I have a sexless and loveless marriage. Ask me anything
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Anonymous
| Good night OP. Keep us posted please. We care. |
Anonymous
| Hey OP, you and I are in very similar boats. It it's helping me to read your thread. Thanks. |
Anonymous
| What have you tried? Did you do any marriage counseling? Or do you feel it's past the point of no return? |
Anonymous
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Why the hell do you stay?
You are showing your children that this is what a marriage is like and this is the way typical married people live. Not healthy and not good for your kids. If anything else, you owe it to your two children to leave this man and move on so you can show them just what true happiness looks like. Sorry if this sounds harsh. Just thinking about the kids first. Good luck. 
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Anonymous
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You're not special.
Plenty of us are in marriages that aren't ringing any bells, and many tears. In sickness and in health, my dear. Soldier on. Marriage doesn't mean we're going to be happy all the time. |
Anonymous
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This is a painful situation that can break any relationship...it sends an humiliating message to the frustrated partner: you are not sexy enough, or lovable enough, or...
how can you manage that? I have done research and found an answer here: this book is named: Escaping The Sexless Marriage: A Practical Manual to Bring Back Intimacy and Trust into a Passive Aggressive Marriage. http://www.amazon.com/dp/B00DAGYN9A/ref=rdr_kindle_ext_tmb |
Anonymous
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OP..... Did you get to talk to the counselor yet?
Hope you are feeling better today. |
Anonymous
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OP, here's a question you haven't answered. do you WANT the marriage to work? Eg, would you be happy with this marriage if you husband got home earlier on fridays and had sex more frequently? Is that enough? is he a loving, generous kind person in general?
DH and I have a lot of problems and frustrations. But, he loves me. He doesn't always show it the right way, and he can be an ass, and a slob, and lazy. But I know in my heart of hearts he really cares about me and wants us to have a happy, close marriage. It doesn't sound like your husband feels that way, or is even capable of feeling that way right now. Was it always like this? Did something change and if so, when? Does he express dissatisfaction with the marriage in direct (rather than indirect) ways? I have to say that your posts sound so hopeless. You have one life to live. I'd give it one more shot with DH, but initiate therapy and exploring separation. I'd rather be stressed, but free, than constantly reminded of how much I am unloved. there are terrible consequences to divorce, too, including custody issues, but things sound pretty dire. |
Anonymous
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OK, here is my question.
WHY? Why would you stay? |
Anonymous
I'm not OP, but I can probably answer this: $$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$ This marriage has probably been lukewarm or cold for a long, long time, maybe since day 1, but he has $$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$ |
Anonymous
| OP, hopefully all is going well. Some of these comments can come off a bit harsh. |
Anonymous
| Your kids will be fucked up. Think about it. |
Anonymous
not at all and there is a lot of evidence to prove this. to your point, kids are fucked up when they are raised in a dysfunctional home and where the parents don't love each other. But you're not interested in a real conversation, so STFU and go away. |
Anonymous
OP here. I earn more than he does. Always have, most likely always will. So whatever! If he had $$$$$$ I'd be out on a happy shopping spree! Whatever man. I am not *that* girl. |
Anonymous
Yes we tried marriage counseling. Not necessarily- don't really know yet |