My boss and I kissed
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Anonymous
This is the truth. He is lazy and doesn't want to enter the dating market. He wants a woman with no kids of her own, and most likely younger. There's also a unequal power dynamic here. Will his social set or family accept you? What happens to your relationship when the kids are grown. . . Unless you plan to get pregnant and keep your nanny status going. |
Anonymous
-1 Plenty of people are able to find love after being widowed, and they do not pine for ghosts or stay in love with the deceased. |
Anonymous
Sorry, they do stay in love with the deceased but they are capable of a second love. |
Anonymous
OP said they're both late 30s, so this is not a case of 50 year old boss creeping on 20 something year old nanny OP said his family she has met is nice. Now dynamics could change if she's the girlfriend wife number 2 and not the nanny. OP is 38 even if she leaves this man alone odds are any man she dates will have kids, have been married or other " baggage". That's how dating is when you're near 40. People lose spouses and fall in love and remarry all the time. He will likely always have a place in his heart for his first wife..but come on the guy is just coming up on 40. He likely has at least another 40 years left. Do you really think he'll never fall in love again and spend the rest of his days sad and pining? I don't know what his motivation is it could be he's just trying to get out there and OP is an easy option. But she's not really that easy. She's the nanny. He has to see her all the time. Easy would be asking OP to babysit late a few nights a week so he can bang a 25 year old who he can forget about the next day. Lastly, not all nannies are low class and uneducated. My DH and I purposely hired a nanny with degrees in early education and psychology. She's also multilingual, learning one of the languages as a kid at her prep school. She grew up with more money than either of us.She actually taught at a highly respected school before becoming a nanny. As for OP I think she's wise to not go there. |
Anonymous
In love and love are two different things. Even spouses in long term marriages may love but not be "in love" so why would widows be different? |
Anonymous
| Better to find a widower who has known love than someone who has cheated, failed in multiple past relationships, etc. |
Anonymous
Many posters on this forum are narcissistic. They see themselves as the dead wife and would rather their husbands spend the rest of their days miserable than finding happiness. Everything is a competition for them or never love them as much as me... always be in love with me it's rather said. If I go and I hope my husband can find happiness and love again and doesn't waste away loving my memory. |
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Well, this situation is way better than Erik Prince (brother to Betsy de Vos, owner of Blackwater and Trumpy-extraordinarie - he cheated with the nanny while his wife was dying of cancer, got her pregnant and married her soon after wife died. Wasn’t even true love as they ended up divorced.
Just be careful of lonely men - they may not be thinking straight. |
Anonymous
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Kiss him again... |
Anonymous
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“Get off the babysitter!”
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Anonymous
| Where is this "homeland" of his? |
Anonymous
She is low income, depends on him for salary She is not his equal |
Anonymous
I'm doing my best to keep my head on straight. No lingering or flirting. Trying my best to keep up the pre kiss atmosphere. |
Anonymous
Lol. As much as I may want to I can't. |