Men: do you care if a woman has a career?

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Totally depends on the man. There is no consensus. I prefer an educated woman who could have a career but instead works at home. Not a popular sentiment on DCUM but so what.

+1.

I think this is typical for alot of educated, professional men. I think they want someone who is a "match" in education and profession, but would then prefer that she make the family her priority instead of her job once kids come, whether that means SAHM or work part-time. I think two big careers in one household is really hard to manage, just logistically.

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I like an intelligent woman, but I'm also happy with the differentiation of roles. One of us needs to tend to home/personal/family matters more than two demanding careers would comfortably allow, so I appreciate that she is secure enough to "step back" and take on that role in our lives.

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Anonymous wrote:Not op but question for the men who prefer the women have a career--do you also care if it is "prestigious?" Does it make a difference whether she is, say, a lawyer versus a teacher?

What a sad commentary that being a teacher is not considered as prestigious a career as being a lawyer. That's one indication of what's wrong with this country's priorities.

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There have been articles and studies about this issue. It used to be that men married "down" in terms of finding wives who were not as educated or career orientated as they are. Interestingly, This actually helped social mobility because women with only high school degrees could marry up. Now it's more common forensic to marry women of similar education background and ambition, and some have argued this has led to greater income disparity as high earners are more likely to pair up with other high earners.

I think most people probably want someone they can relate to and share interests with.

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Forensic = for men to

StupiD auto correct

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Anonymous wrote:I've always been of the belief that men don't care if a woman has a career. I'm in my late twenties now but I've worked retail and as an unpaid intern and none of my suitors cared if I was a doctor or lawyer. They were all doctors lawyers or engineers. My sister who is gorgeous is a waitress and is being pursued by a NASA scientist. She doesn't even have a college degree.

So what do you think? Men tell us your honest opinions.

Men choose women who make them feel loved, admired and desired. That's the foundation for the majority of men. Beyond that the building on that foundation will be different based on so many different things it's impossible to wrap up in a neat package.

BTW...degrees are not a guarantee of, nor is it exclusive to, intelligence.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Not op but question for the men who prefer the women have a career--do you also care if it is "prestigious?" Does it make a difference whether she is, say, a lawyer versus a teacher?

What a sad commentary that being a teacher is not considered as prestigious a career as being a lawyer. That's one indication of what's wrong with this country's priorities.

Between the two professions...Law and Education...I hold teachers in much higher regard.

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WTF is with this board sliding backward into the 18th century over the past couple of weeks?

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The times are changing. In many cases it takes two incomes to live comfortably.

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Anonymous wrote:The times are changing. In many cases it takes two incomes to live comfortably.

It's been that way. So you mean things are swing ing back toward one breadwinner?

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Given both women of equal beauty and attractiveness, I would choose the teacher over the lawyer. I admire the profession more, and she is likely to be more nurturing and there for our family when we have one.. Her teaching degree shows that she is qualified and just as intelligent as the lawyer or investment banker.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I'm in my late twenties now but I've worked retail and as an unpaid intern

Wow, that's quite the resume.

and none of my suitors cared if I was a doctor or lawyer.

Why would they?

They were all doctors lawyers or engineers.

Yeah, I bet.

My sister who is gorgeous is a waitress and is being pursued by a NASA scientist. She doesn't even have a college degree.

I highly doubt some NASA scientist is going to seriously date some broad who only graduated from HS because it was her social avenue. Sure if she's hot and she polishes trailer hitches, then I'm sure he'll go out with her. But seriously date her? No chance.

My honest opinion? Your story is complete BS.

I'm a ' NASA scientist' but female. Many of male colleagues are nerds and just happy to date a girl.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I'm in my late twenties now but I've worked retail and as an unpaid intern

Wow, that's quite the resume.

and none of my suitors cared if I was a doctor or lawyer.

Why would they?

They were all doctors lawyers or engineers.

Yeah, I bet.

My sister who is gorgeous is a waitress and is being pursued by a NASA scientist. She doesn't even have a college degree.

I highly doubt some NASA scientist is going to seriously date some broad who only graduated from HS because it was her social avenue. Sure if she's hot and she polishes trailer hitches, then I'm sure he'll go out with her. But seriously date her? No chance.

My honest opinion? Your story is complete BS.

I'm a ' NASA scientist' but female. Many of male colleagues are nerds and just happy to date a girl.

High earning socially awk nerds just want a girl to give them attention

[Anonymous]

Men who don't want a woman to have a career also want to be cooked for and cleaned up after. I don't want a maid, I want a partner.

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Anonymous wrote:Given both women of equal beauty and attractiveness, I would choose the teacher over the lawyer. I admire the profession more, and she is likely to be more nurturing and there for our family when we have one.. Her teaching degree shows that she is qualified and just as intelligent as the lawyer or investment banker.

I think teachers deserve just as much respect/pay as lawyer. Unfortunately there are teachers who are not bright (just as there are lawyers and investment bankers who are not bright). I don't think you can use occupation as a proxy for intelligence.

OP, some men care that women have careers. Those guys aren't dating you. Some guys don't care, so they are happy to date you. It really doesn't matter what "men" want in general - it's just about finding a fit for YOU. You need to find one person, not hordes of men.

It's like saying that men don't like women who are too big/small/wear lots of makeup/don't wear enough makeup. There are guys who are attracted to all of those things.