My boss and I kissed

[Anonymous]

I'm a nanny.
There's no wife as she passed away before I started the job.
This happened a few weeks ago. He apologized, said he understood if I wanted to leave. I told him he didn't need to apologize because I was equally responsible. I'm staying on at the job because I love the kids and made a commitment and don't want to disrupt their lives.
We're both late 30s so not a case of a young girl being groomed by an older boss.
Things have more or less gone back to normal.
My problem is I didn't really regret the kiss. As I had become more fond of him, and realized I missed him as much as the kids on my days off. He's the kind of guy I would go for. I know that nothing can or will happen. I know I need to get over. How do I do that?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I'm a nanny.
There's no wife as she passed away before I started the job.
This happened a few weeks ago. He apologized, said he understood if I wanted to leave. I told him he didn't need to apologize because I was equally responsible. I'm staying on at the job because I love the kids and made a commitment and don't want to disrupt their lives.
We're both late 30s so not a case of a young girl being groomed by an older boss.
Things have more or less gone back to normal.
My problem is I didn't really regret the kiss. As I had become more fond of him, and realized I missed him as much as the kids on my days off. He's the kind of guy I would go for. know that nothing can or will happen. I know I need to get over. How do I do that?

Why?

[Anonymous]

Isn’t this a good thing? You’re already good with his kids, and you’re just the nanny, not like an employee of a corporation and he’s your boss, meaning the rules are different.

Have you talked about it and potentially dating? I know, usually you don’t shit where you eat, but in this case, it seems like a win-win situation.

[Anonymous]

Well, my uncle married the nanny who came in after his first wife died of cancer. And his daughter by his first wife is the person who manages her stepmom's needs now (stepmom is in her 80s in assisted living, uncle long deceased, the daughter is the only remaining family member from that side)

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I'm a nanny.
There's no wife as she passed away before I started the job.
This happened a few weeks ago. He apologized, said he understood if I wanted to leave. I told him he didn't need to apologize because I was equally responsible. I'm staying on at the job because I love the kids and made a commitment and don't want to disrupt their lives.
We're both late 30s so not a case of a young girl being groomed by an older boss.
Things have more or less gone back to normal.
My problem is I didn't really regret the kiss. As I had become more fond of him, and realized I missed him as much as the kids on my days off. He's the kind of guy I would go for. know that nothing can or will happen. I know I need to get over. How do I do that?

Why?

Um I can't date my boss.

[Anonymous]

This sounds like the plot to half the Hallmark Christmas movies.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I'm a nanny.
There's no wife as she passed away before I started the job.
This happened a few weeks ago. He apologized, said he understood if I wanted to leave. I told him he didn't need to apologize because I was equally responsible. I'm staying on at the job because I love the kids and made a commitment and don't want to disrupt their lives.
We're both late 30s so not a case of a young girl being groomed by an older boss.
Things have more or less gone back to normal.
My problem is I didn't really regret the kiss. As I had become more fond of him, and realized I missed him as much as the kids on my days off. He's the kind of guy I would go for. know that nothing can or will happen. I know I need to get over. How do I do that?

Why?

Um I can't date my boss.

There is a fine line between dating and just gettin' it on.

[Anonymous]

Haven't you ever seen the iconic Fran Drescher in The Nanny?

If it helps, I always imagine that in the event of my untimely death my DH will have the good sense to find and charm a nanny just like you. It's minimal disruption for the kids, who you've an established rapport with.

Go for it.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I'm a nanny.
There's no wife as she passed away before I started the job.
This happened a few weeks ago. He apologized, said he understood if I wanted to leave. I told him he didn't need to apologize because I was equally responsible. I'm staying on at the job because I love the kids and made a commitment and don't want to disrupt their lives.
We're both late 30s so not a case of a young girl being groomed by an older boss.
Things have more or less gone back to normal.
My problem is I didn't really regret the kiss. As I had become more fond of him, and realized I missed him as much as the kids on my days off. He's the kind of guy I would go for. know that nothing can or will happen. I know I need to get over. How do I do that?

Why?

Um I can't date my boss.

Marry him.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I'm a nanny.
There's no wife as she passed away before I started the job.
This happened a few weeks ago. He apologized, said he understood if I wanted to leave. I told him he didn't need to apologize because I was equally responsible. I'm staying on at the job because I love the kids and made a commitment and don't want to disrupt their lives.
We're both late 30s so not a case of a young girl being groomed by an older boss.
Things have more or less gone back to normal.
My problem is I didn't really regret the kiss. As I had become more fond of him, and realized I missed him as much as the kids on my days off. He's the kind of guy I would go for. know that nothing can or will happen. I know I need to get over. How do I do that?

Why?

Um I can't date my boss.

There is a fine line between dating and just gettin' it on.

I can't sleep with my boss either.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:This sounds like the plot to half the Hallmark Christmas movies.

Exactly. Especially if she is British.

[Anonymous]

I also know a family where the mother died and the husband married the nanny. I think its pretty common

[Anonymous]

If you like him for him (imagine when the kids are not part of it) or want to know how much you like him as him you will have to explore that.

I agree dating may not be best, could be confusing for kids. But you are already an intimate member of the family and can explore friendship in the circumstances you are in.

Bring up questions you would want to know and create small opportunities to engage (without physical becoming the primary driver). What are his, how does he enforce boundaries, has he truly grieved his wife, would he love you for you without the kids needs being part of it.

Good luck! Definitely worth exploring in my opinion!

[Anonymous]

You need to get the kids to start calling you mom.

[Anonymous]

*what are his values