hawaii but the mom couldn’t go at the last minute due to work reasons but the the rest of us went. We stayed at a condo and for a week I felt like a very young mom because that’s what I was doing except for no sex.

Did the dad ever make a move on you? A week at a condo on the beach can be very enticing.

Not once and back then I looked darn good in a bikini. The people we met all assumed I was his wife and when they found out I was the nanny there was plenty of eye rolling. We had some flirty fun with that but that was as far as it went. He and his wife had a great relationship so it wasn’t going to happen. That was 25 or so years ago and they are still happily married.

I had the same experience - had a huge crush on the dad. He was hot and such a good guy. His wife was always very condescending to him and talked to him like he was an idiot. Being exposed to that was like nails on a chalkboard. He just absorbed it, never complained and took care of everything for the family. He was really great with his daughters too. I fantasized about sleeping with him more than I care to admit. They had a pool so he saw me in a bikini (which I looked great in) regularly. I flirted with him and could tell he found me attractive but he never made a move and there were lots of opportunities (like her nonstop “girls trips”). At the time I had fantasized about him so much that I would have slept with him in a minute if he asked. Looking back, I’m so glad I didn’t.

I was a live in nanny for a few families and I really got to see what couples are like behind the scenes. One woman was incredibly nasty to her husband but if you were a friend of hers you would never know it. My favorite couple had a very active sex life and my room was right beneath theirs so I often heard the going’s on which could get very raucous. I was pretty jealous because the dad was very good looking so I just fantasized it was me he was having sex with.

[Anonymous]

My husband slept with our married neighbor who was also a good friend of mine. We all have kids. We are now separated, and the other couple is still together. Our kids play together, and our whole block was good friends but have somewhat fractioned into groups now. This has definitely made everything super awkward around here!

[Anonymous]

These nanny writers need to put down the porn, it's so obvious. I'm sure all the wives were just mean and nasty, and all the husbands were just sweet and helpless, and ya'll just pranced around in bikinis all day

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:These nanny writers need to put down the porn, it's so obvious. I'm sure all the wives were just mean and nasty, and all the husbands were just sweet and helpless, and ya'll just pranced around in bikinis all day

Actually, I'd like to hear more about what the au pairs/nannies did as they were laying in bed listening to the husband take the wife to Poundtown.