Is this strange? MIL and hospital

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I have to laugh, because only mothers of sons would feel the need to drive 3 hours round trip at 1am to "be there for her baby boy!!!" who's in the hospital for some non-life-threatening reason. My mom would have been like, "Going to bed, call me in the AM."

I'm glad I have daughters. But sad they will have to deal with these MIL who can't cut the cord.

What? You're crazy.

[Anonymous]

That was really sweet of her. She went to keep him company. I'm really moved by that.

Why are you standing on ceremony? If you'd wanted to go be with him you could have gotten a babysitter or asked your MIL to come sit with the kids so you could be with DH.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I have to agree that the 1.5 hour drive there at 9pm, and the 1.5 hour drive home at 1am are weird. DCUM, come on, that SCREAMS overly obsessed mom! As someone else said, she just couldn't help herself and had to step back into that mom role.

I wouldn't be mad, but yeah, that's weird and mom is desperate, bless her heart!

The mom is desperate for answering her son's call for attention while hospitalized?

OP says her husband contacted several people while he was there. He obviously wanted some attention, and his mom gave it to him. A three hour roundtrip drive is more than I'd do for a minor injury, but it was sweet of his mom to squeeze in some family time while he was feeling needy.

OP says he called people to talk and joke around about the accident. His mom could have talked from the comfort of home for hours. She took it to the next level by making a crazy drive in the middle of the night. That's weird. Full stop.

She's a mother. She took the opportunity to go and spend some time with her son when she felt he should have some company.

Even mothers of adult children still care about their children. Most of them don't see their own children as much as they'd like. They know their children have lives of their own, but she had the opportunity when her son wasn't doing anything and could use company, so she went to keep him company. She knew she wasn't imposing or taking his time away from something else, but she helped him fill some idle time. Phone calls are nice, but it doesn't compare with actually being in the same room as your child, adult or not.

I'm sorry that you are so distant from your parents and/or children that you don't value being in the same room with them.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I have to agree that the 1.5 hour drive there at 9pm, and the 1.5 hour drive home at 1am are weird. DCUM, come on, that SCREAMS overly obsessed mom! As someone else said, she just couldn't help herself and had to step back into that mom role.

I wouldn't be mad, but yeah, that's weird and mom is desperate, bless her heart!

The mom is desperate for answering her son's call for attention while hospitalized?

OP says her husband contacted several people while he was there. He obviously wanted some attention, and his mom gave it to him. A three hour roundtrip drive is more than I'd do for a minor injury, but it was sweet of his mom to squeeze in some family time while he was feeling needy.

OP says he called people to talk and joke around about the accident. His mom could have talked from the comfort of home for hours. She took it to the next level by making a crazy drive in the middle of the night. That's weird. Full stop.

Ugh. Having someone there with you at the hospital is nice. You have someone to talk to. In some cases you are hooked up to IVs and your movements are restricted so just having someone who can walk across the room and bring you a cup of water when your thirsty or whatever is nice. If you are a "non-emergency" case at the ER you are low on the totem pole. All of the serious patients get attention first which is how it should be. But that also means that you might be in pain with a broken bone and no one has brought your pain killers, yet. Having someone there with you who can walk out to the nurses station and say "I'm worried that my husband/son/friend is in pain and I don't think that anyone has brought him his medication, yet"...that can make all the difference between being comfortable and being miserable.

[Anonymous]

^So, yes, if one of my adult children ever called me from the hospital I would not think twice about going to them.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I have to agree that the 1.5 hour drive there at 9pm, and the 1.5 hour drive home at 1am are weird. DCUM, come on, that SCREAMS overly obsessed mom! As someone else said, she just couldn't help herself and had to step back into that mom role.

I wouldn't be mad, but yeah, that's weird and mom is desperate, bless her heart!

The mom is desperate for answering her son's call for attention while hospitalized?

OP says her husband contacted several people while he was there. He obviously wanted some attention, and his mom gave it to him. A three hour roundtrip drive is more than I'd do for a minor injury, but it was sweet of his mom to squeeze in some family time while he was feeling needy.

OP says he called people to talk and joke around about the accident. His mom could have talked from the comfort of home for hours. She took it to the next level by making a crazy drive in the middle of the night. That's weird. Full stop.

Ugh. Having someone there with you at the hospital is nice. You have someone to talk to. In some cases you are hooked up to IVs and your movements are restricted so just having someone who can walk across the room and bring you a cup of water when your thirsty or whatever is nice. If you are a "non-emergency" case at the ER you are low on the totem pole. All of the serious patients get attention first which is how it should be. But that also means that you might be in pain with a broken bone and no one has brought your pain killers, yet. Having someone there with you who can walk out to the nurses station and say "I'm worried that my husband/son/friend is in pain and I don't think that anyone has brought him his medication, yet"...that can make all the difference between being comfortable and being miserable.

As a nurse, please stay home. I'm not even an ER nurse, but please, stay home. We know what we are doing.

The neediest "visitors" are always MOTHERS OF SONS! We've got it, honey. Your baby boy will be just fine. Mama's Boys, I swear!

[Anonymous]

You are being weirdly territorial. She is his mom.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I have to agree that the 1.5 hour drive there at 9pm, and the 1.5 hour drive home at 1am are weird. DCUM, come on, that SCREAMS overly obsessed mom! As someone else said, she just couldn't help herself and had to step back into that mom role.

I wouldn't be mad, but yeah, that's weird and mom is desperate, bless her heart!

The mom is desperate for answering her son's call for attention while hospitalized?

OP says her husband contacted several people while he was there. He obviously wanted some attention, and his mom gave it to him. A three hour roundtrip drive is more than I'd do for a minor injury, but it was sweet of his mom to squeeze in some family time while he was feeling needy.

OP says he called people to talk and joke around about the accident. His mom could have talked from the comfort of home for hours. She took it to the next level by making a crazy drive in the middle of the night. That's weird. Full stop.

Ugh. Having someone there with you at the hospital is nice. You have someone to talk to. In some cases you are hooked up to IVs and your movements are restricted so just having someone who can walk across the room and bring you a cup of water when your thirsty or whatever is nice. If you are a "non-emergency" case at the ER you are low on the totem pole. All of the serious patients get attention first which is how it should be. But that also means that you might be in pain with a broken bone and no one has brought your pain killers, yet. Having someone there with you who can walk out to the nurses station and say "I'm worried that my husband/son/friend is in pain and I don't think that anyone has brought him his medication, yet"...that can make all the difference between being comfortable and being miserable.

As a nurse, please stay home. I'm not even an ER nurse, but please, stay home. We know what we are doing.

The neediest "visitors" are always MOTHERS OF SONS! We've got it, honey. Your baby boy will be just fine. Mama's Boys, I swear!

Who are you to determine who is needless?

Time for you to retire from nursing. I can tell you are THAT nurse.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I have to agree that the 1.5 hour drive there at 9pm, and the 1.5 hour drive home at 1am are weird. DCUM, come on, that SCREAMS overly obsessed mom! As someone else said, she just couldn't help herself and had to step back into that mom role.

I wouldn't be mad, but yeah, that's weird and mom is desperate, bless her heart!

The mom is desperate for answering her son's call for attention while hospitalized?

OP says her husband contacted several people while he was there. He obviously wanted some attention, and his mom gave it to him. A three hour roundtrip drive is more than I'd do for a minor injury, but it was sweet of his mom to squeeze in some family time while he was feeling needy.

OP says he called people to talk and joke around about the accident. His mom could have talked from the comfort of home for hours. She took it to the next level by making a crazy drive in the middle of the night. That's weird. Full stop.

Ugh. Having someone there with you at the hospital is nice. You have someone to talk to. In some cases you are hooked up to IVs and your movements are restricted so just having someone who can walk across the room and bring you a cup of water when your thirsty or whatever is nice. If you are a "non-emergency" case at the ER you are low on the totem pole. All of the serious patients get attention first which is how it should be. But that also means that you might be in pain with a broken bone and no one has brought your pain killers, yet. Having someone there with you who can walk out to the nurses station and say "I'm worried that my husband/son/friend is in pain and I don't think that anyone has brought him his medication, yet"...that can make all the difference between being comfortable and being miserable.

As a nurse, please stay home. I'm not even an ER nurse, but please, stay home. We know what we are doing.

The neediest "visitors" are always MOTHERS OF SONS! We've got it, honey. Your baby boy will be just fine. Mama's Boys, I swear!

Yeah, o.k. I will give you props for the work that you do - not easy. But your bedside manner might possibly need a little work? I have seen the delays in the ER waiting rooms first hand. I realize that in some cases medication is contraindicated and that a Mamma Bear shouldn't be the one ordering it. That was not the case in the situation that I saw. Meds were ordered but never brought...

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I have to agree that the 1.5 hour drive there at 9pm, and the 1.5 hour drive home at 1am are weird. DCUM, come on, that SCREAMS overly obsessed mom! As someone else said, she just couldn't help herself and had to step back into that mom role.

I wouldn't be mad, but yeah, that's weird and mom is desperate, bless her heart!

The mom is desperate for answering her son's call for attention while hospitalized?

OP says her husband contacted several people while he was there. He obviously wanted some attention, and his mom gave it to him. A three hour roundtrip drive is more than I'd do for a minor injury, but it was sweet of his mom to squeeze in some family time while he was feeling needy.

OP says he called people to talk and joke around about the accident. His mom could have talked from the comfort of home for hours. She took it to the next level by making a crazy drive in the middle of the night. That's weird. Full stop.

Ugh. Having someone there with you at the hospital is nice. You have someone to talk to. In some cases you are hooked up to IVs and your movements are restricted so just having someone who can walk across the room and bring you a cup of water when your thirsty or whatever is nice. If you are a "non-emergency" case at the ER you are low on the totem pole. All of the serious patients get attention first which is how it should be. But that also means that you might be in pain with a broken bone and no one has brought your pain killers, yet. Having someone there with you who can walk out to the nurses station and say "I'm worried that my husband/son/friend is in pain and I don't think that anyone has brought him his medication, yet"...that can make all the difference between being comfortable and being miserable.

As a nurse, please stay home. I'm not even an ER nurse, but please, stay home. We know what we are doing.

The neediest "visitors" are always MOTHERS OF SONS! We've got it, honey. Your baby boy will be just fine. Mama's Boys, I swear!

Who are you to determine who is needless?

Time for you to retire from nursing. I can tell you are THAT nurse.

Considering I went to school and the hospital hired me to be an RN, I'd say I'm the MOST qualified to determine who is neediest. I'd say an ER nurse is even MORE qualified. You're telling me mommy is more qualified to know when her baby boy needs another pill? It just doesn't work that way anyways. I won't tell you how to do your job, please don't tell me how to do mine.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I have to agree that the 1.5 hour drive there at 9pm, and the 1.5 hour drive home at 1am are weird. DCUM, come on, that SCREAMS overly obsessed mom! As someone else said, she just couldn't help herself and had to step back into that mom role.

I wouldn't be mad, but yeah, that's weird and mom is desperate, bless her heart!

The mom is desperate for answering her son's call for attention while hospitalized?

OP says her husband contacted several people while he was there. He obviously wanted some attention, and his mom gave it to him. A three hour roundtrip drive is more than I'd do for a minor injury, but it was sweet of his mom to squeeze in some family time while he was feeling needy.

OP says he called people to talk and joke around about the accident. His mom could have talked from the comfort of home for hours. She took it to the next level by making a crazy drive in the middle of the night. That's weird. Full stop.

Ugh. Having someone there with you at the hospital is nice. You have someone to talk to. In some cases you are hooked up to IVs and your movements are restricted so just having someone who can walk across the room and bring you a cup of water when your thirsty or whatever is nice. If you are a "non-emergency" case at the ER you are low on the totem pole. All of the serious patients get attention first which is how it should be. But that also means that you might be in pain with a broken bone and no one has brought your pain killers, yet. Having someone there with you who can walk out to the nurses station and say "I'm worried that my husband/son/friend is in pain and I don't think that anyone has brought him his medication, yet"...that can make all the difference between being comfortable and being miserable.

As a nurse, please stay home. I'm not even an ER nurse, but please, stay home. We know what we are doing.

The neediest "visitors" are always MOTHERS OF SONS! We've got it, honey. Your baby boy will be just fine. Mama's Boys, I swear!

Yeah, o.k. I will give you props for the work that you do - not easy. But your bedside manner might possibly need a little work? I have seen the delays in the ER waiting rooms first hand. I realize that in some cases medication is contraindicated and that a Mamma Bear shouldn't be the one ordering it. That was not the case in the situation that I saw. Meds were ordered but never brought...

And oftentime, they were administered and he patient doesn't even know or remember We know what we are doing. I don't work in he ER but I know it's hectic. If you're in the ER and not getting that much attention, just think of the person who's getting it.

[Anonymous]

Heaven protect me from ending up in that lady's ER, with or without family.

[Anonymous]

This is totally something my MIL would do. DH is her one-and-only, and she will baby him as much as she can. However, she also respects my role as his wife, she treats me well, DH has had no issues setting appropriate boundaries, and she's had no issues respecting them. I really like her, I think I've gotten lucky in the MIL lottery. So if DH were hanging out in the ER with a non-emergency case and was bored, she would absolutely drive three hours round-trip to sit with him, no matter how silly it seemed to others, and he'd probably enjoy having her there (and even being babied a little bit). Had it been a true emergency, though, she's the first person who would have driven three-hours round trip to sit with our kids while I went to the hospital with DH.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Heaven protect me from ending up in that lady's ER, with or without family.

Someone can have bedside manner and be wonderful to a patient, but be annoyed by the family members. I feel for the patients. Family members and their demands (they think they are helping) are annoying. It's so much easier to do my job when I don't have family members barking orders at me. This is a patient and nurse relationship. I love my job and my patients. Their family members, on the other hand...

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

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Anonymous wrote:I have to agree that the 1.5 hour drive there at 9pm, and the 1.5 hour drive home at 1am are weird. DCUM, come on, that SCREAMS overly obsessed mom! As someone else said, she just couldn't help herself and had to step back into that mom role.

I wouldn't be mad, but yeah, that's weird and mom is desperate, bless her heart!

The mom is desperate for answering her son's call for attention while hospitalized?

OP says her husband contacted several people while he was there. He obviously wanted some attention, and his mom gave it to him. A three hour roundtrip drive is more than I'd do for a minor injury, but it was sweet of his mom to squeeze in some family time while he was feeling needy.

OP says he called people to talk and joke around about the accident. His mom could have talked from the comfort of home for hours. She took it to the next level by making a crazy drive in the middle of the night. That's weird. Full stop.

Ugh. Having someone there with you at the hospital is nice. You have someone to talk to. In some cases you are hooked up to IVs and your movements are restricted so just having someone who can walk across the room and bring you a cup of water when your thirsty or whatever is nice. If you are a "non-emergency" case at the ER you are low on the totem pole. All of the serious patients get attention first which is how it should be. But that also means that you might be in pain with a broken bone and no one has brought your pain killers, yet. Having someone there with you who can walk out to the nurses station and say "I'm worried that my husband/son/friend is in pain and I don't think that anyone has brought him his medication, yet"...that can make all the difference between being comfortable and being miserable.

As a nurse, please stay home. I'm not even an ER nurse, but please, stay home. We know what we are doing.

The neediest "visitors" are always MOTHERS OF SONS! We've got it, honey. Your baby boy will be just fine. Mama's Boys, I swear!

Yeah, o.k. I will give you props for the work that you do - not easy. But your bedside manner might possibly need a little work? I have seen the delays in the ER waiting rooms first hand. I realize that in some cases medication is contraindicated and that a Mamma Bear shouldn't be the one ordering it. That was not the case in the situation that I saw. Meds were ordered but never brought...

And oftentime, they were administered and he patient doesn't even know or remember We know what we are doing. I don't work in he ER but I know it's hectic. If you're in the ER and not getting that much attention, just think of the person who's getting it.

Uh, that is why you bring it to the attention of the nurses in a respectful manner. They can look at the chart and see what needs to be done for the patient. In the situation that I'm referring to, the patient had been there for hours with nothing for the pain. That is probably because the pain wasn't that bad at first but grew worse over time to the point that the patient was VERY uncomfortable....stuff happens. I'm glad I was there to help out.