Has anyone in here had an affair with a mutual friend or a neighbor of theirs ?

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Anonymous wrote:Poor person question: what's the difference between au pair and nanny? Is it one of those "all au pairs are nannies but not all nannies are au pairs" kind of deals? (And how do those two things differ from babysitters?)

Au pairs are foreign and here on specific visas that allow them to work for lower wages in return for room and board, plus tightly controlled hours per week. They tend to be pretty young, and can only be in the States for 1 or 2 years.

Interesting. Thank you. Going to the Wikipedia page (which I probably should have done in the first place), I see that they're on a J1 visa for scholars, professors, and exchange visitors. So, I guess conceptually, the primary goal is not necessarily to have a source of child care, but to promote cultural exchange.

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Proverbs 5:8
"Keep to a path far from her, do not go near the door of her house"

This is why.

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a dad here. Never hired a nanny but thought bout it. We have 3 kids, and twins. I told myself if I ever had a nanny I'd hire a grandmotherly type or older person if at all possible. I wouldn't even want anyone THINKING that something could be an issue; I tend to be very nervous about such situations due to all the tropes regarding the topic.

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Anonymous wrote:I have known several au pairs, the ones from Eastern Europe are always on the hunt for a man so they can stay in the US. The ones I know all ended up marrying well off men, none were the dads they worked for but not for lack of trying.

I was an Au Pair from EE. I don't know anybody who tried to get the dad. There were plenty of men to choose from guys waved, left notes on my car or simply just walked up to me. Didn't need the host dad at all.

I'm also EE and so sick and tired of this image that we have of sexual predators. When I was in college, this nasty woman told me that we all come here to be estheticians and steal husbands. Nevermind that I was on F1 at an Ivy studing applied math and not interested in her obese CPA husband. I did marry a gorgeous guy from college.

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We had a 23 year old au pair from Denmark who was really gorgeous and when she arrived I was pretty nervous even though my husband and I had a great relationship. I traveled a lot for business and that got me thinking! My solution was to introduced her to my 25 year old brother who lived nearby and that solved the problem. They’ve been married for about 15 years and she is one of my closest friends. One benefit of having her under our roof for a year was that it motivated me to get back in girl friend shape.

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Anonymous wrote:We had a 23 year old au pair from Denmark who was really gorgeous and when she arrived I was pretty nervous even though my husband and I had a great relationship. I traveled a lot for business and that got me thinking! My solution was to introduced her to my 25 year old brother who lived nearby and that solved the problem. They’ve been married for about 15 years and she is one of my closest friends. One benefit of having her under our roof for a year was that it motivated me to get back in girl friend shape.

I think Tiger Woods ex wife was a nanny from Denmark or Sweden. I can see why you might have been nervous.

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In my area, man had an affair with a woman across the street. Then he also had an affair with the woman living next door to the woman across the street. When one of these women found out, they had a fist fight. At least one divorce came from it - moved away so don't know final result. The guy was nothing to look at so unless he was hung like a horse, have no idea what was appealing.

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Anonymous wrote:I had an affair with my 20 year old neighbor during my starter marriage (no kids).

It was awesome. I'll always remember it fondly. He is so freaking hot. He really loved me, i wasn't quite as into him emotionally but our sex was amazing. Way better than my opioid-addicted ex who could rarely even perform. I was mentally checked out and planning to leave the marriage, only stayed for logistical reasons at the time. We were divorced within a year or so of starting the affair. Ex never found out. Sometimes I wonder why it was all so easy for me. I really have no regrets.

I'm remarried now and have children with my husband. I would never cheat on him, but I have considered leaving him several times, not for anyone else though.

My dream girl.

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I know of two marriages that ended because the DH was involved with the neighbor. One of the cheating couples got married after the divorce was final. The other is no longer together.