Why do men pick ditzy women sometimes?

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Anonymous wrote:There are no limits to what guys will do for a pretty girl. Really, a woman only needs to be fit and guys will line up like its the iPhone 10!

What about grace, good manners, good morals, a brain and being levelheaded?

Honestly, sounds boring.

Exactly. Every guy know that marrying a prim and proper girl is a one-way ticket to "no BJ-ville" and its a painful trip back. If you don't marry a woman who loves fun, sex and values her appearance then as life's milestones start stacking up your attraction and chemistry will fail and you'll end up being plutonic friends (best case scenario) raising kids.

Guys that marry the whore or party girl end up with ex wives who take them to the cleaners. That's the reality of that one. BJ's, give me a break most (not all) don't care to do that. If that's you're big reason to get married, better stay single because kids and other life importance's will take priority.

Guy here. Some women genuinely LOVE giving bj's. Some don't. Just sayin.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Drop the preppy, good girl act and start enjoying yourself. Live a little. People are attracted to relaxed, fun people. Stop "hunting" and go with the flow. Also, throw out your "checklist" of what makes a "catch" or you might end up an old maid.

OP here. It is not an "act" its how I naturally am. I don't even know how to dress edgy like all these girls with crop tops!

[Anonymous]

Guys often like the naturally good looking...no stress kind of women. You just can't put a finger on it OP. Sorry, but sometimes good things just go to others ... and for some it seems like a constant.

Just try to be yourself and see where your life takes you. When you compare yourselves to others constantly, it can get really lonely and depressing.

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Anonymous wrote:Drop the preppy, good girl act and start enjoying yourself. Live a little. People are attracted to relaxed, fun people. Stop "hunting" and go with the flow. Also, throw out your "checklist" of what makes a "catch" or you might end up an old maid.

OP here. It is not an "act" its how I naturally am. I don't even know how to dress edgy like all these girls with crop tops!

I'm a PP here who was also a "good" girl, but learned to relax. You are so not getting it. You don't have to dress in very revealing clothes, get drunk, act crazy and all flirty to find a nice guy. If you are naturally not "fun", then there's your answer. Maybe find a guy who is as "boring" as you are, but they generally tend to not be as hot or rich.

People have told you.. most men, hot or not, rich or not, like other people, men and women, who are fun. Only boring people like other boring people. You know?

Like I said, I don't do any of those things (dress provocatively, get drunk, flirt), but I can be fun and relaxed. And I don't like boring, uptight people, either, in a friend or S/O. Why would a man?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Drop the preppy, good girl act and start enjoying yourself. Live a little. People are attracted to relaxed, fun people. Stop "hunting" and go with the flow. Also, throw out your "checklist" of what makes a "catch" or you might end up an old maid.

OP here. It is not an "act" its how I naturally am. I don't even know how to dress edgy like all these girls with crop tops!

If it wasn't act you wouldn't be comparing yourself to this woman because you wouldn't notice. You're trying to do all the right things and meet the "right" guy. It doesn't work that way.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:There are no limits to what guys will do for a pretty girl. Really, a woman only needs to be fit and guys will line up like its the iPhone 10!

What about grace, good manners, good morals, a brain and being levelheaded?

Honestly, sounds boring.

Exactly. Every guy know that marrying a prim and proper girl is a one-way ticket to "no BJ-ville" and its a painful trip back. If you don't marry a woman who loves fun, sex and values her appearance then as life's milestones start stacking up your attraction and chemistry will fail and you'll end up being plutonic friends (best case scenario) raising kids.

Guys that marry the whore or party girl end up with ex wives who take them to the cleaners. That's the reality of that one. BJ's, give me a break most (not all) don't care to do that. If that's you're big reason to get married, better stay single because kids and other life importance's will take priority.

Guy here. Some women genuinely LOVE giving bj's. Some don't. Just sayin.

And some of those women pretend to LOVE it before marriage.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:There are no limits to what guys will do for a pretty girl. Really, a woman only needs to be fit and guys will line up like its the iPhone 10!

What about grace, good manners, good morals, a brain and being levelheaded?

Honestly, sounds boring.

Exactly. Every guy know that marrying a prim and proper girl is a one-way ticket to "no BJ-ville" and its a painful trip back. If you don't marry a woman who loves fun, sex and values her appearance then as life's milestones start stacking up your attraction and chemistry will fail and you'll end up being plutonic friends (best case scenario) raising kids.

Guys that marry the whore or party girl end up with ex wives who take them to the cleaners. That's the reality of that one. BJ's, give me a break most (not all) don't care to do that. If that's you're big reason to get married, better stay single because kids and other life importance's will take priority.

Guy here. Some women genuinely LOVE giving bj's. Some don't. Just sayin.

And some of those women pretend to LOVE it before marriage.

You can tell when they actually do love it.

[Anonymous]

^pp. I love it and still do. Dh is the one who seems to never want it. I used to love giving trashy bjs when I was single. Those were the days!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Drop the preppy, good girl act and start enjoying yourself. Live a little. People are attracted to relaxed, fun people. Stop "hunting" and go with the flow. Also, throw out your "checklist" of what makes a "catch" or you might end up an old maid.

OP here. It is not an "act" its how I naturally am. I don't even know how to dress edgy like all these girls with crop tops!

I'm a PP here who was also a "good" girl, but learned to relax. You are so not getting it. You don't have to dress in very revealing clothes, get drunk, act crazy and all flirty to find a nice guy. If you are naturally not "fun", then there's your answer. Maybe find a guy who is as "boring" as you are, but they generally tend to not be as hot or rich.

People have told you.. most men, hot or not, rich or not, like other people, men and women, who are fun. Only boring people like other boring people. You know?

Like I said, I don't do any of those things (dress provocatively, get drunk, flirt), but I can be fun and relaxed. And I don't like boring, uptight people, either, in a friend or S/O. Why would a man?

Agree.

[Anonymous]

OP, it's not how you dress or do your hair. You have an ugly attitude and men can smell an uptight high maintenance bitch from a mile away. Just read your post, do you talk like this IRL? This girl was never your friend, she was a trainwreck who you loved to gossip about and would love to see her fail. How dare she attract a guy who is a catch! You are trash.

[Anonymous]

Men pick women who say yes and who are cute and fun. What else would we do?

[Anonymous]

I feel ya girl. This was me throughout my late 20s - lamenting the ditzy girls that seemed to get the best catches. I know exactly how you feel (and I don't think you're not a horrible jealous b).

I come from a conservative religion (no alcohol, no premarital sex, etc) and stuck to most of those values through my 20s. I literally would complain to my guy friends (after making sure I had no chance to date them lol) that I'm a good girl I follow the rules I should get a man... blah blah blah. At one point I said eff it all, and started to really throw myself into life. I travelled alone and did things most "good girls" in my community wouldn't dream of. The other good girls shunned me, and lo and behold that's when I found my husband. But it's all coincidence! He happened to have recently ended his marriage, and our paths crossed. Meanwhile the other "good girls" went on for a couple more years single and then started to break out of their shell, and now they're coupling up too.

People say "relax, it'll happen when you let go!" In reality, it'll happen whenever it's supposed to happen, and you might as well do whatever the eff you like in the mean time and full enjoy yourself.

[Anonymous]

OMG you are having problems because you aren't being yourself. Be yourself! Don't wear crop tops or follow the rules or drink because you think you'll catch a guy. Do what you LOVE to do and feel COMFORTABLE doing and ENJOY doing. Full stop.

Regarding BJs. I LOVE giving them to some guys, but not others. So yeah.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:^pp. I love it and still do. Dh is the one who seems to never want it. I used to love giving trashy bjs when I was single. Those were the days!

Bless you! You make the world a better place and I'm not sure whats wrong with your DH!

[Anonymous]

OP: Shave more.