First dates feel like job interviews
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Anonymous
Are you allergic to women your own age? Why must they be 20-somethings? |
Anonymous
| OP’s dating range should be 25-35 but for some reason he shots for 25-29. Then he complains that women treat him in a transactional way |
Anonymous
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OP sounds like a bad date. If the dates he plans are boring and he refuses to screen women ahead of time and he has education requirements and then refuses to discuss education it seems like it's an easy point to who's fault it is.
Then again, for a divorced math nerd who only wants women a decade younger, it does seem right on track. |
Anonymous
Building what exactly? That the most interesting thing about it are the men you've spread your legs for? |
Anonymous
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You avoid the interview problem by getting all the interview questions out of the way before the date.
If you're looking for a LTR, there is no point in meeting someone without pre-screening them. It's perfectly acceptable to have some basic criteria for the person you might spend the rest of your life with. It would be weird if you didn't have this. You should ascertain whether the person meets your minimum specs (and whether you meet hers) BEFORE you meet in person. Pick up the phone and have a conversation. IF that goes well, then ask her out on a date. YOU need to plan the date. The purpose of in-person date is to determine whether you have a spark with the woman. Choose a public spot where you can easily linger if things are going great. Make sure the place isn't so loud that you cannot hear one another. Give her your full name in advance so that she can Google away and confirm that you're who you say you are. 90% of the "interview" questions you're getting would probably be answered with a 20-minute online search. Let her get all of that out of the way BEFORE the date. If she still wants to go out with you after vetting you, you will have a much more relaxing and enjoyable time socializing together. Pro tip: YOU need to gather info on her and demonstrate that you actually read her profile and like what she shared about herself. Are you asking follow up questions about her stated interest in baby goat yoga? Do you share her interest in one day hiking the Appalachian Trail? Where you also an English Lit major? Being curious about who she is as a person is how you have an interesting date. |
Anonymous
Gag me. |
Anonymous
Not OP. That is a great idea! No longer single, but when I was I didn't want to waste my time on someone who wasn't aligned on on the basics. |
Anonymous
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Hey OP, are you usually a good conversationalist bit for some reason dates are like interviews? Or is it hard for you to have fun conversations in general?
Do you ask your dates stuff like what they do for fun, their favorite restaurant, whether they have siblings, what they are currently watching, their favorite hobbies, something they have always wanted to try, etc? The old saying “if you’re bored then you’re boring” rings true. |
Anonymous
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Sounds like OP is dating out of his budget.
You invited someone on a first date to... walk? Low effort much? |
Anonymous
"I am not only interested in women who are mid 20s. I will also accept mid to late 20s." 
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Anonymous
A lot of men on video interviews just not my specs. Very young kids, just divided and marriage negative (say they dumped a prior GF because she wanted kids/marriage) , have kids out of wedlock, not employed, live far away, out of share, don’t own a car, never travel etc. No need to meet. Very few people meet basics - eg are like me - home and car owners, employed, like to travel, in shape, seek life partners etc. |
Anonymous
| OP, what are you even talking to these women about on the app? You don't/won't screen them, so what are you even saying to them when you match? |
Anonymous
This. |
Anonymous
Thank you. For this comment |
Anonymous
Queen. |