I have a sexless and loveless marriage. Ask me anything
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Anonymous
| 2 lovely kids, marriage is miserable. Ask me anything |
Anonymous
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Do you think it's okay for your kids to be growing up in an unhealthy atmosphere? Are you repeating a cycle you witnessed in your parents' marriage?
Don't you and your kids deserve better than this? |
Anonymous
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How old are your children?
Do you think your bad marriage is affecting them? How long have you been married? |
Anonymous
| are you attractive? are you looking outside your marriage for a FWB? |
Anonymous
No it's certainly not okay. Yes, my parents divorced when I was young. I know my dad loved my mom deeply, but my mom didn't reciprocate. My dad was devastated when they separated. She cheated and initiated the divorce. Of course we deserve better. I am so depressed I feel numb. I was hoping things would improve with time but it hasn't. I asked him to go to counseling a year ago. He went, didn't open up, and so it want effective. It just dawned on me a few weeks ago that he really and truly doesn't care about me. Let me rephrase it. He doesn't love me. Everything little thing I ask for (like date night) to help improve the marriage, he doesn't make any effort. |
Anonymous
Kids are elementary school age. They're so young, I don't think they would have anything to compare it to. The older DC smiles from ear to ear when we kiss (a rare moment in history) but its only a matter to time for it to start affecting them. We try not to argue in front of them. Married 10 years. |
Anonymous
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How long have you been married?
We are here to listen... |
Anonymous
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Do you still love him?
Are you looking for friendship now? |
Anonymous
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so then are you staying or are you contemplating leaving?
if you're staying, how are you going to get your needs met? is H having a piece on the side? If you're thinking of leaving, FWIW, sounds like the DCs are young enough to adapt quickly (lots and lots of threads here on this and many related issues BTW). |
Anonymous
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Are you in therapy?
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Anonymous
Yes I am told I'm very pretty (subjective isn't it? But yes attractive, never had a problem meeting and dating attractive eligible guys pre-marriage). I am out of shape, but working on it. Wont stoop that low to look for FWB. The shower head is my friend. |
Anonymous
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I need a running buddy..
but in all seriousness, you are in a curious situation. |
Anonymous
10 years. Thanks for listening. |
Anonymous
I hope she is, she sounds very sad. She sounds like she needs a friend at least. |
Anonymous
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well even through an anonymous forum you can find strength - at the very least there are many of us, men included, who can commiserate and sympathize.
just keep your chin up (I know, it's not easy) and take time to get your head on straight. and by the way, sounds like your shower head is a lucky son-of-a-gun (hope that at least made you smile just a little) |