Why do men pick ditzy women sometimes?
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Anonymous
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I know this girl who is kind of realy gorgeous with thick dark hair,warm open eyes and a big goofy smile. Her natural good looks aside, she didn't even know how to wear makeup or do her hair and wore odd looking outfits every day. Due to her physique and pretty face, she was a man magnet everywhere we went. It was actually kind of annoying going out with her because guys would bypass us to swoop in and flirt with her. It wasn't all good though. She got dumped multiple times and although everyone wanted to date/sleep with her, no one wanted to date her. Which, given her goofy ditzy party girl personality, wasn't a surprise. She spent all night after work drunk and weekends partying and had like, guys on her speed dial. She loved the boy attention and cringed at the thought of marriage saying she did not believe in it.
Lo and behold, a year back she started dating this guy who, by all standards seems to be a major catch. He has a glamorous job, comes from a warm loving and wealthy family, has a really good head on his shoulders and eats healthy and works out and is super responsible. Basically, her exact opposite! Only now these two are the sickening cute couple who blast social media with couple pictures and public declarations of love. He is always fawning over her on social media and she, to the shock of everyone, a changed woman. She goes home straight after work to her boyfriend, cooks him elaborate meals(!!!!she lived on frozen food), peppers every sentence with "we" and "us" and "ours" and is a homebody compared to her former self. By all accounts they both seem over the moon happy and I sense and engagement heading their way. It was just a whirlwind romance to watch knowing her in our friendship group. We never thought she'd be someone to bag a guy so soon or of someone of such good quality. Very curious. |
Anonymous
| There's someone for everyone...even ditzes. |
Anonymous
| "Bag" someone? Trophy hunting are you? |
Anonymous
| You sound very jealous. Just worry about yourself. |
Anonymous
| Wow, what a shitty friend you are. |
Anonymous
I'm not really. Most girls who know her are kind of shocked at this outcome considering she never seemed to put much effort into seriously dating or becoming "marriage material" and actively toyed with tons of guys. We are allowed to express shock. |
Anonymous
| No you aren't. You're shallow and jealous. Grow up. |
Anonymous
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OP, as a woman, your post is quite revealing of your jealousy. For one, I think a lot of men do like naturally beautiful women, a woman who they can wake up next to in the morning and not think - wtf? You know?
Two: like PPs have said, there is a lid for every pot. |
Anonymous
| I'd go for your friend. |
Anonymous
| There are no limits to what guys will do for a pretty girl. Really, a woman only needs to be fit and guys will line up like its the iPhone 10! |
Anonymous
You are a loser. |
Anonymous
This is OP. Okay, so I do feel a slight tinge of jealousy. Some of my girlfriends and I have actively dated looking for a long term match and are good "well behaved" girls and its kind of a slap to our faces to see someone not care about any of this and wind up with what seems like a really good catch. It makes me wonder like, if guys like him want former partygirls, what will happen to us? |
Anonymous
What about grace, good manners, good morals, a brain and being levelheaded? 
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Anonymous
| Cats. |
Anonymous
No, you really are. You are saying bad things about a friend to a bunch of strangers. You are very clearly jealous and somehow believe you are more deserving of the good things in your friend's life. You have every right to act the way you are and we have every right to point out that you are an asshole. |