Men: do you care if a woman has a career?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:In general a teacher will be more attractive to a professional man able to be sole breadwinner of his family than a ball busting lawyer who thinks she is the bees knees.

This is another reason why I like being a lawyer: Weeds out insecure men like you. No man who uses the term "ball busting" seriously is worth the time it takes to dismiss him. I have two friends who are teachers and both of them have husbands who are really misogynistic tools. Both of my friends are smart (choice of husbands aside), but bullies who want to keep women small and controllable seem to be attracted to female teachers. My husband is sweet, smart and a good partner.

And your response alone shows why lawyers like you aren't attractive. Throwing around words like "insecure", "misogynistic trolls", "bullies." Way to jump to stereotypes. Would like to ask your husband whether he is truly happy.

Yes, I have no doubt my husband is secretly miserable because OMGLAWYERWIFE!! Funny that you are complaining about stereotypes when you trotted out quite a few about female lawyers. Carry on.

Keeping patting yourself on the back about how you're so much better than your friends that are teachers that somehow their profession makes them more controllable vs your profession who pays you more but is associated with an awful attitude and one of the least respected professions around. I'll like to see what your friends think you view their relationships.

She didn't say she thinks she is better than a teacher. Just that nasty men seem to be attracted to teachers. Miserable men don't want to be with a woman who is by training not afraid to argue. It's not a good or a bad trait, but it sure keeps the jerks at bay.

Makes for a good marriage..arguing. yipee.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:This discussion has solidified my decision to go to law school. Sounds like a great way to weed out the crazy, angry loser-men.

No worries..when you're done with law school in an ambulance chasing job saddled down with heavy student loans and the omglawyerwife stereotype..there won't be any men..at all.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:This discussion has solidified my decision to go to law school. Sounds like a great way to weed out the crazy, angry loser-men.

No worries..when you're done with law school in an ambulance chasing job saddled down with heavy student loans and the omglawyerwife stereotype..there won't be any men..at all.

What's gonna happen to all the menz? Some kind of genocide?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:This discussion has solidified my decision to go to law school. Sounds like a great way to weed out the crazy, angry loser-men.

No worries..when you're done with law school in an ambulance chasing job saddled down with heavy student loans and the omglawyerwife stereotype..there won't be any men..at all.

Yeah, tell that man hatin' shrew, Jebediah! All that larrnin' ain't gon do her no good wit us real men.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:This discussion has solidified my decision to go to law school. Sounds like a great way to weed out the crazy, angry loser-men.

No worries..when you're done with law school in an ambulance chasing job saddled down with heavy student loans and the omglawyerwife stereotype..there won't be any men..at all.

This sounds ominous. What exactly do you have planned?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:This discussion has solidified my decision to go to law school. Sounds like a great way to weed out the crazy, angry loser-men.

No worries..when you're done with law school in an ambulance chasing job saddled down with heavy student loans and the omglawyerwife stereotype..there won't be any men..at all.

What's gonna happen to all the menz? Some kind of genocide?

Female lawyer PP here. I think he is referring to my plot to emasculate all the men on earth to death. I spoke about it at the last meeting of the Overeducated Feminazi Club. By the time you graduate law school, we anticipate that the plot will have succeeded.

[Anonymous]

My DH absolutely cared whether I had a career. He also under no circumstances wanted a SAHM. While both of us are specialized, neither makes a lot of money (100k each) and we really can't afford to SAH nor really can we afford more than one kid.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:This discussion has solidified my decision to go to law school. Sounds like a great way to weed out the crazy, angry loser-men.

No worries..when you're done with law school in an ambulance chasing job saddled down with heavy student loans and the omglawyerwife stereotype..there won't be any men..at all.

What's gonna happen to all the menz? Some kind of genocide?

Female lawyer PP here. I think he is referring to my plot to emasculate all the men on earth to death. I spoke about it at the last meeting of the Overeducated Feminazi Club. By the time you graduate law school, we anticipate that the plot will have succeeded.

Oooh the Overeducated Feminazi Club, sounds like fun. And I'm so pleased to hear that all men will be eradicated. Sounds like the plan is going perfectly.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:This discussion has solidified my decision to go to law school. Sounds like a great way to weed out the crazy, angry loser-men.

No worries..when you're done with law school in an ambulance chasing job saddled down with heavy student loans and the omglawyerwife stereotype..there won't be any men..at all.

What's gonna happen to all the menz? Some kind of genocide?

Female lawyer PP here. I think he is referring to my plot to emasculate all the men on earth to death. I spoke about it at the last meeting of the Overeducated Feminazi Club. By the time you graduate law school, we anticipate that the plot will have succeeded.

Oooh the Overeducated Feminazi Club, sounds like fun. And I'm so pleased to hear that all men will be eradicated. Sounds like the plan is going perfectly.

A new member of the club?



Now, all I need is for PP who won't hire a female lawyers to throw me a bone and retain my services this month so that my cable won't be disconnected.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I don't think intelligence is tied to a career or education. I like an intelligent woman, but am a man and feel it is my job to provide the money.

My wife has a job because she likes it that way, but it is not a criteria for marriage. My main attraction is that she is funny, is physically fit and attractive, and that she is a kind person. She can work or SAH. Unfortunately her working makes our lives more complicated, but her "career" was never a focus for me.

Ew you, ew you, ew you.

[Anonymous]

She must be educated, I don't care of she wants to SAH. I would not date a waitress,

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I've always been of the belief that men don't care if a woman has a career. I'm in my late twenties now but I've worked retail and as an unpaid intern and none of my suitors cared if I was a doctor or lawyer. They were all doctors lawyers or engineers. My sister who is gorgeous is a waitress and is being pursued by a NASA scientist. She doesn't even have a college degree.

So what do you think? Men tell us your honest opinions.

Have any of your "suitors" turned into serious boyfriends? Are you looking for a husband to take care of you? Every man I have ever dated, including my husband, would run far away from a woman who was angling for a husband as a means of *avoiding* a career.

It's one thing to decide after getting married that it works better for your family if you stay home and take care of your children. But if you are in your late 20s and you haven't been working on building some kind of career, men are going to assume you are looking for a sugar daddy.

Do you have a plan to support yourself in the event you don't get married (i.e., you don't find a man who wants to marry you)? Because it's one thing to be "pursued" in the dating arena, but it's another thing to find a partner who wants to spend his life with you.

My aunt was gorgeous in her 20s and 30s. She was a waitress. She was pursued by many men -- wealthy men, handsome men. None of those suitors turned into husbands. And she never worked on building a solid career to support herself. So now she is a waitress in her 60s who lives with her parents and partly relies on their Social Security. She seems to have come to terms with it, but she went through a period of desperation in her 40s and 50s. And even then, she still had time to do something career-wise, but she just wouldn't face reality.

I honestly think that had she taken a different path and worked on finding a job, becoming financially independent, she would have had better luck finding a partner. And if she didn't find a partner, she at least wouldn't be working on her feet all night for pathetic tips.

I don't think any woman should squander her 20s and 30s banking on finding a husband to make up for not establishing a career. It's very hard once you hit 40 to shift gears from retail jobs or waitressing to something more substantial.

For what it's worth, it isn't advice I'd just give to young women. Pretty much every person should focus on finding a path toward financial independence and carving out a career base that they can build on. It gives you options.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:This discussion has solidified my decision to go to law school. Sounds like a great way to weed out the crazy, angry loser-men.

No worries..when you're done with law school in an ambulance chasing job saddled down with heavy student loans and the omglawyerwife stereotype..there won't be any men..at all.

What's gonna happen to all the menz? Some kind of genocide?

Female lawyer PP here. I think he is referring to my plot to emasculate all the men on earth to death. I spoke about it at the last meeting of the Overeducated Feminazi Club. By the time you graduate law school, we anticipate that the plot will have succeeded.

Oooh the Overeducated Feminazi Club, sounds like fun. And I'm so pleased to hear that all men will be eradicated. Sounds like the plan is going perfectly.

A new member of the club?



Now, all I need is for PP who won't hire a female lawyers to throw me a bone and retain my services this month so that my cable won't be disconnected.

Wooo hooo! I'm so excited to join!

Also, at some point we really need to start doing these:


The menz have been getting out of hand!

[Anonymous]

Matriarchy patrols will work. Wanna know why?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I'm in my late twenties now but I've worked retail and as an unpaid intern

Wow, that's quite the resume.

and none of my suitors cared if I was a doctor or lawyer.

Why would they?

They were all doctors lawyers or engineers.

Yeah, I bet.

My sister who is gorgeous is a waitress and is being pursued by a NASA scientist. She doesn't even have a college degree.

I highly doubt some NASA scientist is going to seriously date some broad who only graduated from HS because it was her social avenue. Sure if she's hot and she polishes trailer hitches, then I'm sure he'll go out with her. But seriously date her? No chance.

My honest opinion? Your story is complete BS.

I get your point... but I happen to know an attractive girl (early 20s) with a HS degree who managed to date several older executives from Microsoft and Amazon. They were not interested in having an intelligent conversation but then neither was she. They both got what they wanted.... so I can see a retail girl dating above her class...