Men: do you care if a woman has a career?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:She must be educated, I don't care of she wants to SAH. I would not date a waitress,

What if the waitress looks like Rachel Green?

No, the chin would turn me off.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My DH absolutely cared whether I had a career. He also under no circumstances wanted a SAHM. While both of us are specialized, neither makes a lot of money (100k each) and we really can't afford to SAH nor really can we afford more than one kid.

Would he care if he made 300k?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I've always been of the belief that men don't care if a woman has a career. I'm in my late twenties now but I've worked retail and as an unpaid intern and none of my suitors cared if I was a doctor or lawyer. They were all doctors lawyers or engineers. My sister who is gorgeous is a waitress and is being pursued by a NASA scientist. She doesn't even have a college degree.

So what do you think? Men tell us your honest opinions.

Men choose women who make them feel loved, admired and desired. That's the foundation for the majority of men. Beyond that the building on that foundation will be different based on so many different things it's impossible to wrap up in a neat package.

BTW...degrees are not a guarantee of, nor is it exclusive to, intelligence.

+1

PP here.

Thanks for the +1. I was beginning to think I was the only one in this thread that believed that to be a truth. Another truth that I believe in...and has been oft repeated...women look at a man and know what they want to change when they get married...men look at the woman before them and never want them to change. Both are destined for disappointment. LOL

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I've always been of the belief that men don't care if a woman has a career. I'm in my late twenties now but I've worked retail and as an unpaid intern and none of my suitors cared if I was a doctor or lawyer. They were all doctors lawyers or engineers. My sister who is gorgeous is a waitress and is being pursued by a NASA scientist. She doesn't even have a college degree.

So what do you think? Men tell us your honest opinions.

Men choose women who make them feel loved, admired and desired. That's the foundation for the majority of men. Beyond that the building on that foundation will be different based on so many different things it's impossible to wrap up in a neat package.

BTW...degrees are not a guarantee of, nor is it exclusive to, intelligence.

+1

PP here.

Thanks for the +1. I was beginning to think I was the only one in this thread that believed that to be a truth. Another truth that I believe in...and has been oft repeated...women look at a man and know what they want to change when they get married...men look at the woman before them and never want them to change. Both are destined for disappointment. LOL

+1 I agree with you. For all this talk of how your children will be smarter etc, at the end of the day men want to be married to women who are loving and supportive and a great partner. At some point the children will fly the coop and you'll be left with your wife as a companion. Once I broke out of the ivy league bubble and met people in the real world I've started appreciating the different people I meet for their strengths, uniqueness and diverse opinionsl. Just because you got a prestigious degree does not mean necessarily you're smarter or better in any way.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My DH absolutely cared whether I had a career. He also under no circumstances wanted a SAHM. While both of us are specialized, neither makes a lot of money (100k each) and we really can't afford to SAH nor really can we afford more than one kid.

Would he care if he made 300k?

+1. You'll be singing a different tune if your DH earned $3300 to $500K.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:FUCK NO WAY.

WHAT HAPPENED BRO?

BORED WITH BORING WASHINGTON CAREERIST SHRIKES.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:FUCK NO WAY.

WHAT HAPPENED BRO?

BORED WITH BORING WASHINGTON CAREERIST SHRIKES.

BORED WITH BROS WITH INFERIORITY COMPLEXES

[Anonymous]

We're watching marriages break up as kids go off to college, and it seems like the women who are being left are the ones with little education and no career. They seem to be the ones whose husbands decide that they are too boring to spend the next thirty years with.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I've always been of the belief that men don't care if a woman has a career. I'm in my late twenties now but I've worked retail and as an unpaid intern and none of my suitors cared if I was a doctor or lawyer. They were all doctors lawyers or engineers. My sister who is gorgeous is a waitress and is being pursued by a NASA scientist. She doesn't even have a college degree.

So what do you think? Men tell us your honest opinions.

Men choose women who make them feel loved, admired and desired. That's the foundation for the majority of men. Beyond that the building on that foundation will be different based on so many different things it's impossible to wrap up in a neat package.

BTW...degrees are not a guarantee of, nor is it exclusive to, intelligence.

+1

PP here.

Thanks for the +1. I was beginning to think I was the only one in this thread that believed that to be a truth. Another truth that I believe in...and has been oft repeated...women look at a man and know what they want to change when they get married...men look at the woman before them and never want them to change. Both are destined for disappointment. LOL

Let me give you a +2. I have the privilege of not needing my SAHM DW to work so perhaps it's easy to say, but everything you said about what men want in a woman rings 100% true to me.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:We're watching marriages break up as kids go off to college, and it seems like the women who are being left are the ones with little education and no career. They seem to be the ones whose husbands decide that they are too boring to spend the next thirty years with.

I don't see that at all. Divorce is much more complex than that.

As a man I never cared if she had a career or not. That my job to worry about.

She does have a career, but that is her choice. It is not a deal maker or breaker for me.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:We're watching marriages break up as kids go off to college, and it seems like the women who are being left are the ones with little education and no career. They seem to be the ones whose husbands decide that they are too boring to spend the next thirty years with.

Too bad statistics do not support your "educated" guess.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I've always been of the belief that men don't care if a woman has a career. I'm in my late twenties now but I've worked retail and as an unpaid intern and none of my suitors cared if I was a doctor or lawyer. They were all doctors lawyers or engineers. My sister who is gorgeous is a waitress and is being pursued by a NASA scientist. She doesn't even have a college degree.

So what do you think? Men tell us your honest opinions.

when I am ready to have children, I want a spouse that is as smart as me. Maybe not college educated with a career, lots of different life experiences, but she better be smart and intelligent.

Boys inherit their intelligence from their mothers.

http://www.independent.co.uk/news/brainy-sons-owe-intelligence-to-their-mothers-1339099.html

http://languagelog.ldc.upenn.edu/myl/llog/Turner1996.pdf

Choose carefully, men.

This is what the guys who just want a sweet homemaker don't anticipate. I work in an agency full of people with PhDs. The women are married to men who are similarly educated. So are some of the men.Their kids toddle off to brand name colleges. About half of the men are married to women who are less well educated or who stay at home. Their kids live at home and go to NoVa Community College or just get a job. Their doctor dads are scratching their heads, wondering why their kids aren't as smart and motivated as they are.

Might that have something to do with the fact that two incomes can afford a better college than one?

I also don't believe for a second that a doctor's son, no matter who the mother is, will just "get a job."

[Anonymous]

We're very happily married and I don't hold a college degree. I stay at home with our two young kids. When we met I worked as an administrative assistant.

My husband holds a degree and a great job. When our kids go to elementary school I will likely either complete my degree and go back to work, or just go back into administrative work.

My career/education path has never dictated how my husband feels about me.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I like that my wife is educated with a graduate degree, but I do not care if she has a career, unless she wants to. Fortunately for our family, she takes pride in being a SAHM. I could not be happier, or more proud of her.

Ditto. I often say, the secret to my success is my SAHM wife!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My DH absolutely cared whether I had a career. He also under no circumstances wanted a SAHM. While both of us are specialized, neither makes a lot of money (100k each) and we really can't afford to SAH nor really can we afford more than one kid.

Would he care if he made 300k?

+1. You'll be singing a different tune if your DH earned $3300 to $500K.

Possibly, but my DH wanted 50% of chores/housework/kids. He's also seen too many SAHMs who just aren't good housewives (the cooking/cleaning/small household task part) and then want their DH to do all of that when he gets home. He'd prefer we both work and then we both do 50% of house items.

But yes, I feel very stuck even though I don't feel low income. Just feel priced out of childcare. We make about 160k though. Only he makes 100k. We're having trouble saving enough for unpaid maternity and then the daycare afterwards.