Vacation drama with mother

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I agree the mother is rude but not eating for 12 hrs when nursing is not ok, and 3 waffles at once is too much for anyone but a training athlete.

Good lord. Get over yourself. Three little eggos hardly make a "training athlete" meal.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Thanks everyone, we'll leave tomorrow. I just was afraid I was being a drama queen, but I guess that's what growing up with an emotionally abusive mother does to you.

Don't leave the beach, move out of the house. Get a hotel room and still see your sister.

Heck, I don't think you should leave because your abusive Mom "wins." But hi even we all have limited vacation time, moving to a hotel room might salvage this trip.

I don't think the mom wins here. The rest of the family will now know about her assholish behavior and will be deprived of spending time with OP, her husband and their baby because of it. OP is doing the right thing by leaving. I sure as hell would never put up with someone treating me like that.

OP, please update when you get a chance!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I agree the mother is rude but not eating for 12 hrs when nursing is not ok, and 3 waffles at once is too much for anyone but a training athlete.

Good lord. Get over yourself. Three little eggos hardly make a "training athlete" meal.

Seriously. A 5-year-old could eat that and be asking for seconds.

[Anonymous]

Holy cow. No wonder OP is overweight with such an awful
Mother. I can't believe how many people have to deal with crazy people like this for parents. I'm just really sorry you have to do this OP. I was overweight after my second and my super-slim athletic mother would have offered me seconds of the waffles. Maybe she's an enabler, but she's a hell of a lot nicer to spend time around than your bitch of a mom.

Good luck.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I agree the mother is rude but not eating for 12 hrs when nursing is not ok, and 3 waffles at once is too much for anyone but a training athlete.

Yeah, she should have been eating while she was asleep during the night! Idiot.

What nursing mom gets to sleep for 12 hours?

Who said she slept for 12 hours? It was 12 hours since she had last eaten. So she probably had dinner, went to bed a few hours later, then woke up and went to go have breakfast, like normal people.

[Anonymous]

Your mom sucks, OP. Be careful how she talks to your DC down the road. If you are leaving anyway, you should tell her why and tell her flat out that her behavior is rude and unacceptable. And next time plan a family vacation with your sister etc. without her!

[Anonymous]

We left. She called me a selfish bitch and said I was ruining things for everyone else.

And to the waffle police: 3 Vans waffles have 240 calories and 45 grams of carbs. I admit the carbs are really high, but it's what was around and 240 calories for breakfast won't kill anyone.

[Anonymous]

Yay, OP! You did the right thing. Glad you all left instead of putting up with that stressful atmosphere. Enjoy the rest of your vacation.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:We left. She called me a selfish bitch and said I was ruining things for everyone else.

And to the waffle police: 3 Vans waffles have 240 calories and 45 grams of carbs. I admit the carbs are really high, but it's what was around and 240 calories for breakfast won't kill anyone.

Hugs, op. I have to think this is not the first time she's been crappy to you. Have a fun rest of the week with your own family.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:We left. She called me a selfish bitch and said I was ruining things for everyone else.

And to the waffle police: 3 Vans waffles have 240 calories and 45 grams of carbs. I admit the carbs are really high, but it's what was around and 240 calories for breakfast won't kill anyone.

Good for you OP. You can't choose your family, but you can choose how you spend your time with them.

[Anonymous]

Wow what an overreaction.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Wow what an overreaction.

Who do you mean? OP or her mom?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Wow what an overreaction.

The fact that op's mom doubled down and called her a "selfish bitch" for leaving, instead of apologizing and asking her to stay, would indicate to me that there's probably a long history there and that this was probably not an isolated incident. Hence, op's departure is not likely to be an overreaction but probably a method of self-preservation.

[Anonymous]

Hugs op. Glad you are leaving. Staying will invite more drama.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I would feel uncomfortable every time I was eating something after that.

There would be a lot of contributing factors on whether I would leave - kids, drive, the rest of the trip, etc.

Alternatively, I might go to the store and buy a ton of groceries. And if you want waffles, buy yourself a family size box of your favorite frozen waffles to make sure there are enough! And then I would plan on doing my own thing for meals with my family. If people wanted to join they could but I wouldn't want to sit in that beach house eating with my mom who treated me like that.

And next year, when she suggests a beach vacation again, I would probably take it into consideration.

I would go and buy my own food as well if that is at all possible, and do my own thing.