Men: do you care if a woman has a career?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I love that my wife has a career - and she does too. A gripe that she had about ex's though, is that they expected her to be a sahm once they had kids.

I married your DW's ex! I am a SAHM of over 15 years and this was always a shared plan - I would be at home with our children. I've wanted to be married and a mom since I was a very little girl and that never wavered - through college and career. DH always supported and encouraged me because we have shared values.

I'll go back, eventually. Maybe.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:She must be educated, I don't care of she wants to SAH. I would not date a waitress,

What if the waitress looks like Rachel Green?

[Anonymous]

HPY Lawyer wife and mom here. This has been highly entertaining! I have discussed with my fellow-Ivy lawyer female friends how different it was for us on the dating market. I always felt like my very career weeded out all the insecure losers out there. They ruled out dating a very highly educated lawyer from the get-go. Made it easy since We never wasted any time with them. I married young to my law-school sweetheart (actually met in graduate school -- yes, gasp, two fancy graduate degrees!!!). But, then again, my DH (similar to my female lawyer friends) all married highly educated, secure men.

Frankly, I believe my education narrowed the dating pool to a degree that I never had to deal with insecure losers.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:HPY Lawyer wife and mom here. This has been highly entertaining! I have discussed with my fellow-Ivy lawyer female friends how different it was for us on the dating market. I always felt like my very career weeded out all the insecure losers out there. They ruled out dating a very highly educated lawyer from the get-go. Made it easy since We never wasted any time with them. I married young to my law-school sweetheart (actually met in graduate school -- yes, gasp, two fancy graduate degrees!!!). But, then again, my DH (similar to my female lawyer friends) all married highly educated, secure men.

Frankly, I believe my education narrowed the dating pool to a degree that I never had to deal with insecure losers.

I'll be interested to know of your pool of friends the percentage that got married vs the percentage that did not.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:HPY Lawyer wife and mom here. This has been highly entertaining! I have discussed with my fellow-Ivy lawyer female friends how different it was for us on the dating market. I always felt like my very career weeded out all the insecure losers out there. They ruled out dating a very highly educated lawyer from the get-go. Made it easy since We never wasted any time with them. I married young to my law-school sweetheart (actually met in graduate school -- yes, gasp, two fancy graduate degrees!!!). But, then again, my DH (similar to my female lawyer friends) all married highly educated, secure men.

Frankly, I believe my education narrowed the dating pool to a degree that I never had to deal with insecure losers.

This is the vibe I get from most successful men. They want an equal.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I'm in my late twenties now but I've worked retail and as an unpaid intern

Wow, that's quite the resume.

and none of my suitors cared if I was a doctor or lawyer.

Why would they?

They were all doctors lawyers or engineers.

Yeah, I bet.

My sister who is gorgeous is a waitress and is being pursued by a NASA scientist. She doesn't even have a college degree.

I highly doubt some NASA scientist is going to seriously date some broad who only graduated from HS because it was her social avenue. Sure if she's hot and she polishes trailer hitches, then I'm sure he'll go out with her. But seriously date her? No chance.

My honest opinion? Your story is complete BS.

I disagree.

Many men who are financially successful don't necessarily go looking for another successful counterpart.

While women tend to seek men who have power + money, men tend to seek women who are attractive and can make great arm candy.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:HPY Lawyer wife and mom here. This has been highly entertaining! I have discussed with my fellow-Ivy lawyer female friends how different it was for us on the dating market. I always felt like my very career weeded out all the insecure losers out there. They ruled out dating a very highly educated lawyer from the get-go. Made it easy since We never wasted any time with them. I married young to my law-school sweetheart (actually met in graduate school -- yes, gasp, two fancy graduate degrees!!!). But, then again, my DH (similar to my female lawyer friends) all married highly educated, secure men.

Frankly, I believe my education narrowed the dating pool to a degree that I never had to deal with insecure losers.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=YDhf9qwiA34

[Anonymous]

FUCK NO WAY.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:FUCK NO WAY.

WHAT HAPPENED BRO?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I've always been of the belief that men don't care if a woman has a career. I'm in my late twenties now but I've worked retail and as an unpaid intern and none of my suitors cared if I was a doctor or lawyer. They were all doctors lawyers or engineers. My sister who is gorgeous is a waitress and is being pursued by a NASA scientist. She doesn't even have a college degree.

So what do you think? Men tell us your honest opinions.

when I am ready to have children, I want a spouse that is as smart as me. Maybe not college educated with a career, lots of different life experiences, but she better be smart and intelligent.

[Anonymous]

Man here. My honest opinion.

When I was younger the first thing that drew me to a woman was her looks. Then, if there was mutual attraction, she had to be someone I liked spending time with for the relationship to last. From there, for real long term, we needed chemistry plus I need to respect her intellectually. So yes, of course, I would happily date a girl in retail if she also was reasonably intelligent and could hold opinions and conversation.

To complete the picture, I married a lawyer, but she is a SAHM and gave up her career for mine and the kids. My job involves international travel so I am grateful I found someone who pours her soul in the domestic front. I am also happy she is intelligent and can hold my attention and interest. I don't care that she no longer has a career. Her being a lawyer was neither a plus or minus. It's just a piece of paper - their are plenty of idiot professionals and plenty of bright retail workers.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I've always been of the belief that men don't care if a woman has a career. I'm in my late twenties now but I've worked retail and as an unpaid intern and none of my suitors cared if I was a doctor or lawyer. They were all doctors lawyers or engineers. My sister who is gorgeous is a waitress and is being pursued by a NASA scientist. She doesn't even have a college degree.

So what do you think? Men tell us your honest opinions.

when I am ready to have children, I want a spouse that is as smart as me. Maybe not college educated with a career, lots of different life experiences, but she better be smart and intelligent.

Boys inherit their intelligence from their mothers.

http://www.independent.co.uk/news/brainy-sons-owe-intelligence-to-their-mothers-1339099.html

http://languagelog.ldc.upenn.edu/myl/llog/Turner1996.pdf

Choose carefully, men.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I've always been of the belief that men don't care if a woman has a career. I'm in my late twenties now but I've worked retail and as an unpaid intern and none of my suitors cared if I was a doctor or lawyer. They were all doctors lawyers or engineers. My sister who is gorgeous is a waitress and is being pursued by a NASA scientist. She doesn't even have a college degree.

So what do you think? Men tell us your honest opinions.

Men choose women who make them feel loved, admired and desired. That's the foundation for the majority of men. Beyond that the building on that foundation will be different based on so many different things it's impossible to wrap up in a neat package.

BTW...degrees are not a guarantee of, nor is it exclusive to, intelligence.

+1

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I've always been of the belief that men don't care if a woman has a career. I'm in my late twenties now but I've worked retail and as an unpaid intern and none of my suitors cared if I was a doctor or lawyer. They were all doctors lawyers or engineers. My sister who is gorgeous is a waitress and is being pursued by a NASA scientist. She doesn't even have a college degree.

So what do you think? Men tell us your honest opinions.

when I am ready to have children, I want a spouse that is as smart as me. Maybe not college educated with a career, lots of different life experiences, but she better be smart and intelligent.

Boys inherit their intelligence from their mothers.

http://www.independent.co.uk/news/brainy-sons-owe-intelligence-to-their-mothers-1339099.html

http://languagelog.ldc.upenn.edu/myl/llog/Turner1996.pdf

Choose carefully, men.

I think most smart men, aka wealthy men, do.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I've always been of the belief that men don't care if a woman has a career. I'm in my late twenties now but I've worked retail and as an unpaid intern and none of my suitors cared if I was a doctor or lawyer. They were all doctors lawyers or engineers. My sister who is gorgeous is a waitress and is being pursued by a NASA scientist. She doesn't even have a college degree.

So what do you think? Men tell us your honest opinions.

when I am ready to have children, I want a spouse that is as smart as me. Maybe not college educated with a career, lots of different life experiences, but she better be smart and intelligent.

Boys inherit their intelligence from their mothers.

http://www.independent.co.uk/news/brainy-sons-owe-intelligence-to-their-mothers-1339099.html

http://languagelog.ldc.upenn.edu/myl/llog/Turner1996.pdf

Choose carefully, men.

This is what the guys who just want a sweet homemaker don't anticipate. I work in an agency full of people with PhDs. The women are married to men who are similarly educated. So are some of the men.Their kids toddle off to brand name colleges. About half of the men are married to women who are less well educated or who stay at home. Their kids live at home and go to NoVa Community College or just get a job. Their doctor dads are scratching their heads, wondering why their kids aren't as smart and motivated as they are.