My boss and I kissed

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:This sounds like the plot to half the Hallmark Christmas movies.

Let’s name it Troll City.

The whole dcum Nanny Forum is filled with this hypothetical fake drama. It’s like D grade Young Adult fake literature.

Yeah, agree. I believed it for a bit, but her responses are very novel typical. tee hee

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I don’t understand the wall you’re putting up — as if it’s an absolute no-go. You have 6 months left working for him. I just don’t see why any of this is a deal-breaker. But, okay.

I'm sorry if I've been vague, just trying not to put myself. I know I lot of people read DCUM. It's also because. I'm confused. I know what the right and wise thing to do is, and I'm doing that. But then there's days like today and yesterday where we talk for a whole hour and I second guess myself.

I guess the wall is there to protect myself. I've had my share of heartbreak as I'm sure most women my age have, and I'm just not willing to do it again, especially when the odds are not favorably.

Getting way ahead of myself, but long distance relationships don't work, particularly if those involved are living in different countries. I couldn't ask him to stay. I realistically can't uproot my life long-term. My parents are here and getting older, I don't want to miss out on time with them. My sisters are also here with their families, I want to be apart of my nieces and nephews growing up.
And none of that factors in his children. Although they are young and wouldn't know anything was up right away.

My whole plan with this job was to regroup, take the classes I need and possibly go to nursing school. Nursing school seems like it will be on hold at least another semester, but even still. Dropping everything for a romance?

What would I say to him anyway? . I think there could be something here? Try it out for the next 6 months?
Change my mind about the kiss and resign so we could date instead?

[Anonymous]

I understand, OP. Life doesn’t always work out like a Hallmark movie. But I do hope things turn out well for you, no matter what happens.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I don’t understand the wall you’re putting up — as if it’s an absolute no-go. You have 6 months left working for him. I just don’t see why any of this is a deal-breaker. But, okay.

I'm sorry if I've been vague, just trying not to put myself. I know I lot of people read DCUM. It's also because. I'm confused. I know what the right and wise thing to do is, and I'm doing that. But then there's days like today and yesterday where we talk for a whole hour and I second guess myself.

I guess the wall is there to protect myself. I've had my share of heartbreak as I'm sure most women my age have, and I'm just not willing to do it again, especially when the odds are not favorably.

Getting way ahead of myself, but long distance relationships don't work, particularly if those involved are living in different countries. I couldn't ask him to stay. I realistically can't uproot my life long-term. My parents are here and getting older, I don't want to miss out on time with them. My sisters are also here with their families, I want to be apart of my nieces and nephews growing up.
And none of that factors in his children. Although they are young and wouldn't know anything was up right away.

My whole plan with this job was to regroup, take the classes I need and possibly go to nursing school. Nursing school seems like it will be on hold at least another semester, but even still. Dropping everything for a romance?

What would I say to him anyway? . I think there could be something here? Try it out for the next 6 months?
Change my mind about the kiss and resign so we could date instead?

You talk for hours? Is this before you leave for the day or is he contacting you at home? What are you talking about?

Family is important. I'll give you that. But would your parents and sisters want you to put your life on hold for them? Your parents have each other. Your sisters have families of their own. Your nieces and nephews will grow up and have lives of their own. What about you? I'm not saying it has to be this guy, but you can't live your life for other people.

[Anonymous]

Just hope you are not a rebound fling

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Just hope you are not a rebound fling

This is the main concern.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I don’t understand the wall you’re putting up — as if it’s an absolute no-go. You have 6 months left working for him. I just don’t see why any of this is a deal-breaker. But, okay.

I'm sorry if I've been vague, just trying not to put myself. I know I lot of people read DCUM. It's also because. I'm confused. I know what the right and wise thing to do is, and I'm doing that. But then there's days like today and yesterday where we talk for a whole hour and I second guess myself.

I guess the wall is there to protect myself. I've had my share of heartbreak as I'm sure most women my age have, and I'm just not willing to do it again, especially when the odds are not favorably.

Getting way ahead of myself, but long distance relationships don't work, particularly if those involved are living in different countries. I couldn't ask him to stay. I realistically can't uproot my life long-term. My parents are here and getting older, I don't want to miss out on time with them. My sisters are also here with their families, I want to be apart of my nieces and nephews growing up.
And none of that factors in his children. Although they are young and wouldn't know anything was up right away.

My whole plan with this job was to regroup, take the classes I need and possibly go to nursing school. Nursing school seems like it will be on hold at least another semester, but even still. Dropping everything for a romance?

What would I say to him anyway? . I think there could be something here? Try it out for the next 6 months?
Change my mind about the kiss and resign so we could date instead?

Are there no Scandinavian nursing schools?


Tell him when you’re ready, you respect him, have appreciated the time working with the family, but we’re grappling with the kiss because you enjoyed it. Tell him everything you shared here I’d you want.

Why not? If you completely screw things up, he will be out of your life for good at the end of the school year. Kids don’t need to know. But you give him time to consider how to make it work if it’s something he wants too.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I understand, OP. Life doesn’t always work out like a Hallmark movie. But I do hope things turn out well for you, no matter what happens.

Thanks that's very kind of you.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I don’t understand the wall you’re putting up — as if it’s an absolute no-go. You have 6 months left working for him. I just don’t see why any of this is a deal-breaker. But, okay.

I'm sorry if I've been vague, just trying not to put myself. I know I lot of people read DCUM. It's also because. I'm confused. I know what the right and wise thing to do is, and I'm doing that. But then there's days like today and yesterday where we talk for a whole hour and I second guess myself.

I guess the wall is there to protect myself. I've had my share of heartbreak as I'm sure most women my age have, and I'm just not willing to do it again, especially when the odds are not favorably.

Getting way ahead of myself, but long distance relationships don't work, particularly if those involved are living in different countries. I couldn't ask him to stay. I realistically can't uproot my life long-term. My parents are here and getting older, I don't want to miss out on time with them. My sisters are also here with their families, I want to be apart of my nieces and nephews growing up.
And none of that factors in his children. Although they are young and wouldn't know anything was up right away.

My whole plan with this job was to regroup, take the classes I need and possibly go to nursing school. Nursing school seems like it will be on hold at least another semester, but even still. Dropping everything for a romance?

What would I say to him anyway? . I think there could be something here? Try it out for the next 6 months?
Change my mind about the kiss and resign so we could date instead?

You talk for hours? Is this before you leave for the day or is he contacting you at home? What are you talking about?

Family is important. I'll give you that. But would your parents and sisters want you to put your life on hold for them? Your parents have each other. Your sisters have families of their own. Your nieces and nephews will grow up and have lives of their own. What about you? I'm not saying it has to be this guy, but you can't live your life for other people.

Sometimes it's before I leave for the day. Sometimes it's when I accompany them on a day trip. For the most part he doesn't contact me at home, except if it's related to the children and wasn't communicated before. It's rare. He's only sent a text once that was non kid related and that was in reference to some pop song we couldn't think of the name of earlier. Primarily we talk about the kids. Recently we talk about politics mainly in the US sometimes about his home country. Sometimes we chat about shows and music. We were both watching Stranger Things. Sometimes he talks about work or asks me about school and my dog.

I know. I have to live my life for me. I love my family, but I promise they aren't holding me back.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I don’t understand the wall you’re putting up — as if it’s an absolute no-go. You have 6 months left working for him. I just don’t see why any of this is a deal-breaker. But, okay.

I'm sorry if I've been vague, just trying not to put myself. I know I lot of people read DCUM. It's also because. I'm confused. I know what the right and wise thing to do is, and I'm doing that. But then there's days like today and yesterday where we talk for a whole hour and I second guess myself.

I guess the wall is there to protect myself. I've had my share of heartbreak as I'm sure most women my age have, and I'm just not willing to do it again, especially when the odds are not favorably.

Getting way ahead of myself, but long distance relationships don't work, particularly if those involved are living in different countries. I couldn't ask him to stay. I realistically can't uproot my life long-term. My parents are here and getting older, I don't want to miss out on time with them. My sisters are also here with their families, I want to be apart of my nieces and nephews growing up.
And none of that factors in his children. Although they are young and wouldn't know anything was up right away.

My whole plan with this job was to regroup, take the classes I need and possibly go to nursing school. Nursing school seems like it will be on hold at least another semester, but even still. Dropping everything for a romance?

What would I say to him anyway? . I think there could be something here? Try it out for the next 6 months?
Change my mind about the kiss and resign so we could date instead?

Are there no Scandinavian nursing schools?


Tell him when you’re ready, you respect him, have appreciated the time working with the family, but we’re grappling with the kiss because you enjoyed it. Tell him everything you shared here I’d you want.

Why not? If you completely screw things up, he will be out of your life for good at the end of the school year. Kids don’t need to know. But you give him time to consider how to make it work if it’s something he wants too.

Lol. Of course there's nursing schools. I don't know how easy it is for foreigners to get into.

I have vacation coming up. I think I'm going to take the time apart from him and the kids to process exactly how I feel and what I want to do, and go from there.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I don’t understand the wall you’re putting up — as if it’s an absolute no-go. You have 6 months left working for him. I just don’t see why any of this is a deal-breaker. But, okay.

I'm sorry if I've been vague, just trying not to put myself. I know I lot of people read DCUM. It's also because. I'm confused. I know what the right and wise thing to do is, and I'm doing that. But then there's days like today and yesterday where we talk for a whole hour and I second guess myself.

I guess the wall is there to protect myself. I've had my share of heartbreak as I'm sure most women my age have, and I'm just not willing to do it again, especially when the odds are not favorably.

Getting way ahead of myself, but long distance relationships don't work, particularly if those involved are living in different countries. I couldn't ask him to stay. I realistically can't uproot my life long-term. My parents are here and getting older, I don't want to miss out on time with them. My sisters are also here with their families, I want to be apart of my nieces and nephews growing up.
And none of that factors in his children. Although they are young and wouldn't know anything was up right away.

My whole plan with this job was to regroup, take the classes I need and possibly go to nursing school. Nursing school seems like it will be on hold at least another semester, but even still. Dropping everything for a romance?

What would I say to him anyway? . I think there could be something here? Try it out for the next 6 months?
Change my mind about the kiss and resign so we could date instead?

Are there no Scandinavian nursing schools?


Tell him when you’re ready, you respect him, have appreciated the time working with the family, but we’re grappling with the kiss because you enjoyed it. Tell him everything you shared here I’d you want.

Why not? If you completely screw things up, he will be out of your life for good at the end of the school year. Kids don’t need to know. But you give him time to consider how to make it work if it’s something he wants too.

Lol. Of course there's nursing schools. I don't know how easy it is for foreigners to get into.

I have vacation coming up. I think I'm going to take the time apart from him and the kids to process exactly how I feel and what I want to do, and go from there.

PP here. Wise move, OP. You’ve gotten great advice here to help build broad and objective perspective. Consider you and your future in your final analysis. I wish you the nest, whatever you decide. Truly!

[Anonymous]

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Meant to say The best, not the beat.
but maybe autocorrect is kismet? Hee hee!





Good luck

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:^
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Meant to say The best, not the beat.
but maybe autocorrect is kismet? Hee hee!





Good luck

Lol. Thank you. I do appreciate yours and everyone else's advice and perspective.

[Anonymous]

Sounds like a Lifetime movie or something. Maybe he wasn't really shopping for nannies, but test driving for a new wife?

[Anonymous]

Sorry
To be a nurse in a foreign country you need a native level grasp of the language
You can get into nursing school, maybe they will allow you to write your exams in English. But classes will not be in English, neither will the text books