Do you say anything if visiting family are dressed inappropriately?

[Anonymous]

MYOB. This is what teens and college girls wear.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Wow, OP.

She's a teenage girl wearing a mini skirt around her FAMILY. You know, the people who should be caring and supportive of her, and not staring at her to see if they and Grandma can see her underwear. Gross, what is wrong with you?

What do you do? You keep your shut and be warm, welcoming, and supportive of this girl.

At the very least, give her a safe place to try out her teenaged fashion missteps.

No. Our annual December party is family, some close friends, and families who reside in our vacation home neighborhood.

[Anonymous]

These super mini skirts that the young adults are wearing have built in shorts. So your grandma wasn’t looking at her underwear. You all need to relax! Shesh, so uptight, your kids probably don’t want to hang out in that unwelcoming environment

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I'm 44 and I wear mini skirts, OP. I know not to bend down with very short skirts, and I choose pencil minis so that when I walk up and down stairs, people can't see my underwear. In winter I wear fun tights with my skirts.

But a teen has to learn all this. It's NOT your place to remind her in front of guests. She will learn it, don't worry. And accidents happen sometimes - they're not anyone's fault. When someone has a wardrobe malfunction, your job is to pretend it never happened.

And unless you're incredibly conservative, I can't imagine people side-eyeing a woman wearing a mini skirt. Heck, *I* come from a somewhat conservative culture (East Asian), and I get complimented on my outfits by my MIL.

WTH is this?

I haven't worn a dress or a skirt in over 15 years and even I know a pencil mini is a pencil skirt that's short. You know how an A-line skirt goes wide as it goes down from the waist? A pencil skirt does not do that - it stays straight as it goes down from the waist.

[Anonymous]

Only a jerk would judge a teenager for a mini skirt. WHO cares. Honestly.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Teen girls are wearing super short skirts or horribly baggy sweats. It's just where we are right now, and you should zip your lips OP! Can't wait til you have teenagers.

Heh. I've got the baggy sweats teen.

[Anonymous]

The only thing I'd do is to tell the leering old men to keep their eyes UP on on her face, where their eyes belong.

[Anonymous]

Did the invite specify the dress code?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Wow, OP.

She's a teenage girl wearing a mini skirt around her FAMILY. You know, the people who should be caring and supportive of her, and not staring at her to see if they and Grandma can see her underwear. Gross, what is wrong with you?

What do you do? You keep your shut and be warm, welcoming, and supportive of this girl.

At the very least, give her a safe place to try out her teenaged fashion missteps.

No. Our annual December party is family, some close friends, and families who reside in our vacation home neighborhood.

So? Makes no difference. No one is going to look askance at a teen wearing a mini in that situation. You're out of your mind.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:MYOB. This is what teens and college girls wear.

AND WOMEN OF ALL AGES.

[Anonymous]

The only impropriety is yours, OP, for judging a teen wearing a mini.

With relatives like these, who needs enemies?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I will share a story. When I got married my 18 year old niece wore a dress that was very short and very tight. I know for sure people were commenting ...

Short and tight can be fine depending on the wearer's age etc. Or it can look like something strung along to the reception on someone who wokred the batchelor party. Our pet peeve is croop tops and camel toes on old, wrinkly, heavy.

[Anonymous]

Reminds me of this event with the cast of Modern Family. Ariel probably thought the invite said "coozy business casual attire."

[Anonymous]

My MIL once was so horrified by my dress with a deep v (showing cleavage) that she raced to find me a scarf to “cover up.” DH and I had stopped by their house en route to a NYE party and I was wearing formal dress (this was the 1990s) that I suppose she thought inappropriate. I was very embarrassed. For context, I always dressed conservatively and this was only a vaguely sexy dress - I was slender with a larger chest.

[Anonymous]

Same MIL years later with adult DD - pulled her aside at a resort vacation and told her to never wear the bathing suit she chose ever again in front of her - it was a “cheeky” high rise bikini bottom with athletic-jog bra top.