My boss and I kissed

[Anonymous]

Sounds natural. You are taking care of his family and he treats you well, is attractive... for this reason it’s a very common basis for romantic feelings developing. He probably has the same fears as you because no one wants to lose their nanny. Is it because he’s leaving that you don’t want to go there? No other reason this couldn’t end in a long term relationship given you are both late 30s.

[Anonymous]

My best advice would be to refrain from an affair now, you are correct that it is wiser since there are three young kids involved.

But in six months when you are no longer working for him, why not consider dating him??

Call me a hopeless romantic but I see this as an ideal situation since the children love you so much.

Keep us posted.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My best advice would be to refrain from an affair now, you are correct that it is wiser since there are three young kids involved.

But in six months when you are no longer working for him, why not consider dating him??

Call me a hopeless romantic but I see this as an ideal situation since the children love you so much.

Keep us posted.

Guess you missed the part where OP said the dad and kids are moving to another country in 6 months.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:In 6 months he/ they are moving back to his homeland and likely won't need a full time nanny.

Which is where? Why wouldn't he need a nanny then?

Will he have family help that takes over or is it a country that typically hires valnuravle women from third world countries and then pays them pennies?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My best advice would be to refrain from an affair now, you are correct that it is wiser since there are three young kids involved.

But in six months when you are no longer working for him, why not consider dating him??

Call me a hopeless romantic but I see this as an ideal situation since the children love you so much.

Keep us posted.

Guess you missed the part where OP said the dad and kids are moving to another country in 6 months.

Long distance relationships, people move for love. Not saying that this is what OP wants, just that moving to a different country doesn’t make a relationship a possibility.

[Anonymous]

My feeling is that the kiss didn't just happen. This man is casting for his wife. Of course OP has the most chances since he already has a good idea how would they function as a family.
Them moving back also doesn't have to be bad. His kids are Americans, there is no way they are leaving forever, so somewhere in his head, he wants someone from here.
I would say, lay low, continue doing what you already have, remain courteous, kind, professional and easy to be around. But if another kiss happens, go all in. He'll figure it our how to make it work.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I also know a family where the mother died and the husband married the nanny. I think its pretty common

These are often rebound relationships. If he apologized, it may be because he views you as not on his level intellectually or socially. How much do you really have in common by way of background? Don’t get your heart broken.

[Anonymous]

You should have the kids call you mommy.

[Anonymous]

My goodness! You all are to funny. I post hoping to find advice on how to cook my feelings off instead I get told I need to marry him and long distance relationships are a thing lol.
I've been told I'm too practical for my own good which is probably why I'm 38 , single and never married.
Had I met him on eHarmony or through friends or something and we were actually dating worrying about a long distance relationship would make sense.
But I'm the nanny. Yes I love the kids. Yes he's a great person. Yes the kiss was nice.

The plan has always been for me to stay until it was time for them to move.
He has not suggested or hinted in anyway at this plan changing. If he did. I don't know. I suppose staying on as a nanny for a bit longer would make sense. It's abprograms country. I felt safe when we went there over the holidays. His family is kind and I wouldn't worry about being taken advantage of.Beyond that I don't know..
I mean hypothetically speaking of we dated and things didn't work out in addition to being very complicated regarding the kids I'm putting my chances of being a nanny again on the line.

[Anonymous]

Wishing the OP well and all, but just reading the subject line and getting a visual picture of kissing my boss almost made me vomit.

[Anonymous]

Isn't there a Hallmark movie about this?

[Anonymous]

OP - it sounds like you are doing the right thing. Good job on being a responsible adult and doing right by these children. You sound awesome!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP - it sounds like you are doing the right thing. Good job on being a responsible adult and doing right by these children. You sound awesome!

How is making out with her boss responsible?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Wishing the OP well and all, but just reading the subject line and getting a visual picture of kissing my boss almost made me vomit.

Haha same. I wish my boss was hot enough for me to want to kiss.
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[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Sounds natural. You are taking care of his family and he treats you well, is attractive... for this reason it’s a very common basis for romantic feelings developing. He probably has the same fears as you because no one wants to lose their nanny. Is it because he’s leaving that you don’t want to go there? No other reason this couldn’t end in a long term relationship given you are both late 30s.

First I have to say I was expecting something steamy when I read the title.

I'm not sure how to read dad/boss.

1. He's confused. He sees his kids happy and comfortable with OP. It seems OP has created a loving environment. OP doesn't say how long he's been widowed, but his brain might be playing tricks on him. With OP the house is starting to feel like home and family again and triggered romantic feelings. Feelings that are likely more rebound than genuine.

2. He's a man. A seemingly busy man, but still a man who may not have had sex in a long time. OP is an easy target. He was testing her with the kiss. Had she been agreeable they could have slept together.

3. He's simply lonely.

4. He genuinely likes OP, but is just as confused as she is how to go about it because their situation is a little complex. I know OP says she hasn't flirted. But maybe there have been subtle signs of interest. I mean he kissed her. In this day and age, I don't think I man would risk that if he didn't think it would be met favorably. He also seems to enjoy her company. I don't think asking her to stay for dinner has been all about the kids or good manners. He enjoys being around her too.

I'm learning towards option 2, but could be wrong. It seems OP is unwilling to explore,so it's water under the bridge now anyway.