My boss and I kissed

[Anonymous]

You all are not helping with the get over it bit. Lol.
We can't date. If things went horribly what about the kids? This is not a scripted movie. There's 3 little people who could be hurt. And the awkwardness? How can I be paid by the same person I'm involved with? Granted I'm only going to be in the position another 6 mos, but I'd like to keep a good rapport.

[Anonymous]

This makes me think of that Seinfeld where he hires a maid and they hook up and then it just turns into...she just shows up, they go in the bedroom, and when they come out, she takes the money for cleaning the apartment (even though she didn't clean the apartment) and leaves. However, I know it's not like this. Just remembering a funny Seinfeld. : )

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I'm a nanny.
There's no wife as she passed away before I started the job.
This happened a few weeks ago. He apologized, said he understood if I wanted to leave. I told him he didn't need to apologize because I was equally responsible. I'm staying on at the job because I love the kids and made a commitment and don't want to disrupt their lives.
We're both late 30s so not a case of a young girl being groomed by an older boss.
Things have more or less gone back to normal.
My problem is I didn't really regret the kiss. As I had become more fond of him, and realized I missed him as much as the kids on my days off. He's the kind of guy I would go for. know that nothing can or will happen. I know I need to get over. How do I do that?

Why?

Um I can't date my boss.

Usually I say don't. But neither of you are being unfaithful and you both are fond of each other, I don't see why not.

[Anonymous]

When I was in my early 20’s, for two years after college I was the live-in nanny for a widower who was in his late 30s with two young children. I loved the children and developed a big crush on the dad but nothing ever came of it as I never let him know. I’d travel with them on vacation and I’m sure people thought I was the young wife which obviously didn’t bother me. I left after two years to go to graduate school and I do wonder what would have happened if I had kissed him. That was over twenty years ago and I’m married with two children and he remarried and had one more child so it turned out well for everyone.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:You all are not helping with the get over it bit. Lol.
We can't date. If things went horribly what about the kids? This is not a scripted movie. There's 3 little people who could be hurt. And the awkwardness? How can I be paid by the same person I'm involved with? Granted I'm only going to be in the position another 6 mos, but I'd like to keep a good rapport.

Your solution is so obvious! Wait the 6 months - THEN explore dating him. You’re already not going to be the kid’s nanny anymore, so it’s the perfect time. Also, its a non-issue if you will get along with the kids. That takes a lot of the pressure off.

This is so easy. Hang tight for 6 months. Done.

[Anonymous]

Why are you only nannying for them for 6 more month? If neither of you is moving out of the area, why couldn’t you remain strictly platonic for the next 6 months, then try dating?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:You all are not helping with the get over it bit. Lol.
We can't date. If things went horribly what about the kids? This is not a scripted movie. There's 3 little people who could be hurt. And the awkwardness? How can I be paid by the same person I'm involved with? Granted I'm only going to be in the position another 6 mos, but I'd like to keep a good rapport.

Well, you should’ve went with this before you kissed him.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I'm a nanny.
There's no wife as she passed away before I started the job.
This happened a few weeks ago. He apologized, said he understood if I wanted to leave. I told him he didn't need to apologize because I was equally responsible. I'm staying on at the job because I love the kids and made a commitment and don't want to disrupt their lives.
We're both late 30s so not a case of a young girl being groomed by an older boss.
Things have more or less gone back to normal.
My problem is I didn't really regret the kiss. As I had become more fond of him, and realized I missed him as much as the kids on my days off. He's the kind of guy I would go for. I know that nothing can or will happen. I know I need to get over. How do I do that?

It's The Sound of Music 2.0! Not exactly of course, but kinda.

[Anonymous]

What are you going to be doing after six months?

I agree that it would be ok for you to date him once you are no longer the nanny. You should probably be the one to make the move. I mean, I wouldn’t just kiss him, but maybe indicate verbally that you would be open to dating him.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:You all are not helping with the get over it bit. Lol.
We can't date. If things went horribly what about the kids? This is not a scripted movie. There's 3 little people who could be hurt. And the awkwardness? How can I be paid by the same person I'm involved with? Granted I'm only going to be in the position another 6 mos, but I'd like to keep a good rapport.

perfect!!

Cool it for 6 months. Then he won't be your boss and he won't be paying you.

[Anonymous]

This is not the same as Ben Affleck and nanny scandal.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I'm a nanny.
There's no wife as she passed away before I started the job.
This happened a few weeks ago. He apologized, said he understood if I wanted to leave. I told him he didn't need to apologize because I was equally responsible. I'm staying on at the job because I love the kids and made a commitment and don't want to disrupt their lives.
We're both late 30s so not a case of a young girl being groomed by an older boss.
Things have more or less gone back to normal.
My problem is I didn't really regret the kiss. As I had become more fond of him, and realized I missed him as much as the kids on my days off. He's the kind of guy I would go for. I know that nothing can or will happen. I know I need to get over. How do I do that?

It's The Sound of Music 2.0! Not exactly of course, but kinda.

OP, do you have a guitar? And a Mother Superior?

[Anonymous]

Keep your shit together for six more months. You can do it. Focus on the kids. Don't get into long conversations with him that aren't about the job, don't hang around longer than you have to at the end of the day, etc.

Once he's no longer your employer...well, up to you!

[Anonymous]

Marry him!

[Anonymous]

Um what if he finds somebody else in the next six months?