My boss and I kissed

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Anonymous wrote:Sorry
To be a nurse in a foreign country you need a native level grasp of the language
You can get into nursing school, maybe they will allow you to write your exams in English. But classes will not be in English, neither will the text books

Of course. I only mentioned nursing school because that's a reason dating him wouldn't be practical. Then someone mentioned they have nursing school their. It makes more sense for me to apply and attend school in the states.

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Anonymous wrote:Sorry
To be a nurse in a foreign country you need a native level grasp of the language
You can get into nursing school, maybe they will allow you to write your exams in English. But classes will not be in English, neither will the text books

Please, people emigrate to foreign countries all the time and get master degrees in non-English speaking countries. Not to mention Scandinavians speak English better than any other people in the world, have programs in English and the kids are Americans.

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Anonymous wrote:Sorry
To be a nurse in a foreign country you need a native level grasp of the language
You can get into nursing school, maybe they will allow you to write your exams in English. But classes will not be in English, neither will the text books

Please, people emigrate to foreign countries all the time and get master degrees in non-English speaking countries. Not to mention Scandinavians speak English better than any other people in the world, have programs in English and the kids are Americans.

Yes, I used to live in one
You do need to speak the language to live there, you do need to speak the language to get a professional job
Competition for jobs is real. There are not many large metropolitan areas. Mostly scattered small to mid size towns. To be employed as a nurse you have to speak the language. Being bilingual helps.

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Anonymous wrote:I don’t understand the wall you’re putting up — as if it’s an absolute no-go. You have 6 months left working for him. I just don’t see why any of this is a deal-breaker. But, okay.

I'm sorry if I've been vague, just trying not to put myself. I know I lot of people read DCUM. It's also because. I'm confused. I know what the right and wise thing to do is, and I'm doing that. But then there's days like today and yesterday where we talk for a whole hour and I second guess myself.

I guess the wall is there to protect myself. I've had my share of heartbreak as I'm sure most women my age have, and I'm just not willing to do it again, especially when the odds are not favorably.

Getting way ahead of myself, but long distance relationships don't work, particularly if those involved are living in different countries. I couldn't ask him to stay. I realistically can't uproot my life long-term. My parents are here and getting older, I don't want to miss out on time with them. My sisters are also here with their families, I want to be apart of my nieces and nephews growing up.
And none of that factors in his children. Although they are young and wouldn't know anything was up right away.

My whole plan with this job was to regroup, take the classes I need and possibly go to nursing school. Nursing school seems like it will be on hold at least another semester, but even still. Dropping everything for a romance?

What would I say to him anyway? . I think there could be something here? Try it out for the next 6 months?
Change my mind about the kiss and resign so we could date instead?

You talk for hours? Is this before you leave for the day or is he contacting you at home? What are you talking about?

Family is important. I'll give you that. But would your parents and sisters want you to put your life on hold for them? Your parents have each other. Your sisters have families of their own. Your nieces and nephews will grow up and have lives of their own. What about you? I'm not saying it has to be this guy, but you can't live your life for other people.

Sometimes it's before I leave for the day. Sometimes it's when I accompany them on a day trip. For the most part he doesn't contact me at home, except if it's related to the children and wasn't communicated before. It's rare. He's only sent a text once that was non kid related and that was in reference to some pop song we couldn't think of the name of earlier. Primarily we talk about the kids. Recently we talk about politics mainly in the US sometimes about his home country. Sometimes we chat about shows and music. We were both watching Stranger Things. Sometimes he talks about work or asks me about school and my dog.

I know. I have to live my life for me. I love my family, but I promise they aren't holding me back.

It sounds to me like he's emotionally transferred you into the wife role. This is likely subconscious. He most likely not fully grieved his wife. What this means for you is a high chance of heartbreak. I would not try to date him. I also would suggest a new job. If you stay set firm boundaries: only talk about the kids, stay more than 15 minutes after he comes home that should be enough to communicate about the children. Do not text outside of work unless relavent the job is you're sick and can't come in. Good luck to you.

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Wait the six moneths then go for it. You didn't regret it and from what it seems like, neither did he.

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Anonymous wrote:This sounds like the plot to half the Hallmark Christmas movies.

LOL. I was thinking of the musical The Sound of Music. It turned out well for them!